What part of SA holds you back most?

danstelter

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What part of SA holds you back the most? In the past, for me it was more perceived social blunders and goofy looks from others when I wasn't saying things quite right or whatever. Now, it is more of a fear of failure. Like, I have certain expectations for a situation, and I am worried that things will simply not happen, generally because of something small on part. For example, I get afraid that I will have to drop a class at college because I can't find a parking spot on campus and therefore won't get to class on time and therefore will have to drop because I was not present on time. What about others here?
 

cyberboy82

Member
Biggest thing about SA that effects my life is the physical symptoms, hands shaking, sweating and muscle spasms. If I didn’t have physical symptoms SA would have very minimal effects on my life.
 

Sacrament

Well-known member
Blushing/flushing.

And also my irrational fear of people's opinions/getting accepted/fear of rejection and so forth, which work hand in hand with low self-esteem and confidence.
 

this_portrait

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For me, my negative thoughts always hold me back, and also my tendency to 'mind-read' (like when I think that others are thinking certain things about me).
 
Biggest thing about SA that effects my life is the physical symptoms, hands shaking, sweating and muscle spasms. If I didn’t have physical symptoms SA would have very minimal effects on my life.

I think that might apply to me too, with the exception of having GAD, which makes me fear everyday life, and not being able to think of what to say to people. Minus those things out and I'd be A OK. But I wish it were that easy.
 

crestfallen.

Active member
For me, my negative thoughts always hold me back, and also my tendency to 'mind-read' (like when I think that others are thinking certain things about me).

Same here. It's always been easy for me to assume people think the worst of me, even to the point where I think that the closest friends I've had are secretly masking their contempt for me.

Another part of SA that holds me back is the fear that my nervousness/unease will be so obvious that others (friends and strangers alike)will notice it, and will decide to distance themselves...which'll cause me to feel even worse.
 

PennyLane

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Not having friends
Saying no to social activities, therefore being lonely and reaffirming my belief im not good enough.
 

slimjim119

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The part of SA that holds me back most are my hands trembling and people noticing my weaknesses. Also having anxiety anticipating some social event weeks or months in advance. One I know alot of people will be attending.
 

Rodney

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Feeling that I constantly stick out like a sore thumb/ feeling that I look disgusting/ everything I say is stupid and pointless/ taking what people say too seriously/ Afraid of running into people I know
 

sorrow1

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in the past it was wanting to do the things i wanted to do like, travelling, going to gigs. going to the cinema etc. but not doing them because a few people i dont know very well were going along and i was too afraid to meet them so I would make excuses not to go. I must of missed out on so much in the past. now I just say screw it and go or else I just swallow my pride and go to these places on my own.
 

Rxqueen

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I'd have to say my fear of people in general holds me back the most because my fear leads to hatred which leads me to self hatred, which leads me to disassociate myself from everyone around me. I tend to be extremely quiet which leads people to think I'm either mentally ill or a stuck up bitch. Either way my fear of people and what they think of me is definitely what holds me back the most.
 

cobalt_bluester

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Constantly thinking about and giving good and natural eye contact in a correct and proper fashion is the biggest problem to me. It is really the one thing above all that is holding me back in my life.
 
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