nopark
Well-known member
Do you ever have trouble saying "no" to things? Or declining offers?
I always try to make everyone comfortable all the time. If someone just made a fool of themselves, I'll change the subject to take the heat off of them. If someone tells a joke, I'll laugh heartily even if it wasn't funny. If two people are in an argument, I'll try to lighten the mood. Etc.
And if someone asks me to do something, I have trouble saying no. It feels like saying no infringes on that instinct to be agreeable and happy and easy.
Today my sisters boyfriend asked me about moving out of my apartment to live at his house with them. He says we could both save some money. And the whole conversation I just smiled and nodded and made noncommittal sounds at all the right times. I told him it's "something to think about."
But he went on and on and on (he's a discursive fellow) and I just couldn't bring myself to tell him the decision is a no brainer: No way!
So I'm sitting here after and thinking that I've buried myself into a hole a bit, making it seem like I was interested in his offer. I'm just going to look like an idiot later. Not to mention being just a big waste of time.
All could have been easily avoided if I told him the truth right away.
I always try to make everyone comfortable all the time. If someone just made a fool of themselves, I'll change the subject to take the heat off of them. If someone tells a joke, I'll laugh heartily even if it wasn't funny. If two people are in an argument, I'll try to lighten the mood. Etc.
And if someone asks me to do something, I have trouble saying no. It feels like saying no infringes on that instinct to be agreeable and happy and easy.
Today my sisters boyfriend asked me about moving out of my apartment to live at his house with them. He says we could both save some money. And the whole conversation I just smiled and nodded and made noncommittal sounds at all the right times. I told him it's "something to think about."
But he went on and on and on (he's a discursive fellow) and I just couldn't bring myself to tell him the decision is a no brainer: No way!
So I'm sitting here after and thinking that I've buried myself into a hole a bit, making it seem like I was interested in his offer. I'm just going to look like an idiot later. Not to mention being just a big waste of time.
All could have been easily avoided if I told him the truth right away.