pollypossum
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I try so hard to be likeable, and yet there are always people who intensely dislike me. And they always seem to be the meanest people. I got fired yesterday, the recruiter that had gotten me the contract job told me that all my group complained about me and they say all good things about the other person who started at the same time as me.
We both did the same things in our training and we both felt the same way and said the same things to our coworkers. But they hated me and they like her. The person who was training us complained to the Lead about me. Only because I asked for more to do or learn, and because when they wouldn't give me enough to do and learn I took the initiative to look at more requirements docs (but of the same area) and the other new person did too (we looked together). We both asked them questions about the harder stuff. They were only mad at me. They said those requirements were too hard for us to understand, but neither of us thought they were too hard.
On one hand I know I must be the person in the wrong because apparently they all did not like me, but to me it seems like they are the wrong ones, stupid and mean and unfriendly and clueless about professional behavior toward new teammates.
I wish I could find a job where people liked me. At my last job (1 yr long) I got laid off, I think because my manager didn't like me, but my teammates were okay with me after they got used to me (two actually cried when I got laid off, I treasure that, but in the beginning apparently a lot of people complained about me being annoying asking questions).
But the previous two jobs (19 yrs) seemed to like me, they liked me a lot. But they had a lot of weird people working there, once I ran into the wall trying to avoid being anywhere near another person in the hall, and it was funny because he ran into the wall on his side too. We were both social phobics I guess. Somehow I must have changed into being an annoying person. I think I should quit trying to be likeable and go back to trying to avoid people.
I'm really sad about losing my job and the recruiter saying it was all my fault. A man had come to our cubes and asked how we were doing and I said I was bored and wanted some work to do. He turned out to be some important manager and he went and told on me and that caused my manager to ask my lead why I didn't have work and my lead told him everyone was annoyed by me and I was causing distraction to the team. I think it was really mostly one person, I think the other three would have gotten used to me, but even when they would be nice and give me something to learn, they said they didn't want to interfere with the girl who was training us, so I think she was the strong personality (like the Soup Nazi of trainers). I don't know why she disliked me so much, I only wanted to be productive. It was a very leisurely dawdling company, I like to seize work and produce. Both these failed jobs are in a new city, I wonder if the midwest is just the wrong place for me.
Sorry for rambling. I'm really sad and eating too much now. I suppose I'll feel better in a couple days. I hate to have to mooch off my elderly mom again.
We both did the same things in our training and we both felt the same way and said the same things to our coworkers. But they hated me and they like her. The person who was training us complained to the Lead about me. Only because I asked for more to do or learn, and because when they wouldn't give me enough to do and learn I took the initiative to look at more requirements docs (but of the same area) and the other new person did too (we looked together). We both asked them questions about the harder stuff. They were only mad at me. They said those requirements were too hard for us to understand, but neither of us thought they were too hard.
On one hand I know I must be the person in the wrong because apparently they all did not like me, but to me it seems like they are the wrong ones, stupid and mean and unfriendly and clueless about professional behavior toward new teammates.
I wish I could find a job where people liked me. At my last job (1 yr long) I got laid off, I think because my manager didn't like me, but my teammates were okay with me after they got used to me (two actually cried when I got laid off, I treasure that, but in the beginning apparently a lot of people complained about me being annoying asking questions).
But the previous two jobs (19 yrs) seemed to like me, they liked me a lot. But they had a lot of weird people working there, once I ran into the wall trying to avoid being anywhere near another person in the hall, and it was funny because he ran into the wall on his side too. We were both social phobics I guess. Somehow I must have changed into being an annoying person. I think I should quit trying to be likeable and go back to trying to avoid people.
I'm really sad about losing my job and the recruiter saying it was all my fault. A man had come to our cubes and asked how we were doing and I said I was bored and wanted some work to do. He turned out to be some important manager and he went and told on me and that caused my manager to ask my lead why I didn't have work and my lead told him everyone was annoyed by me and I was causing distraction to the team. I think it was really mostly one person, I think the other three would have gotten used to me, but even when they would be nice and give me something to learn, they said they didn't want to interfere with the girl who was training us, so I think she was the strong personality (like the Soup Nazi of trainers). I don't know why she disliked me so much, I only wanted to be productive. It was a very leisurely dawdling company, I like to seize work and produce. Both these failed jobs are in a new city, I wonder if the midwest is just the wrong place for me.
Sorry for rambling. I'm really sad and eating too much now. I suppose I'll feel better in a couple days. I hate to have to mooch off my elderly mom again.
