trouble holding down a job

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hey everyone, im in a bit of a bad way at the moment and i need to get something off my chest...see for the past year i've been searching, hoping and praying to land a job as i was made redundant from my previous job of 4 years and have been strugging to keep one since then :(

lately ive been trying to get work as a swim coach as its one of things im now qualifed as, but it just hasn't been working out. ive been trialed at a couple of other places and was let go:( ..this is my third attempt, and after the first day i feel its not going well either:( i know i'm not cut out for this type of job..its not me..im not good at it....but i have to keep trying...as its this or being unemployed still:( after a year of being unemployed my parents (who i live with) are starting to put soo much pressure on me now that if i fail at this i dunno what will happen:( its all or bust now...my second day is tomorrow and im **** scared. the reason im getting pressured by them is that im 28 and still living at home

who else has trouble holding down work? i have a degree which never helped me get a job once...and even hinders it at times...ive tried applying for all sorts of jobs soo many times and i either get no reply or dont get past the interview stage...being social phobic its so hard to do well in interviews. the only interviews i do get as i said is for swim coaching as i've done a course in it but when they find out im no good at it i soon get chopped.

my parents have said if this last attempt at it doesn't work out i'm going to have to do cleaning as a living...which i'm dreading:( i hate it..i've done it before and it sucks..its low pay, a lonely exisitance of a job, and hard work...now i'm not the brightest person, but i'm not stupid etiher (i have a degree after all)...but i just feel cleaning is below me...i have soo much to offer but it seems most employers find it hard to look past my shyness to give me a fair go:( im a very creative person and my dream job would be to be a graphic artist, but even the job search agencies here advise you against it due to the limited opportunities available..and my degree was the same:( ....why is life so hard?

anyway what sort of job do you do? i'd love to hear your ideas.
 
Dronee

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Have you gone to the "Support forum"? I've posted some online jobs there that may give you some ideas. "Studies and support" thread I think
 
Kiwong

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I have a job and I am worrying about losing it because of my anxeity.
 
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Anomaly said:
What makes you think that? What's your degree in?
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i've applied for many menial jobs and not heard a thing...i think people think if you've got a degree youre not linkey to stay in that menial job for long...so now days i leave it off the resume..the degree is in the environmental field
 
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skins said:
i've applied for many menial jobs and not heard a thing...i think people think if you've got a degree youre not linkey to stay in that menial job for long...so now days i leave it off the resume..the degree is in the environmental field
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Have you considered graduate school? That would be my first thought if the degree itself wasn't doing you any benefit.
 
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hmmm not sure what the equivilant of 'graduate school' is over here..i think its what we call TAFE...either way i'm so over study, i did it for three years and vowed never to do it again:eek: i just want work again now.
 
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skins said:
hmmm not sure what the equivilant of 'graduate school' is over here..i think its what we call TAFE...either way i'm so over study, i did it for three years and vowed never to do it again:eek: i just want work again now.
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Crappy jobs with the typical status-ladder climbing would be enough of a motivation for me to continue education. You simply have more to lose by keeping those 3 years utterly stagnant. I also don't think it would be outrageous to suggest that you work and continue your education.
 
JamesSmith

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I've had loads of trouble getting a job. I got laid off 7 months ago and have been looking for a job for that time span, filling out applications. The main advice I have is expand your options, don't go for one type of job, right now with the economy is the way it is you must settle for jobs that you may not want to do. It's either that, or be unemployed. In the past couple years I've found that you have to take any job you can get, or you won't have a job. I'm to the point where after I'm done applying at grocery stores I'm going to have to try fast food. Do I want to work fast food? Heck no, but it's probably my only hope at having a job if the grocery stores don't work out. I don't think there is any way I could work behind a register again, I've done that before and got fired and hated it too because I'm not comfortable talking to customers. And of course waiting tables would be hell too. I don't have a degree, u r lucky to have one.
 
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Everything is fine in the beginning, then I start losing interest in the job after a few months and find it very hard getting out of bed in the mornings. Every day being late for work then find myself out of another job.

So I've started looking for ways to make money online. Probably not the best decision, socially.
 
hoddesdon

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Perhaps you could try Western Australia. How are your parents going to make you do the sort of work they determine? Are they going to throw you out?
 
hoddesdon

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Perhaps you could try the Queensland public service. In their advertisements they say that they welcome applicants with disabilities.

Under the Disability Discrimination Act 1992, if you declare that you have a disability, then not doing well in interviews in not supposed to be taken into account.
 
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hoddesdon said:
Perhaps you could try Western Australia. How are your parents going to make you do the sort of work they determine? Are they going to throw you out?
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possibbly they could throw me out, but not likely..its more they would just get increasingly fed up with me sponging off them and their resentment would get too much for me to bear, but as i can't afford to move out, i would just have to go back to cleaning and then move out.
 
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hoddesdon said:
Perhaps you could try the Queensland public service. In their advertisements they say that they welcome applicants with disabilities.

Under the Disability Discrimination Act 1992, if you declare that you have a disability, then not doing well in interviews in not supposed to be taken into account.
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good in theory...only one problem, i'm not dissabled....unless you call SA a disssability? which it should be IMO, but i don't know of any govt agency that is willing to classify it as such. i've had an interview for a public service dept once...the're extremely hard! i know they say that as a disclaimer, but good luck to anyone dissabled enough to be given a fair go at a govt dept! they are extremly picky...i don't see it happening.
 
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Daz said:
Everything is fine in the beginning, then I start losing interest in the job after a few months and find it very hard getting out of bed in the mornings. Every day being late for work then find myself out of another job.

So I've started looking for ways to make money online. Probably not the best decision, socially.
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hows that working out for you? do you make enough money to get by? i've thought about doing work from home, but i've always just dismissed it as it must be 'too good to be true'. i guess its not? ive heard you need to devote a huge amount of time to it?

thats true when you say it's not the best socially mind you...at the height of my anxiety about 6 years ago i took this office job. it was hard for me mentally for about 6 months and i was litterally tearing myself apart inside for that time...but i ended up staying in that job for 4 years, and i can honestly say it was the best thing that had ever happened to me in terms of overcomming my SA.
 
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firewalk said:
I find it hard to work when it's not contributing towards something I really want. Right now my motivation to work is powered by my goal to overcome my anxiety. If it wasn't for that, I can't imagine holding down a job in this point in my life.

I would go for what you really want regardless of what whoever says. Let people generalize their own lives, not yours ;) I'd go for whatever jobs available meanwhile you're searching for a job you like and also saving up.

As for the degree, take it out of your resume when applying to jobs that doesn't require one. They'll think you're overqualified and assume you won't stick around for long.
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i hear what youre saying about not listening to people who generalise like that, but when the're in the business of finding people jobs, you sorta gota take notice, as i guess they know the ins and outs of job availablity.

but you're right it shouldn't stop me from having a crack at my dream i guess. i might get lucky..although for 12 months i havn't.

what do you do for a living btw if you don't mind me asking?
 
hoddesdon

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skins said:
good in theory...only one problem, i'm not dissabled....unless you call SA a disssability? which it should be IMO, but i don't know of any govt agency that is willing to classify it as such. i've had an interview for a public service dept once...the're extremely hard! i know they say that as a disclaimer, but good luck to anyone dissabled enough to be given a fair go at a govt dept! they are extremly picky...i don't see it happening.
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That's all right - I won a disability discrimination complaint in the Human Rights Commission against a Federal Government department about social phobia. The Human Rights Commission will tell you that it is accepted as a disability.

I also won a workers' compensation claim, which was helped by having won the complaint before the Human Rights Commission. This is it:

Randall and Comcare [2006] AATA 433 (28 April 2006)
 
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