What are your relationships like?
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awkwardamanda
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Nonexistent.
EscapeArtist
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^That's sad. Nobody? Mom? Dad? Sibling?
With my younger sister, it's pretty good. We're the closest people to eachother, and we've been close all of our lives. The only thing that bugs me is that she doesn't listen to anything I say unless I'm talking about her... Even in those desperate moments. But, she's a sweetie and my love. I try to be the best I can be for her, she doesn't have anybody else to look up to.
Older sister: she's out all the time, I feel like I don't know her.
Mom: I am not very pleased with her lately. She wakes up, pops some ritalin, prozac, other things, and becomes a different person. Pretty much she mopes in depression the rest of the day, and... she's not very nice. Example: I could say something like mom, I feel lonely, and she might say something like "Why are you always so negative and in a bad mood?" then drinks and smokes the day away. I try and be nocturnal to avoid her.
Dad I haven't spoken to in.. a year? Or wait no I spoke to him a few months ago...
Cats haven't been very nice to me lately =[
With my younger sister, it's pretty good. We're the closest people to eachother, and we've been close all of our lives. The only thing that bugs me is that she doesn't listen to anything I say unless I'm talking about her... Even in those desperate moments. But, she's a sweetie and my love. I try to be the best I can be for her, she doesn't have anybody else to look up to.
Older sister: she's out all the time, I feel like I don't know her.
Mom: I am not very pleased with her lately. She wakes up, pops some ritalin, prozac, other things, and becomes a different person. Pretty much she mopes in depression the rest of the day, and... she's not very nice. Example: I could say something like mom, I feel lonely, and she might say something like "Why are you always so negative and in a bad mood?" then drinks and smokes the day away. I try and be nocturnal to avoid her.
Dad I haven't spoken to in.. a year? Or wait no I spoke to him a few months ago...
Cats haven't been very nice to me lately =[
kihira
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Awkward. I'm coming to realise that I'm probably a difficult person to live with, in the past at least. My relationships are not bad, but not terrific either. They have probaly improved since finding this site as its acting like glue to put the broken parts of me back together, and it is filling in so many gaps in my story - improving awareness of self and others, I guess. Making a big effort to keep a good connection with my teenage children; its so hard to see them turn from kids into adults. Having wonderous little people around to care for was a beautiful time.
kihira
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This is no good - what have they been doing? Do you know the eye blink trick to use get on well with cats?
awkwardamanda
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Well, practically. I live with my brother and parents. It's not that we don't get along but I'm not exactly close with them. Nor do I want to be. I keep my distance. I don't want any deep, emotional connection with anybody. I don't like people to know too much about me. It's just the way I am. As for friends, well, I've only got two and I'm not very close with them either. I hardly see them. We've been growing apart cause I never really feel like going out.
/likely have AvPD here:
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EscapeArtist
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They've been jumping on my legs and biting me
hungry fat kitties. There's an eye blink trick? I can use it to subliminally program them to like me? Heh
EscapeArtist
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Well, practically. I live with my brother and parents. It's not that we don't get along but I'm not exactly close with them. Nor do I want to be. I keep my distance. I don't want any deep, emotional connection with anybody. I don't like people to know too much about me. It's just the way I am. As for friends, well, I've only got two and I'm not very close with them either. I hardly see them. We've been growing apart cause I never really feel like going out.
/likely have AvPD here:
Aw. I think it's necessary every human have a deep emotional connection at least with one other person. I have a partial one... but not really.. so I shouldn't be talking I guess. Don't you ever feel more emotionally alone than you'd like to be? Maybe here's a good place to practice ?
edit: by practice, I mean practice expressing emotion to others
kihira
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They've been jumping on my legs and biting me
Yep, cats say "I like you" to each other by doing a sort of slow half blink at each other. The opposite is a wide eyed stare. If you do the slow half blink at even random cats they usually do one back and wont eat you.
awkwardamanda
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Well I haven't found the right person for that yet. It may happen someday. It may not. And it may be in a friend or it may be in a romantic relationship. I've yet to meet someone who really gets me. Between family, real life friends, and people I've met online, I find I can talk to different people about different things, but there's no one person I have enough in common with and can talk to about almost anything. So until I meet someone I feel comfortable with, my walls are up high.
EscapeArtist
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I understand very well what you mean.
Obstacle 1
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I tend to keep everyone at a distance, I dont share much good or bad.. even the few people I consider close, they are what I would call down the river in terms of information.. occasionally they get flooded, occasionally it dries up
I don't have any sort of relationship with my siblings or brothers, only with my mom slightly. That's because she treats like a normal human being. Though, I'm not a momma's boy, let me make that clear right away.
I'm not hero in the romance department either. It's a miracle that I'm even in a relationship.
The only so-called ''healthy relationship'' I have is with my cat. How sad is that.. >,>
I'm not hero in the romance department either. It's a miracle that I'm even in a relationship.
The only so-called ''healthy relationship'' I have is with my cat. How sad is that.. >,>
Forgotten-Children
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Hmm..
My boyfriend and I kinda get along more like brother and sister than you would expect an actual couple. That doesn't stop me from loving him in the least though, because I really look up to him as a boyfriend and the older brother I never had (I'm the oldest in my family). We both have our ups and downs; both being able to be there for a shoulder to cry on for eachother or to just have fun on say Wi-Fi because we have a long distance relationship.
My little sister and I have a weird type of relationship. We get along very well but it's like, some days we don't talk at all, or others we can manage to have multiple things to discuss. I guess in a way, that's good for me to try and get better at speaking because the reason I have trouble speaking to other people is either if they're older than me and/or if I don't know them. I get pretty intimidated with strangers.
My brother.... meh... Pfft... If you saw us at our house, you'd swear we didn't know eachother unless yo saw him pestering me every-so-often for my laptop just so he can listen to music. I mean... We talk occasionally but he and I both really keep to ourselfs so to have any real discussion is rare.
I'm starting to FINALLY warm up to my dad after... 20 years of being afraid of him... I think it's because I actually saw him open up his emotions when he sat down with me and my siblings to talk that he was giving up a lot of his hunting time to spend more time with us and mom because at the time, they were thinking about having a divourse.. I finally realize that the reason that he was scary to me in the past (other than the fact that he and mom used a belt as punishment when I was a kid.), was because he was in so much stress trying to take care of us and mom. Not to mention the alcohol, weed, and smoking didn't help... He doesn't do weed or drink anymore but he's still trying to quit smoking. I'll give him credit though. He doesn't smoke in the house anymore so that's good.
AND... there's my mom... unless you want me to talk about my cats. I'm still a bit intimidated by her probably because I know that she has the power of actually keeping me in this house or kicking me to the curb. And she's shorter than me... (she's 5' 0" and I'm 5' 3.5") Basicly she doesn't even treat me like a mom, atleast not anymore... She rarely did in the past saying the occassional "I love you" (no hugs that I remember though). Basicly now, my mom's not really a mom to me, but.. more like a boss who doesn't pay me.... And she won't help me with my debts that SHE caused because she claims that she and dad are in so much debt. :/ *sigh* That's one of the many reasons I have to get a job/get on disability.
Meh, I might aswell put my cats here. Max is a pretty timid cat around everyone else in the house;even her sister Grizley. She basicly comes to me and mews constantly to get me to pet her even though I'm trying to walk around my room listening to music (yeah I'm weird. I have to pace in order to think). She a sweet cat, don't get me wrong. But it's almost like she's too sweet. She tries to get attention like she's gonna die the next day (which she isn't because she's a very healthy cat).
Grizley is her sister (not sure if she's older or younger than Max but I guess it would only differ by seconds so it doesn't really count I guess.) Grizley to me seems to just aknowledge me as the food person. She knows if I have food, she'll always be in my lap and knows I'll eventually crack and give her some. All the other times, she tends to ignore me, unless I go to pet her or if she wants to play fetch (I'm serious. I have a cat who can play fetch)
The next one is an outside cat named Rennie... or now dubbed; Big Rennie because since my sister's friend moved in, she brought over her cat who was named Rennie aswell. He is basicly called Rennie Jr. or RJ for short. Big Rennie seems to like me, he's a sweet cat it's just it's annoying when he gets into fights with other cats; being outside and all. Not to mention, getting used to RJ has kinda made him depressed it seems... He just lays on the porch with his eyes closed. I dunno... hopfully he'll come around. I think he's like this because RJ is getting a lot of attention that he isn't getting because he's the only outside cat that got attention around her unless the allycat I've named Slate comes around (not really our cat, but if he's at our house, I'll feed him)
RJ though, is very lively and loves me to death (my god, is he adorably too. x3 ) He has this cute mew and he always craves attention from me. (unless Jen's friend is around. He immidiatly goes to her because she's his mama. x3)
My boyfriend and I kinda get along more like brother and sister than you would expect an actual couple. That doesn't stop me from loving him in the least though, because I really look up to him as a boyfriend and the older brother I never had (I'm the oldest in my family). We both have our ups and downs; both being able to be there for a shoulder to cry on for eachother or to just have fun on say Wi-Fi because we have a long distance relationship.
My little sister and I have a weird type of relationship. We get along very well but it's like, some days we don't talk at all, or others we can manage to have multiple things to discuss. I guess in a way, that's good for me to try and get better at speaking because the reason I have trouble speaking to other people is either if they're older than me and/or if I don't know them. I get pretty intimidated with strangers.
My brother.... meh... Pfft... If you saw us at our house, you'd swear we didn't know eachother unless yo saw him pestering me every-so-often for my laptop just so he can listen to music. I mean... We talk occasionally but he and I both really keep to ourselfs so to have any real discussion is rare.
I'm starting to FINALLY warm up to my dad after... 20 years of being afraid of him... I think it's because I actually saw him open up his emotions when he sat down with me and my siblings to talk that he was giving up a lot of his hunting time to spend more time with us and mom because at the time, they were thinking about having a divourse.. I finally realize that the reason that he was scary to me in the past (other than the fact that he and mom used a belt as punishment when I was a kid.), was because he was in so much stress trying to take care of us and mom. Not to mention the alcohol, weed, and smoking didn't help... He doesn't do weed or drink anymore but he's still trying to quit smoking. I'll give him credit though. He doesn't smoke in the house anymore so that's good.
AND... there's my mom... unless you want me to talk about my cats. I'm still a bit intimidated by her probably because I know that she has the power of actually keeping me in this house or kicking me to the curb. And she's shorter than me... (she's 5' 0" and I'm 5' 3.5") Basicly she doesn't even treat me like a mom, atleast not anymore... She rarely did in the past saying the occassional "I love you" (no hugs that I remember though). Basicly now, my mom's not really a mom to me, but.. more like a boss who doesn't pay me.... And she won't help me with my debts that SHE caused because she claims that she and dad are in so much debt. :/ *sigh* That's one of the many reasons I have to get a job/get on disability.
Meh, I might aswell put my cats here. Max is a pretty timid cat around everyone else in the house;even her sister Grizley. She basicly comes to me and mews constantly to get me to pet her even though I'm trying to walk around my room listening to music (yeah I'm weird. I have to pace in order to think). She a sweet cat, don't get me wrong. But it's almost like she's too sweet. She tries to get attention like she's gonna die the next day (which she isn't because she's a very healthy cat).
Grizley is her sister (not sure if she's older or younger than Max but I guess it would only differ by seconds so it doesn't really count I guess.) Grizley to me seems to just aknowledge me as the food person. She knows if I have food, she'll always be in my lap and knows I'll eventually crack and give her some. All the other times, she tends to ignore me, unless I go to pet her or if she wants to play fetch (I'm serious. I have a cat who can play fetch)
The next one is an outside cat named Rennie... or now dubbed; Big Rennie because since my sister's friend moved in, she brought over her cat who was named Rennie aswell. He is basicly called Rennie Jr. or RJ for short. Big Rennie seems to like me, he's a sweet cat it's just it's annoying when he gets into fights with other cats; being outside and all. Not to mention, getting used to RJ has kinda made him depressed it seems... He just lays on the porch with his eyes closed. I dunno... hopfully he'll come around. I think he's like this because RJ is getting a lot of attention that he isn't getting because he's the only outside cat that got attention around her unless the allycat I've named Slate comes around (not really our cat, but if he's at our house, I'll feed him)
RJ though, is very lively and loves me to death (my god, is he adorably too. x3 ) He has this cute mew and he always craves attention from me. (unless Jen's friend is around. He immidiatly goes to her because she's his mama. x3)
sanitariumcalls
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Hmm... well my little half sister and I never talk... we're facebook friends and have each others numbers I think purely on the "we're related and therefore must appear to socialize" basis. I don't like her. She's a stuck up, slutty, young Mom to be and all I can think of is that poor child will have a hell of a life... if I knew a way to get the kid taken away from her at birth I would. Don't judge me harshly, I'm a huge believer in waiting til your married, have your own home and financially stable before THINKING about reproducing.
My Mom and I actually have a hugely improved relationship. My first 10 years of my life were great, then ages 11-19 we had a rollercoaster relationship. 20-present, we're working things out and have better communication. Helps that we only see each other twice a year lol
My bf... hmm... that's a tricky one. We're very happy, no doubt about that, 3 years this December. But we tend to bicker about stupid stuff. I'm probably overly-sensitive. But I love him so much, and if he didn't feel the same we wouldn't be living together and sleeping in the same bed every night, etc. No marriage plans, no kids whatsoever... just us and our 3 kitties. [note: this is what its like when an Aries (him) and a Cancer/Leo (me) live together]
My kitties adore me ^_^ 2 girls (10 and 7) and a baby boy (5 months) they are my kids and certainly make me feel like I've really got kids! Lol
My friends, the true ones, are just awesome...
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My Mom and I actually have a hugely improved relationship. My first 10 years of my life were great, then ages 11-19 we had a rollercoaster relationship. 20-present, we're working things out and have better communication. Helps that we only see each other twice a year lol
My bf... hmm... that's a tricky one. We're very happy, no doubt about that, 3 years this December. But we tend to bicker about stupid stuff. I'm probably overly-sensitive. But I love him so much, and if he didn't feel the same we wouldn't be living together and sleeping in the same bed every night, etc. No marriage plans, no kids whatsoever... just us and our 3 kitties. [note: this is what its like when an Aries (him) and a Cancer/Leo (me) live together]
My kitties adore me ^_^ 2 girls (10 and 7) and a baby boy (5 months) they are my kids and certainly make me feel like I've really got kids! Lol
My friends, the true ones, are just awesome...
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What relationships? Actually, I do have some, but I've come to realize that they're mostly superficial. I don't get close to people (or let them get close to me). Even with my family, I'm comfortable, but still not communicative. I think I don't know how to open up to people.
awkwardamanda
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Yeah, this.