LovelyAmor
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Ok so I am a member of another website called Social Anxiety Forum - Powered by vBulletin. I found it to be really similar to this one but I wanted to join it anyways. :
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This guy made a post that I find very interesting:
(REMINDER: I did not write this.) [Link to post if you want to see responses : Just move on with life. don't be on these forums. - Social Anxiety Forum]
(It's the same way he wrote it, just in a different font :
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I have done CBT , hypnotherapy , grouptherapy everything and nothing really worked always depressed looking on websites like these to not feel so alone.
But in the end it only made it worse , you are constant reminding yourself of your anxiety and helpless situation with no light at the end of the dark tunnel.
After years and years blaming my self of not having a job , friends and living sa & gad/depression everyday hell.
Then at my lowest point I decided that there need change now or im kill my self if I need to live this for the rest of my life.
It was like switch in my mind, I decided to not anxiety influcence what I did in my life , from mind set : I never will get a good job , I will fail , im a victim of my own anxiety I decided to think : I have control over my life I don't let anxiety control me anymore.
Then at first stopped researching my anxiety disorders stoped with therapy everything that reminded me of my anxiety, afhter that I learned cooking, guitar playing , played nintendo/gamecube ,my favorite games zelda which was really distracting and the more I did that the more my thoughts changed to happy thoughs and non-anxious thoughts.. the more I did my hobbies the more I forgot about my anxiety and pushed my slowly to do more things till the point your life is so filled with fun distractin activities that your anxiety become 2nd place and you forget to be anxious.
Im doing this now for the last 4-5 months and the change is almost dramatically im finding my own self again , the more confident one.
Im now doing things that would caused me panic attacks and now I feel almost no anxiety left, sometimes I feel my heart pounding fast and then I think oh its just anxiety and just laugh about it.
Months ago I though I gonna die in such silly situation.
Im much more confident now and im still growing.
I like this quote :“The way you overcome shyness is to become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid” - Claudia Lady Bird Johnson.
I don't know your experiece with therapy etc. but looking back I think it made more anxious constant reminding myself about my anxiety talking about made more focused on my breathing and how I was feeling in certain situations and I think find almost comfort in my helpless situation by searching forums like these and research anxiety for not facing the world.
And what someone really needs is just distraction (challgence/fun) everyday almost all day long and just slowly move on with life ( I would advice to just do things you like to do that cllegence your mind enough to not think about your anxiety , like complex games zelda, or learning music etc.etc fill your day with these activities for the next 1-2 weeks so you got happy thoughts and then slowly introduce yourself to the things like a job etc. and stick with your activites) so that you push your negative anxiety/depressed thoughts out of your life.
I hope this is helpfull for some people , I can only say it worked for me.
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Do any of you believe this is true? I downloaded CBT therapy from the internet and have been using it off and on for a couple weeks. Sometimes it really works for me. But I feel like the more I 'think' about controlling my anxiety, the more anxious I will get? When something bad/wrong happens I go crazy and think things are hopeless and this CBT is a bunch of B.S...Very frustrating.
So as far as hobbies? I used to play the flute. ^_^ I haven't played that much since middle school though. I still have it too. People thought I was good and I was ranked 1rst chair in my middle school band one time! This was all before my anxiety spiraled out of control. I was gonna play in high school but my mom talked me out of it because she thought it would be 'too much' for my first year. And the funny part about it is that I actually auditioned and they accepted me! I'm very angry she did that to me now. Oh well, right?
Anyway I am about to be a second semester sophomore in college now. They have a marching band, jazz ensemble, wind ensemble, and all that stuffs here. Since I hadn't been playing my flute in a long time, I just decided not to try out for anything. I'm overweight and I think the marching band would have been too much for me to handle. (I'm exercising and eating healthy now though-lost 40 pounds!)
I have really bad SA and AvPD, but it's not as bad as it used to be. I have trouble studying and keeping up with my work. And this ALL come from my anxiety. Do you think I should start playing my flute again? When I used to play it was like a stress-reliever for me and I felt really good sometimes. Should I stop my CBT? Should I just STOP 'thinking' about my anxiety period and just concentrate on activities and my work? Like this guy said, the more he involved himself in activities/hobbies, the less he thought about his anxiety and the less nervous he was.
I really want to know how everyone feels about this. I don't know if I should quit my CBT all-together, but this kind of makes since. So please don't just read & leave lol. Thanks.
:This guy made a post that I find very interesting:
(REMINDER: I did not write this.) [Link to post if you want to see responses : Just move on with life. don't be on these forums. - Social Anxiety Forum]
(It's the same way he wrote it, just in a different font :
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I have done CBT , hypnotherapy , grouptherapy everything and nothing really worked always depressed looking on websites like these to not feel so alone.
But in the end it only made it worse , you are constant reminding yourself of your anxiety and helpless situation with no light at the end of the dark tunnel.
After years and years blaming my self of not having a job , friends and living sa & gad/depression everyday hell.
Then at my lowest point I decided that there need change now or im kill my self if I need to live this for the rest of my life.
It was like switch in my mind, I decided to not anxiety influcence what I did in my life , from mind set : I never will get a good job , I will fail , im a victim of my own anxiety I decided to think : I have control over my life I don't let anxiety control me anymore.
Then at first stopped researching my anxiety disorders stoped with therapy everything that reminded me of my anxiety, afhter that I learned cooking, guitar playing , played nintendo/gamecube ,my favorite games zelda which was really distracting and the more I did that the more my thoughts changed to happy thoughs and non-anxious thoughts.. the more I did my hobbies the more I forgot about my anxiety and pushed my slowly to do more things till the point your life is so filled with fun distractin activities that your anxiety become 2nd place and you forget to be anxious.
Im doing this now for the last 4-5 months and the change is almost dramatically im finding my own self again , the more confident one.
Im now doing things that would caused me panic attacks and now I feel almost no anxiety left, sometimes I feel my heart pounding fast and then I think oh its just anxiety and just laugh about it.
Months ago I though I gonna die in such silly situation.
Im much more confident now and im still growing.
I like this quote :“The way you overcome shyness is to become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid” - Claudia Lady Bird Johnson.
I don't know your experiece with therapy etc. but looking back I think it made more anxious constant reminding myself about my anxiety talking about made more focused on my breathing and how I was feeling in certain situations and I think find almost comfort in my helpless situation by searching forums like these and research anxiety for not facing the world.
And what someone really needs is just distraction (challgence/fun) everyday almost all day long and just slowly move on with life ( I would advice to just do things you like to do that cllegence your mind enough to not think about your anxiety , like complex games zelda, or learning music etc.etc fill your day with these activities for the next 1-2 weeks so you got happy thoughts and then slowly introduce yourself to the things like a job etc. and stick with your activites) so that you push your negative anxiety/depressed thoughts out of your life.
I hope this is helpfull for some people , I can only say it worked for me.
---------------
Do any of you believe this is true? I downloaded CBT therapy from the internet and have been using it off and on for a couple weeks. Sometimes it really works for me. But I feel like the more I 'think' about controlling my anxiety, the more anxious I will get? When something bad/wrong happens I go crazy and think things are hopeless and this CBT is a bunch of B.S...Very frustrating.
So as far as hobbies? I used to play the flute. ^_^ I haven't played that much since middle school though. I still have it too. People thought I was good and I was ranked 1rst chair in my middle school band one time! This was all before my anxiety spiraled out of control. I was gonna play in high school but my mom talked me out of it because she thought it would be 'too much' for my first year. And the funny part about it is that I actually auditioned and they accepted me! I'm very angry she did that to me now
. Oh well, right?Anyway I am about to be a second semester sophomore in college now. They have a marching band, jazz ensemble, wind ensemble, and all that stuffs here. Since I hadn't been playing my flute in a long time, I just decided not to try out for anything. I'm overweight and I think the marching band would have been too much for me to handle. (I'm exercising and eating healthy now though-lost 40 pounds!)
I have really bad SA and AvPD, but it's not as bad as it used to be. I have trouble studying and keeping up with my work. And this ALL come from my anxiety. Do you think I should start playing my flute again? When I used to play it was like a stress-reliever for me and I felt really good sometimes. Should I stop my CBT? Should I just STOP 'thinking' about my anxiety period and just concentrate on activities and my work? Like this guy said, the more he involved himself in activities/hobbies, the less he thought about his anxiety and the less nervous he was.
I really want to know how everyone feels about this. I don't know if I should quit my CBT all-together, but this kind of makes since. So please don't just read & leave lol. Thanks.
