What if you don't become better ? what would you do

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Clown

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What would you do if you are in your mids 30's and realised that you don't have become better and you don't see it become better ?

1. Live socially retarted/depressed and anxious for the rest of your life and accept it.

2. suffer some years at work and then leave with the money everyone behind you and live by yourself on some far away island

3. realise that life sucks and that you have fight enough and give up - suicide


Be really honest what of the 3 options would you choose if you ''DON"t become better
 
WeirdyMcGee

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Clown said:
1. Live socially retarted/depressed and anxious for the rest of your life and accept it.
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It is very possible to live as a 'socially retarded' person without being depressed or anxious. It's called: being happy with who you are even if you are shy.

My agoraphobia will probably never fully go away, as this is the second time it has taken over my short life.
My father has been agoraphobic since he was my age, though--now he is 52 and he is still happy being on his own, doing his own thing.
He is *happy* the way he is, even if he is 'strange' and anxious around people.
I hope that someday I can be too.
 
cola junky

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i'm not there yet but i've thought about those three options before....

i saw this movie: "into the wild":it's a true story about a 23 yr old guy who left society and went living on his on in alaska
(excelent movie by the way...you should see it).

that movie inspired me and i decided that when i hit rock bottom i'll pack up my stuff and go live on my own away from people....

i made that descision when i was down & depressed....
now i know that i should never give up and i should try to get out of this situation as long as i'm alive.....
 
Arthur_Dent

Arthur_Dent

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I haven't made any serious attempt to get better, as a matter of fact, I haven't even been diagnosed. So first, I'll have to leave my house, live on my own, get diagnosed, get a treatment, and then see if I become better or not.

Don't wanna think about not getting better eventually.
 
Purplepixies

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Same here, No diagnose. I just know what I am. I know I got SA.
But I can't live away from society. I depend too much on it. Can't live w/o internet.
Or fast food or supermarkets. Just really think about it. Can you? Can you live without electricity and a nice shower? And a working toilet? HOW ABOUT TOILET PAPER D:
Nop. Big Cities is where my life is at.
 
Beatmetrics

Beatmetrics

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Option number 4 realize that life doesn't get any better than this and take from every person you meet, every experience you go through, everything you see, and everything you hear. Take from those something small yet worthy of use in your life.
 
Panther

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cola junky said:
i saw this movie: "into the wild":it's a true story about a 23 yr old guy who left society and went living on his on in alaska
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i love that film too :) yeah id like to say number two but id just get too lonely, so im just hoping things will get better.
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kilojoule

kilojoule

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If I went to an island I'd probably start getting anxious about sand or water or air or something you cant run away from your problems
 
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DimBulb

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This question is so applicable to me.

My situation is not going to improve. I will be lonely,sad and in a pathetic situation. All the physical/mental abuse, inferiority complex, lack of social skills, unhealthy/ugly looks has taken a deep toll/scar on my weak physical/mental psyche.

I think the only option for me as i age and become more weak physically, with no one to look after would be suicide. I am already thinking about this. I dread the time, when an age stricken me, alone in the house, with no one to give even a cup of water........ I am petrified when i think of this. And yes, no one will miss me.

Euthanasia is not legal in my place.
 
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Deus_Ex_Lemur

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I'm sorry, but is 30 that old? It's not. If by 30 you aren't where you want to be and feel much as you did at 25 or even 20, it's not the end of the world. You're just frakin' 30, sorry. You have lots of life to live. If you deduce it down to 3 miserable answers, then it might be hopeless for you.

Sorry for the strong words, but, we gotta get a BIT more positive. I totally have thought of these 3 answers for a while before ever posted. I'm half way to 30 now, and it's scary to think one can be 30 and still be miserable with their issues. But at the end of the day it comes down to YOU. Hard as it'll be/is, only YOU have the power to DO for yourself.

BUT - 30 is a fresh start. 30 is young. *edit* I see you said mid-30s, well STILL. There's still so much more to do. And unless you're nearing 30 or mid 30s, think of NOW, and make sure you don't get to a point of "only" choosing these 3 answers, which is one side of what should be there =D
 
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Clown

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Im still 20 but wondering about what the future will bring for me, and don't want to come the point in my late 30's that I still suffering from this, its just frustrating because before my SA I was the opposite and was very social, and now everyone sees me probably as some autistic person ...-_-' won't say that if you have autisme that its bad, but if people see you as that while your actually very social it just sucks.
I find my self a shame to my old friends, my family everyone who thinks that this is the way I am...
 
EscapeArtist

EscapeArtist

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I didn't read anything except the title but it all relies upon how much power you give to those thoughts, those are the thoughts that become your future, replace them! Get them out of there
 
BlueDays

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I am already past my "mid 30's" and can't see any end to my SA or depression. I have had them so long and tried everything I can (improved and regressed so many times I've lost count) that I have just come to accept that it will be with me until death.

So option 1. applies in my case.

Clown said:
1. Live socially retarted/depressed and anxious for the rest of your life and accept it.
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