I actually got to where I wanted to be with hard work. And the SA is actually there. The fear is there. I do blame it because when I'm achieving things, it gets to be a problem eventually. I can't work in an office b/c it's there so I have to get accomodations. I can't go on a stage to accept an award b/c it's there, though I did it anyway and had to go home immediately and made a butt out of myself. I just think there are some things that are more difficult to do with SA...so yea, I blame it... Laziness and SA, to me, are two different things.
It's hard, what isn't hard? while you may feel fear then alot of other people, but the only way to really help is to actually face it. The trick is to not let it pressure you, it's hard VERY hard for a person who's at a lower stage in social situations but face it and not care what anyone says. When i was working at the mall years ago there was this girl that wanted me to ask her out but i didn't have the nerve...she was annoyed with me because she walked by i said nothing and like 10 mins later i got the security guard friend of mine to ask her for me. Anyway i eventually faced my fears and asked her out, i got the friends speech but once i faced it even if it was a no i was SO RELIEVED! You could either sit around and do nothing because it's a huge step and you are unsure if you're ready but once a chance, whatever kind of chance happens you will regret not doing it. Sometimes you just gotta be tough and do it even if it makes you feel like your face is about to burn off, your hands sweat, you don't talk right. Just remember if you do stutter at any point then you must STOP talking right then, take a deep breath and give your self a chance to retry at what you were saying. But either way even if you feel you are almost over SA you still gotta deal with these situations. Just remember when an oportunity arises and you do nothing don't freat about it because you will have another chance some other time. If 1 door closes there will always be another door will open. Maybe not right away, but eventually. The door is NEVER shut forever with anyone, even if you think it is, people tend to overthink and act like doors are always shut forever.
While it may seem not likely, everyone has these fears but of different things but they are at a stage where they are more along in their social situations.
I'm going to have to face my fears tonight, i'm going to a party and there will be 20 girls there. I been weak in the knee's all day. My whole main problem is once that door opens...it's a bachlerette party and other guys will be there but once that door opens and i see everyone stare at me coming to a girls party and the thoughts in their heads "wtf this guy must wanna come to get laid...what a creep coming to a girls party", but whatever...i'm only thinking of the bad things that can happen it seems like.
Anyway that's my 2 cents.
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