cowboyup
Well-known member
I'm relatively new here, so here's a bit of background before I go too far.
I'm a female in my 40's and have SA as well as panic attacks for about 15 years. I live in Las Vegas so that in itself is over-stimulating (yup go ahead and laugh, I did!) I don't venture out much and have withdrew from friends since I lost my job in 2008 ...
So, here goes! I have known this guy (he's 30) since 2006 and we had great fun together but the past year has been extremely rough because I have been feeling envious of this guy (and I thought I was over this way back in Jr. high??)
Every time I have gotten up the courage to see him, it turns into him bragging about his latest photos he has taken at various events around town, or his latest posts on facebook, or more recently, what he did on Halloween. I feel he kind of rubs it in because he knows that I don't have a job right now (I'm a live in nanny and only get very little $ per month) and I am going back to college to finish my degree, but he will text me asking how I am, hope I have a fun weekend, etc...I just reply with good, hope you are too type thing and now I don't even go into that because I don't like to be around him anymore in "fear" of what he will say he has done, where he has gone, and I don't dare go on facebook because I know he has tons of girls who are close friends and of course that makes me envious because they are pretty, way younger than me, etc. and he is a big flirt on top of being a highly intelligent person.
My question is, why then, am I sitting here(all day in my room) thinking about him, what he is doing, where he is -or has gone this weekend or why I haven't heard from him? This is completely stupid on my part - it is NOT like we are actually dating because he has gotten very frustrated with me as i am notorious for making excuses for not going places, etc.
I hate feeling like this-like I am back in grade school! I feel like such a neurotic child right now! Any suggestions-please!
I'm a female in my 40's and have SA as well as panic attacks for about 15 years. I live in Las Vegas so that in itself is over-stimulating (yup go ahead and laugh, I did!) I don't venture out much and have withdrew from friends since I lost my job in 2008 ...
So, here goes! I have known this guy (he's 30) since 2006 and we had great fun together but the past year has been extremely rough because I have been feeling envious of this guy (and I thought I was over this way back in Jr. high??)
Every time I have gotten up the courage to see him, it turns into him bragging about his latest photos he has taken at various events around town, or his latest posts on facebook, or more recently, what he did on Halloween. I feel he kind of rubs it in because he knows that I don't have a job right now (I'm a live in nanny and only get very little $ per month) and I am going back to college to finish my degree, but he will text me asking how I am, hope I have a fun weekend, etc...I just reply with good, hope you are too type thing and now I don't even go into that because I don't like to be around him anymore in "fear" of what he will say he has done, where he has gone, and I don't dare go on facebook because I know he has tons of girls who are close friends and of course that makes me envious because they are pretty, way younger than me, etc. and he is a big flirt on top of being a highly intelligent person.
My question is, why then, am I sitting here(all day in my room) thinking about him, what he is doing, where he is -or has gone this weekend or why I haven't heard from him? This is completely stupid on my part - it is NOT like we are actually dating because he has gotten very frustrated with me as i am notorious for making excuses for not going places, etc.
I hate feeling like this-like I am back in grade school! I feel like such a neurotic child right now! Any suggestions-please!