Thank you for all the responses, they are so helpful guys
and i have thought about the fact we work together but if that bothered him wouldn't he just go away then...not try to interact at all. I feel like he can't help himself either.
Just the fact i am treated differently and he is very nervous & shy around me shows me he wants something???
Am i wrong about that???
Also, I never view him as pathetic let me just say that..what decent woman would? No one's perfect, we all have issues to over come.
And..i am shy myself especially around him, the only difference is i will put myself out there, in my own way (approaching him, baking cookies, card, etc.) and i guess on some level he is to.
HE JUST LOOKS SO DARN SCARED AROUND ME!!!!!!! How do i help him get over being so frightened???? It makes me so sad especially when i see how he is with everyone else..i want to cry.
I do feel his head down, anxious, quiet behavior around me only lets me know he has a hard time with his feelings for me and is afraid to be close, too personal or intimate with me...i don't think in all his 30 plus years he has had a serious, loving relationship.
I just don't think that a man who has had that in his life acts this way around a girl????
What throws me is around all the other females in the building; married, single, engaged, pregnant, etc. HE IS FINE is actually funny, wise cracking and very smart!!!!!!!! They looooooove him!!!!!!!!!
He rarely shows me that side of him and IF he does..he is nervous, turns red, repeats himself ALOT...i just don't know anymore what to do.
At least he can talk to me now, he does make eye contact for much longer. The only thing is i get he feeling sometimes when i look at him..he wishes i wouldn't then other times he stares (from afar) and doesn't look away at all!!!! Its like he sees me standing there looking at him and he puts his head down and looks like he want to be invisible but far away he can look for an hour. I don't get it!!!!!
Most days he will walk by me 2 or 3 times to MAKE SURE he says hello to me. Its as if he is on a mission to say it...lol...but then when i approach him to talk he's all serious, can't smile, but is extremely polite, says good morning, holds doors open, etc. its all the awkwardness that makes me wish i never approached him in the first place.
And then a few hours later he will be hanging out wherever i am and just "watching" from across the room..he always has someone with him though, so he has someone to talk to. He doesn't have to be tthere, he's just standing there, with his arms folded and talking to whomever comes by, its just so obvious even to a few coworkers!!!!! They are like "Uhhh why is he in here again..doesn't he have somethign he can go fix?"
Uggggh! I am just at a loss :?