What Is Your Self-Worth Based On?
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Jake123
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Well okay, if you say so. That doesn't sound like social phobia to me.
Well, I'm socially phobic and anxious being around people because I hate them, I can't stand them, and I can't relate to them at all.
agoraphobickatie
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i kind of agree with barry, my self worth is based on what i feel about myself... in the same sense that some can see themselves as valuable/awesome/handsome/whatever whether other people think that or not, i see myself as one way that most others don't agree with... when i (had a life) and could go out in public, i couldn't go to the mall without some random ass person telling me they liked my hair or my outfit or that i was pretty or whatever.. but those compliments do absolutely nothing for my self-esteem.. good or bad, they just don't affect(effect?) me.. i have an image in my head of what i'd like to be, and i'm just not it... i understand that other people find me attractive or what have you, but it's just now how i feel, and just because they do doesn't mean i'll think that way...... i feel that i might just have to change my exterior (which is the only thing i seem to dislike) to actually be happy with my looks..
and another point.. mr. awesome joe might think he's the greatest thing since sliced bread, when everyone else really just thinks/knows he's a jackass... which is he really? what everyone truly thinks about him is right, and HE is the jackass who thinks he's the shit, haha... what he thinks about himself certainly doesn't change the opinion of others.. just my two cents
and another point.. mr. awesome joe might think he's the greatest thing since sliced bread, when everyone else really just thinks/knows he's a jackass... which is he really? what everyone truly thinks about him is right, and HE is the jackass who thinks he's the shit, haha... what he thinks about himself certainly doesn't change the opinion of others.. just my two cents
I implore you to dig deeper than that. Look at my example.
i kind of agree with barry, my self worth is based on what i feel about myself... in the same sense that some can see themselves as valuable/awesome/handsome/whatever whether other people think that or not, i see myself as one way that most others don't agree with... when i (had a life) and could go out in public, i couldn't go to the mall without some random ass person telling me they liked my hair or my outfit or that i was pretty or whatever.. but those compliments do absolutely nothing for my self-esteem.. good or bad, they just don't affect(effect?) me.. i have an image in my head of what i'd like to be, and i'm just not it... i understand that other people find me attractive or what have you, but it's just now how i feel, and just because they do doesn't mean i'll think that way...... i feel that i might just have to change my exterior (which is the only thing i seem to dislike) to actually be happy with my looks..
and another point.. mr. awesome joe might think he's the greatest thing since sliced bread, when everyone else really just thinks/knows he's a jackass... which is he really? what everyone truly thinks about him is right, and HE is the jackass who thinks he's the shit, haha... what he thinks about himself certainly doesn't change the opinion of others.. just my two cents
How come all of the hot girls on this site dislike their appearance?
Do you find then you have the opposite problem from social phobes, in that you cannot absorb what other people think about you even when it fits with the evidence better than your own opinion? This is interesting.As for my theory about self-esteem, Im not suggesting being at odds with the evidence, that would be delusional. But the opinions of others are highly arbitrary, based on insufficient information, and sometimes blatently intolerant. Their opinions about you are likely to be mistaken. At any rate, its not their opinions or the "truth" that matters, it's what you think of your self-image that matters. No one is on this site because they don't have friends or a life, they are here because they have a phobia / Panic attacks from which they desperately seek salvation. Once the anxiety disorder is vanquished they will find ways to overcome whatever other "deficits" they may possess.
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