What's been your worst social situation?
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DanFC
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I usually tend to forget them on purpose, but at least the most recent one was when I visited back home last time. Now, I have two kinds of friends over there: one type knows me really well in all my craziness, the others think I'm a little off but cool and distant. Well, one day my parents convinced me to play tennis with them, and one of the few (like, literally, out of 2 or 3) friends I have left in the latter category saw me and said hi and then I stuttered and said hi back and it was just really embarrassing because she was with this other nice looking girl and gahh. Sorry for rambling.
agoraphobickatie
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there are a lot of things from the past that don't really come to mind very easily, i think i'm good at 'moving on' or whatever you want to call it... but there are a lot of times from my past where i had good times, and i think about it now and i'm like "holy sh1t, how did i survive that?!" haha.. like going to a big college football game when i was in 9th grade, i had a great time and wasn't panicky then.. now i'm like, omg i couldn't even set foot near a big stadium full of people! also, i remember going to the lake (about an hour away) with friends and hanging out on the boat/jet skis all day.. going anywhere long distance (yes, even just 1 hour) with anyone other than either of my parents freaks me out now! haha.. even fairly simple everyday things, like when i used to go to college or have a job.. it's hard to think now that i used to do all that and be fine.. kinda weird! hopefully i'll be back there someday 
Lorraine Manca
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music performances, solos were bad but playing with other people was worse. i would worry so much about letting the group down, it was really excruciating every time. once a guy even mocked the way i played on his own violin exaggerating my bad habits, that was also fun
CC81
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hmm, I think the worse was a few years ago when I was at the local pub one night. A girl who'd shown interest in me (and I, her) offered me taxi ride down town. It started off ok, we made a bit of small talk but for the rest of the trip (around 20 mins) it was just excruciatingly awkward, neither of us talked and I had no idea what to say or act around a pretty girl. She ditched me as soon as we got down there to add to further embarrassment.
Another time was a couple of years ago when I had to make a speech in front of my graphic design class. It only had to go for a couple of minutes but I was so nervous. I could hardly look at people and was shaking uncontrollably and was highly embarrassed. I think most of my classmates understood as I was the 'quiet' one but it was still a blow to my confidence.
Another time was a couple of years ago when I had to make a speech in front of my graphic design class. It only had to go for a couple of minutes but I was so nervous. I could hardly look at people and was shaking uncontrollably and was highly embarrassed. I think most of my classmates understood as I was the 'quiet' one but it was still a blow to my confidence.
Newtype
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Time: July 2007
Place: My friend's house
Occasion: Elementary school reunion organized on Facebook
A pretty girl arrives and automatically comes up to me. A conversation starts.
Girl: Wow, you're beautiful!
My thoughts: What the hell? She didn't even say hello. Who starts a conversation like that?
Me: Thank you... You're beautiful too =)
Girl: How have you been? (Touches my bicep with her fist)
My thoughts: AAAAHHHH!!! SHE TOUCHED ME!!! (My leg starts shaking like crazy)
Me: I've been good, thank you. And you? (I smile)
Girl: I'm good too =)
*Awkward silence*
My thoughts: Oh ****, I gotta say something quick!
Me: So, what are you currently doing?
Girl: I wanna study to become a journalist!
Me: Really? That's good!
Girl: And you?
Me: I wanna go to university but I still don't know in what.
My thoughts: Oh ****, she's gonna think I'm some loser now because I don't know what I wanna do in life.
*Awkward silence*
My thoughts: NO!!! I can't find anything to say!!! She must think I'm a freak!
*More awkward silence*
Girl finally says goodbye and leaves. I made myself look like a total idiot. My friend who saw the whole thing came up to me and laughed at me. He said I blew it. I was depressed after that. I spent the rest of the night sitting on a chair, looking at everyone having fun, just waiting for the party to end. After that, I refuse to talk to another girl again.
Place: My friend's house
Occasion: Elementary school reunion organized on Facebook
A pretty girl arrives and automatically comes up to me. A conversation starts.
Girl: Wow, you're beautiful!
My thoughts: What the hell? She didn't even say hello. Who starts a conversation like that?
Me: Thank you... You're beautiful too =)
Girl: How have you been? (Touches my bicep with her fist)
My thoughts: AAAAHHHH!!! SHE TOUCHED ME!!! (My leg starts shaking like crazy)
Me: I've been good, thank you. And you? (I smile)
Girl: I'm good too =)
*Awkward silence*
My thoughts: Oh ****, I gotta say something quick!
Me: So, what are you currently doing?
Girl: I wanna study to become a journalist!
Me: Really? That's good!
Girl: And you?
Me: I wanna go to university but I still don't know in what.
My thoughts: Oh ****, she's gonna think I'm some loser now because I don't know what I wanna do in life.
*Awkward silence*
My thoughts: NO!!! I can't find anything to say!!! She must think I'm a freak!
*More awkward silence*
Girl finally says goodbye and leaves. I made myself look like a total idiot. My friend who saw the whole thing came up to me and laughed at me. He said I blew it. I was depressed after that. I spent the rest of the night sitting on a chair, looking at everyone having fun, just waiting for the party to end. After that, I refuse to talk to another girl again.
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CC81
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oh man I feel your pain. One of the hardest things I find about socialising is thinking of what to say in conversations, especially with small talk.
Kat
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there are a lot of things from the past that don't really come to mind very easily, i think i'm good at 'moving on' or whatever you want to call it... but there are a lot of times from my past where i had good times, and i think about it now and i'm like "holy sh1t, how did i survive that?!" haha.. like going to a big college football game when i was in 9th grade, i had a great time and wasn't panicky then.. now i'm like, omg i couldn't even set foot near a big stadium full of people! also, i remember going to the lake (about an hour away) with friends and hanging out on the boat/jet skis all day.. going anywhere long distance (yes, even just 1 hour) with anyone other than either of my parents freaks me out now! haha.. even fairly simple everyday things, like when i used to go to college or have a job.. it's hard to think now that i used to do all that and be fine.. kinda weird! hopefully i'll be back there someday
yeah, I know what you mean about how did I survive that? I have been in plays sung on stage my anxiety was just as bad then as it is now and I still struggle to order a pizza over the phone.
Well, not exactly a social situation, but something that happened in public. I was sitting for the Goethe examinations in the German language and the examinations took place in a very large hall of a hotel. During the examinations everyone was so silent (duh!), but my stomach decided not to be. It made so much noise as if I was farting, but I wasn't and it was so loud and embarassing that the only thing I could do is to turn the sheets of paper everytime it decided to make noise pretending I had finished with the previous page moving on to the next even though I hadn't and doing as much noise as I could with them. It was so embarassing...
I'm Not There
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About 5 years ago, my girlfriend (first, and as of today only one I've ever had) invited me over to her house. We had been together for a month and obviously she already found out about my shyness and stuff, but she had told me before that she didn't mind that much and that the shyness would surely pass. Anyways, at her house we sat down next to eachother on her couch, with about half a metre in between us ... and of course nothing happened. We just sat there, like that, for half an hour.
Eventually she grabbed her cell phone and called what I thought to be was one of her girlfriends. I heard her saying things like "... and he hasn't even kissed me yet, ... he just sits there ignoring me ..." etc. At that moment I stood up and started wandering through her house because I couldn't stand the awkwardness anymore. After another painful 15 minutes or so she came up to me and gave me a goodbye hug, after which I left. She broke up with me the following day.
Ever since then I'm afraid of the same situation occurring again when I'd have another girlfriend.
Eventually she grabbed her cell phone and called what I thought to be was one of her girlfriends. I heard her saying things like "... and he hasn't even kissed me yet, ... he just sits there ignoring me ..." etc. At that moment I stood up and started wandering through her house because I couldn't stand the awkwardness anymore. After another painful 15 minutes or so she came up to me and gave me a goodbye hug, after which I left. She broke up with me the following day.
Ever since then I'm afraid of the same situation occurring again when I'd have another girlfriend.
Newtype
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Damn, I feel your pain. I hate it when girlfriends say they understand you or like you how you are but they don't help you when they see you're struggling. They just stand there, like the man has to do EVERYTHING. Instead of picking up the phone, she could have done something instead! How impolite.
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Elad
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Yeah thats one of the most annoying things, because after it happens you get paranoid about how your face must be looking to people.
Newtype
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Ah man, that sucks. I don't know which one is worse. In high school I was sharpening my pencil with scissors under my desk and some guy I knew turned around and screamed: "Hey! Sébastien is masturbating under his desk!" The whole class turned around... I showed him the pencil and the scissors and told him to stfu.
This happens sometimes...I'll try to introduce myself and stutter really bad. I always stutter on my name, sometimes are worse than other times. Then the other person laughs and says "did you forget?" They don't mean any harm in it, but I usually clam up after that and sometimes go off and cry.
This happened at a party DH and I went to last weekend. The host introduced each other to everyone, which I was very grateful for...but then a girl forgot my name. So I tried to tell her, had a horrible time because everyone was listening to me....the host finally ended up saying it everyone laughed and said things like "there are so many new people and names here she forgot her own". That was so horrible, I smiled looked down at my food and tried really really hard not to cry.
This happened at a party DH and I went to last weekend. The host introduced each other to everyone, which I was very grateful for...but then a girl forgot my name. So I tried to tell her, had a horrible time because everyone was listening to me....the host finally ended up saying it everyone laughed and said things like "there are so many new people and names here she forgot her own". That was so horrible, I smiled looked down at my food and tried really really hard not to cry.