What does it mean to you?

[lunarla]

What is a "prude" to you? Like, as far as a person goes. I've been thinking about this a lot lately and realize that many people, especially (solely?) ones around my age would see me and my way of thinking as very prude-like. I'm not interested in casually hooking up with people. At all. In any way. I don't think I'll ever be that person and I'm okay with that. But at the same time, it's like young people are expected to make those kinds of mistakes. Or maybe they're probably not even seen as mistakes. It's not as if I'm really any better for what my values are right now (not to say people who casually hook up have terrible values). I'm starting to think that maybe myyyyyy view on it is the immature one and reaaaally, really naive of me. And that seeing it as not such a big deal is more mature. And that maybe I'll grow out of this as I get older. Even though that's not something I really wanna do.

sidenote/toomuchinfo: it's not as though I'm not sexual, I just see anything like that being veryyyyyy exclusive.

It's like I already think of things like that from such a defined and solidified way, and that maybe that's a bit counterproductive and naive - denying myself of normal, young-person experiences in my life? I really hope that it's not true, but I'm starting to second guess it.

I dunno. Congratulations if you can make sense of that and form a response.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

If you come across one person who really makes you truly happy, that's all that really matters. It's more than most people find anyway, no matter how many people they've been with.

 

[coyote]

everyone has their own values

"right" and "wrong" are constructs of the human mind, and therefore entirely subjective

you're only a "prude" if you insist on wagging your finger at others that you disapprove of

 

[AGR]

I agree that everyone has their own values,there is no way to tell who is more mature about this I think,only people think they can,I have been critisized a lot or made fun of,called a fool for not been promiscuous,saying that I dont live my life to the fullest,when some girls used to like me,what they fail to realize is that this is their way of doing,for me it would do nothing, I would prefer to find that special someone and only her,this would be my way of living my live to the fullest.

 

[lunarla]

All true things said. I wouldn't say I necessarily judge others for being more casual with their intimate experiences, it's just that I'm starting to notice such a separation between how most people around my age view it, and how I see it. And then overanalyzing it from there which I'm quite skilled at doing. There's only one person who I'd probably judge for being like that, and that's because I expect different from him. (Note: I said "different" and not "better")

 

[lunarla]

Conveniently stumbled across quote:

Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. Aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something.
- Henry David Thorea

Somewhat recent events and realizing that I don't really know someone has led me to think warped thoughts about my own morality against others. Futile, really. Not something I should be giving quite as much thought as I have.

 

[hoddesdon]

everyone has their own values

"right" and "wrong" are constructs of the human mind, and therefore entirely subjective

you're only a "prude" if you insist on wagging your finger at others that you disapprove of

No, "right" and "wrong" are not constructs of the mind. They have an independent and objective existence.

Wanting to reserve everything for yourself (or hog something), in excess of what you need, excluding everyone else, is seen as wrong. In physics, heat migrates from objects having more heat to those having less heat. So the heat is shared out. If it worked the other way around, and a hot object could reserve all the heat for itself (or hog all the heat) by attracting whatever heat colder objects have, you would end up with one unbelievably hot object in the universe, and everything else would be unbelievably cold. That would not be a workable universe.

So "good" works, and "wrong" leads to its own destruction.

 

[awkwardamanda]

I don't think that not wanting casual sex makes you a prude. I always thought prudes just aren't very adventurous when it comes to sexual acts and even other forms of physical contact, like touching each other or just making out. Prudes may have the attitude that certain things are dirty or wrong.

 

[panicsurvivor]

everyone has their own values

"right" and "wrong" are constructs of the human mind, and therefore entirely subjective

you're only a "prude" if you insist on wagging your finger at others that you disapprove of

well said!!!!!!!

 

[panicsurvivor]

No, "right" and "wrong" are not constructs of the mind. They have an independent and objective existence.

Wanting to reserve everything for yourself (or hog something), in excess of what you need, excluding everyone else, is seen as wrong. In physics, heat migrates from objects having more heat to those having less heat. So the heat is shared out. If it worked the other way around, and a hot object could reserve all the heat for itself (or hog all the heat) by attracting whatever heat colder objects have, you would end up with one unbelievably hot object in the universe, and everything else would be unbelievably cold. That would not be a workable universe.

So "good" works, and "wrong" leads to its own destruction.

What on earth does physics have to do with this? Physics are constant. There is nothing subjective about them. You cannot argue that they are wrong. Moral issues of right and wrong are not. I am sorry sir I just find nothing relevant in this post to what the OP was asking. Are you telling them that there is a right answer to their question? Because you didn't give it to them. I don't get it.

 

[panicsurvivor]

Don't worry about this. Sex is wonderful, in my mind it is one of the best things in life. It is not going to be wonderful however if you are going about it in an unsure matter. Their is nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex. It is different for everyone. If you want to have sex all the time then do it, if you are comfortable with that. Don't let anyone tell you that it is wrong. It is none of their business, and their opinion doesn't matter. The opposite is true too. More so actually. If you don't feel comfortable having sex, then don't do it. Anyone who calls you a prude for this is a total jerk. Trying to force someone into having sex is one of the worst things you can do.
I didn't ask how old you are. If you are a teenager, then think really hard about throwing yourself around for the wrong reasons.
Sex is a natural thing, and it is a different journey for us all. Just remember that word "natural" if it doesn't feel natural to you than don't do it. Unless you are really young, then no one else has anything to say about it but you. So don't let them.