where does your SA come from ?

Bo592

Bo592

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where does your SA come from ? My SA come from feeling like a freak because I am single, I feel like a freak, I don`t feel like one of the guys. Everybody talk about relationships and jobs. Everyone always has a story to tell about what they did with friends and I don`t have anything to share. because I don`t have anything interesting to share with anyone I give up trying to Open myself up. The day I remember when I was well was when I thought I was going to get a girlfriend. I thought she would like me . I felt like one of the guys I remember talking without being afraid. I did not even thank about being nervous. But that ended as soon as I find out that she had a boyfriend then my SA came back stronger than ever. I guess what I really want is to feel like one of the guys. If just knew away to find out people names,and who they are before meeting them.that would help alot or know if women are single before I make myself a fool.
 
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Social anxiety comes 99% of the time from childhood experiences and the environment ( parents,teacher,bully etc...) in which the person grew up in/with. My parents came from broken homes and never had the emotional tools to "fully" raise me and my sister. At the same time their own parents also never had the tools to raise children's. So you see its a cycle that keeps on going and going and going.....Fortunately I am breaking that cycle. So can YOU ! :D
 
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mike876

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I believe part of my SA is from being abused, neglected at home, and being bullied at school. But i also believe its kinda in my family as i have it, both my brothers have it, my mom has it and her mom has it.
 
Bo592

Bo592

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I had lots of fighting and yelling going on in my family too. ever one hate me because I don`t help them, but I don`t know the answers to them problems. I been afraid of giving advice to someone because I don`t understand the world myself what can I give or do? My SA I thank comes from not feeling like one of the GUYs. when your one of the guys you have buds to hang out with you feel like a real man instead of a coward. I would just like to feel more normal. I thank SA could come form alot of things people don`t have to live a hard life to have SA. SA could come form that you just have trouble understanding how to communicate and what I go thought is trouble focusing on stuff when I am around people. what I think started that was I got real worried about my appears and my voice would move up and down when I tryed to speak. So I just give up on trying to communicate. Not knowing how to give good advice to someone in need is what stop me now.
 
Graeme1988

Graeme1988

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Being bullied throughout my whole school life. emotionally neglect by my mother, as well as her constantly negative comments which have impacted my self esteem greatly. And generally feeling like an outsider for most of my life.
 
Flowers-Of-Bloom

Flowers-Of-Bloom

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I've always wondered what made me the way I am and I can never put a finger on it. I've realised that most people with SA or AvPD, seem to recall some kind of trigger or experiences that caused it, but I've never really had anything like that. I was never bullied (badly) at school and my parents were good to me. My psychologist always thought it was weird that I'd never had any traumatic experiences or mental abuse.
I think genetics play a role as well as the mental condition of parents when raising children, as parents may have unhelpful coping strategies (such as avoidance) that children learn from. I don't know, it's just a thought.
 
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