lunaticbinge
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Quite true.
Want to help a shy guy at work
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Quite true.
Diend
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I'm "shy" and my style is: "if you can ask me a question, I'll try my best to reply...I may even go out of my way to give the best reply I can...but don't expect it to be too loud. I'll probably mumble and nod my head."
The point is, you need to freak him out. Not talking to him will further his daily habit of not talking to anybody and just shying away from confrontation. Be his friend, and he will open up to you. You may be the only non-family member he's got! Go for it!
Just me two cents: Any help is good. Any progress counts. If that shy guy just let his SA sit there, it will grow and he will never improve. Any change is good. Sometimes SA-sufferers (...me?) need a good spanking to wake them up from their little cocoon.
Sometimes I just think in my head "FCK Y'ALL! What are you staring at? You never see a citizen trying to do a good deed? GO FCK YOURselves for ignoring people in need!" when I do something embarrassing like volunteering to do something in school.
The point is, you need to freak him out. Not talking to him will further his daily habit of not talking to anybody and just shying away from confrontation. Be his friend, and he will open up to you. You may be the only non-family member he's got! Go for it!
Just me two cents: Any help is good. Any progress counts. If that shy guy just let his SA sit there, it will grow and he will never improve. Any change is good. Sometimes SA-sufferers (...me?) need a good spanking to wake them up from their little cocoon.
I sometimes get shakes too. I try to stifle the shakes as much as I can but I always think that everyone totally notices.
Sometimes I just think in my head "FCK Y'ALL! What are you staring at? You never see a citizen trying to do a good deed? GO FCK YOURselves for ignoring people in need!" when I do something embarrassing like volunteering to do something in school.
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lunaticbinge
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I'm diagnosed with SAD and agoraphobia
its extremely bad, I can't look anyone in the eye. Not even my own mother. I have muscle spasms and shakes in public, panic attacks, etc. I don't answer the door in my own home.
I have one 'key' to unlocking being comfortable with someone, or even being able to look at them. I have to spend a lot of time with them and I have to feel their sincerity that they aren't judging me or that they truly care.
not fun business :
I sometimes get shakes too. I try to stifle the shakes as much as I can but I always think that everyone totally notices.
That is true as well - didn't think of that
I have had some pretty confrontational or embarrassing moments at work, but I've found that they do help with my SA. Good point!
Diend
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"Hey so...I've been wanting to tell you about this cool site that I go on for my problems too. We're in the same boat...here...<hands him slip of paper>"
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^Haha nice. And we will welcome him here
