I think there is a fine line between coddling and invalidating ones feelings. Absolutely there is dis-empowerment by indulging in ones negativity, I certainly dont disagree with you there. However, I have always felt that if people here express themselves by creating threads such as these, then they do so for a reason - by normalizing and and expressing any negative emotion or beliefs they have about themselves allows people perhaps identify and feel that they what they are feeling is OK. If people don't want to see a different perspective - then they do so, because they cant. or most likely - the are not ready to. Patience is more paramount than frustration - considering that this forum is from all walks of life, with all different kinds of suffering, no one is fully going to completely understand what another person is feeling or going through.