okay, I'm almost 17, and I my doc says that with maturity SA and ocpd passes. but I'm not getting the message I'm suppose to be, the enlightment that I'm suppose to get, some thoughts that will "make me normal" but I see a lot of guys here are older and they still have the SA so I don't get it!!!! any replies, pls...=)
what does maturity have to do with SA??
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Queen_Of_Pain
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Sounds like he'd just assuming you'll grow out of it, which you may.. but I'd get a second opinion if I were you, because like you say, some people never loose SA or any other problems by maturing.
dooby-duck
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They are probably trying to reassure you that in time you can get over it. I don't think it will pass on its own just because you have got older, you have to overcome it somehow, make it less powerful. I'm nearly 30 now and have not grown out of it. Some things have improved but some have got worse.
ahm he's petty good, on of the best in the country... and I'm exposing myself it;s just my wish to be the best in everything.... be the smartest the funniest which has to do more with my ocpd, but outta that comes the SA...
Lonelykitsune
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doubt its true,mins just ge4tting wors and worse as i grow.
zlench
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Over the 18 Months my SA has gone from the point where I couldn't leave home and barely manage converstation with people. To being to work and be able to appoarch people but I still have a lot of anxeity. I don't know if it has anything to do with age but I was truely fed up with making excuses for not having a life and not doing anything about it.
yea, my doc said that u just get tired of it, and get mad at rself and start thinking who the f... are they to judge me???
untouched_soul
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I disagree with what your doc is telling you because there's 38 year olds out there with sp and I really feel like maturity has nothing to do with it. There's also people with phobias of cotton balls and even JELL-O and they are wayy past maturity level which makes me really disagree with your doctor saying maturity has everything to do with sp 
xSleepy
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Well it sounds like crap to me. I dont know what your doctor meant by "mature". Gaining life experience maybe and learning from them, which might or might not make you less anxious...? Or he's talking about your personality and just the kind of person you are?
Id be pretty upset if my doctor told me that. I dont need to be "mature" i need to learn to control my anxiety and how to deal with certain situations that make me anxious.
Id be pretty upset if my doctor told me that. I dont need to be "mature" i need to learn to control my anxiety and how to deal with certain situations that make me anxious.
Queen_Of_Pain
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Well then maybe you should have a chat with him if what he said bothered you. Even the best doctors can make a slightly wrong diagnosis.
I'm no expert but maybe if the SA is caused by the OCPD, and your OCPD gets a lot better then the social anxiety may well lessen as you get older like he suggested.. but, surely it takes quite a few assesments to reach that conclusion? idk..it just sounds from the way you described like he made an on the spot decision.
cyberboy82
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Well I'm almost 30 and it just keeps getting worse...
Danfalc
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Just because someone is one of the best doesnt mean they are always right,he can make an educated guess,but he doesnt know how you feel deep inside,only you do.
Even if your current problems are somthing which could pass with time,doesnt mean they arnt an issue for you now.Im only saying this because I think you deserve more help than simply being told its a phase you will grow out of.
slimjim119
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The doctor is just trying to be optimistic about it like most people would. They always assume you will grow out of shyness. But everyone is different and unfortunately some people progress into SA.
cosmosis
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It sounds like it. But doctors are not paid to be optimistic. That's the job of mothers. They should atleast attempt to help you, especially at 17 when most thought patterns are already set and hardened. Not many people I know change significantly by simply maturing after 17. You might be lucky, but its always good to know your options and understand yourself better as young as possible to get the most out of life. I would avoid prescription drugs if at all possible.
Anubis
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I think the doctor is right and wrong. Maturity does help you become less afraid of the world. But maturity does not come with "simply growing up".
Because I know 10 year olds who are more mature than my 23-year old ass. Sure, I can probably handle more of an academic workload than them (and pay bills), but they leave me in the dust when it comes to shouldering more responsibility (and problems) in proportion to their age than I ever could.
Because I know 10 year olds who are more mature than my 23-year old ass. Sure, I can probably handle more of an academic workload than them (and pay bills), but they leave me in the dust when it comes to shouldering more responsibility (and problems) in proportion to their age than I ever could.
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I totally agree, but maybe he thinks it's about the ocpd and then when I grow outta that(hopefully) this will come to terms. I feel like he thinks I'm very intelligent and that I'm suppose to get something.. like an enlightment... or some thoughts that will help... don't know.. cause I can say hi to people normally, no shaking, can look them in the eyes and say some stuff, but don't have a lot to say, cause I'm always thinking I have to say the best, this has both do to with SA and ocpd and I didn't develope this kind of thinking outta nowhere.. I used to be a very funny person, now I doubt that I have the basic human associations.. it's killing meeee....
Darker Than Black
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I used to have mild turrets syndrome, now its almost gone, I'm 19, and I've learned to control it, so is my OCD, its less now than before, and so is my SAD...well, not that much as my other symptoms..but u get the idea