emerald_star733
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that i spent too much time with my head in the past or future instead of being in the present moment...
The answer is actually quite simple: If your mindset is that there is / there should be something to regret and that this is significant, you'll find it or even invent it. Those who regret and beat themselves up are those who look into the past and/or worry about the future way too much to the point of abandoning the present moment, the now, which is in fact all they have, so they should simply witness it. The past is in the memory, the future is in the imagination. I call this "getting too involved with the game". However, if your mindset is that you are just passing by, playing and gaining experience, and that after your physical body (which is not the real you!) dissolves you'll eventually come to another experience, you'll hardly find anything to regret. You'll have the eternity and this particular life is just a tiny fragment of it - one of your roles. If this is true, why worry? On the other hand, if this is false, then there is no point to worry, because when you are dead, nothing matters - when there is no you, there is no world. By the way, your body is constantly dying and coming to life again. Your cells die and new ones come. Where is the you from 10 years ago? It's dead. It's all about transition. And all these elaborations vanish with the state of ultimate existence - when one realizes that one is pure awareness beyond the body-consiousness. What and where is "I"? It's not our body and we cannot point it - we even say "my head, my heart, my hand, my thoughts", which are not "I".
Read this: Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj, Life and Teachings
And watch this:
YouTube - Nisargadatta Maharaj - Awaken to the Eternal - 1/6
YouTube - Nisargadatta Maharaj - Awaken to the Eternal - 2/6
YouTube - Nisargadatta Maharaj - Awaken to the Eternal - 3/6
YouTube - Nisargadatta Maharaj - Awaken to the Eternal - 4/6
YouTube - Nisargadatta Maharaj - Awaken to the Eternal - 5
YouTube - Nisargadatta Maharaj - Awaken to the Eternal - 6
Funny, it's only now that modern science barely scratches the surface of what spiritual teachers and philosophers know for centuries.
Much as i would like to deny it, i will certainly regret that i have never ever even spoken to a girl let alone touch one. I will also regret that no girl has ever looked in my way (can't blame girls for it though).
My prayer to the Gods/God/Aliens/Computer simulation program writers or who ever created all of us, is to grant me a peaceful life and sudden/painless death with all my faculties unimpeded. I do not want to be a burden on any one.
But life will not be as we pray it to be, hence i foresee, the following for me (if i make it to 60):-
I will be alone. The people who love me, my parents/grand parents will have all passed away. The people who fed/clothed/carried me/held my hands when i was young will no longer be there, the people whose names i called out for help when i was feeling sick/dizzy will no longer be there, I am writing this with an extremely heavy heart and sad/wet eyes, but it is the truth and i will have to confront it. I will certainly regret being alone, but there is nothing i can do to change it.
I am/will certainly regret the fact that i was born. The state of "not being" is much better that in a state of "being" with pains and suffering only.
I will regret that fact that i have/had no social skills what so ever. I will regret that i was the hot topic/punching bag of all those well to do/confident/able kids at school/college.
I will regret that fact that i am thin/pale/underweight.
Much as i would like to deny it, i will certainly regret that i have never ever even spoken to a girl let alone touch one. I will also regret that no girl has ever looked in my way (can't blame girls for it though).
So, i will be on my death bed alone with nothing but loneliness/sorrow/fear wishing for death to come in a peaceful/painless manner.
:This is too depressing to answer.
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Perhaps a much needed wakeup call? You can turn that around and use it as fuel to drive you