what a total waste of a day

[cowboyup]

I need to get homework done; I'd like to watch a little tv, and just have some quiet time to myself-maybe go to the bathroom without kids, yeah, that would be nice.

Instead, even AFTER telling them I need to get homework done, they took a nap as I watched the 3 yr old, then my brother went to a meeting about aliens (the outer space kind) and has been gone for almost 4 hours, my SIL has been in her room watching tv (she can catch up on her tv shows) and me...watching the kids.

I'm too old for this. My nerves are shot, I am shaking, I have a monster of a headache, and a fun little panic attack -- but I had to keep it together because I was watching a 3 week old and 3 year old.

Now that the night is winding down, I will have to stay for probably most of the night just to get my homework done and study for 2 tests coming up.

Well, tomorrow is another day, right?

...sorry this is just a rant. I am so P!ssed right now, I had to get it out - maybe ease my head pain.

 

[dottie]

why did you watch them if you didn't want to?

 

[MikeyC]

I recall you've had problems with your brother and sister-in-law dumping their kids onto you when you don't have the energy or time to look after them.

I stand by what I said back then: put your foot down, tell them you've got your own life, you can't watch them all the time, etc. and so on. It's going to be a hard conversation to have, and there's going to be some tension, but you'll feel a lot better knowing that you've said it and you'll likely get a lot of your life back.

 

[1BlackSheep]

I'm too old for this. My nerves are shot, I am shaking, I have a monster of a headache, and a fun little panic attack -- but I had to keep it together because I was watching a 3 week old and 3 year old.

That would give me a migraine too!

Maybe you can talk to them about creating a schedule of the days you are on and off babysitting duty so you can work in studying and also have some time for relaxing and doing things you enjoy. It would be a reasonable request!

Hope things improve soon!

 

[cowboyup]

^ yeah, thanks guys. I know what needs to be done. I just need the energy to do it! lol

 

[BlueDays]

I need to get homework done; I'd like to watch a little tv, and just have some quiet time to myself-maybe go to the bathroom without kids, yeah, that would be nice.

Instead, even AFTER telling them I need to get homework done, they took a nap as I watched the 3 yr old, then my brother went to a meeting about aliens (the outer space kind) and has been gone for almost 4 hours, my SIL has been in her room watching tv (she can catch up on her tv shows) and me...watching the kids.

I'm too old for this. My nerves are shot, I am shaking, I have a monster of a headache, and a fun little panic attack -- but I had to keep it together because I was watching a 3 week old and 3 year old.

Now that the night is winding down, I will have to stay for probably most of the night just to get my homework done and study for 2 tests coming up.

Well, tomorrow is another day, right?

...sorry this is just a rant. I am so P!ssed right now, I had to get it out - maybe ease my head pain.

From what I remember reading your previous posts you have a set time you are required to look after your SL's children during the day in return for staying there?

If the children are still left with you outside the required hours that you're to care for them, take the children and physically place the baby in your SL's arms or lap and nicely tell the 3 year old to "stay with mummy now". Then as you are walking away, tell your SL that your set time to look after them is over.

They are her children, there is no excuse whatsoever for her to be watching tv while you are left with her children at night. This is regardless of whether you have homework to do or not.
She is placing her responsibility for the care of her children on you.

It sounds like she is doing this because she believes you won't actually confront her about it, and she is taking advantage of you because of this.
If you don't have the energy to confront her, which in your situation is totally understandable, then write her a note explaining that you wont be caring for the children outside of the set hours anymore and just pass it to her.

 

[Vampayah88]

This makes me angry just reading about it. It is affecting your studying which is not ok. Put your foot down and hand them their brats, THEY made them, so they are THEIR responsability, not yours. Are you atleast paid for your babysitting job?