Supposed to be at party

[WarInsideMyHead]

So tonight im supposed to be at this girls 21st which i said i would go to but of course i aint there. I mean i really wanted to go but even after getting ready to go out i just couldnt make myself do it and i feel really bad because shes not someone i know that well but she had my friend pretty much plague me to go.
Worst thing is my friends that are there have been ringing me all night and even after sitting there for the last 2 or 3 solid hours just starring at the missed calls on my screen i still cant even bring myself to answer the phone or ring them back.
Must think im such a b******S.
I feel so ****ED UP right now and i just cant handle this s**t anymore.
I THINK I FINALLY HIT ROCK BOTTOM.

 

[Perfidion]

She must like you. A lot. You should probably talk to her at some point and tell her "I don't really do the party thing." She might not care. She might even understand and accept. You never know. Don't write yourself off just because of one stupid party. I mean, if she had your friend badgering you incessantly about going, she must be pretty interested, right?

 

[worrywort]

ah man, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I've been there many times. I especially hate the situation you've just mentioned.....first they plague you to say you'll go, and you can't say no cause you'll either seem rude, or they'll ask why etc....but then party time comes along, and you just can't face it....but if you don't go, you'll be going against your word cause you said you would....it's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place!

I guess there's a couple of solutions that might work
1. make up an excuse...."family emergency" is always a good one!
2. be honest with everybody.....just tell people how you feel

[the second is probably the hardest but the best choice]

 

[WarInsideMyHead]

Its not so much about this girl liking me as it is about me being sick of letting people down cause of my problems. Im just plain fed up of all the depression and anxiety and not being able to just be normal and enjoy myself.
Anyway worrywort you hit the nail on the head with what you said and your probably right about the second choice as the best one, but i can honestly say i dont think i will ever be able to do that.

 

[NormanBates]

Similar thing happened to me yesterday.

Showed up at a b-day party.
I was able to sit and chat ... until I ran out of stuff to say.

Chilled in the livingroom for a while, and I felt the guy next to me glance over at me.
At that moment I just caved in.

Then two girls came over and I could tell that my presence was a distraction.
So being the hero I am, I called it quits and went home. LOL

 

[Ashiene]

i have rejected every party invitation to me, dozens of them, until they all gave up on me and left me alone, and i was forgotten altogether.

 

[RND_CHR]

It gets easier to go to them and to be at them the more you do it, especially when you know people there. Sorry to hear you're feeling bad about not going. But you haven't hit rock bottom. All you did was not go to a party. Rock bottom is something that alcoholics do. Not people with social anxiety. Don't be so hard on yourself.

 

[flerb22]

Similar thing happened to me yesterday.

Showed up at a b-day party.
I was able to sit and chat ... until I ran out of stuff to say.

Chilled in the livingroom for a while, and I felt the guy next to me glance over at me.
At that moment I just caved in.

Then two girls came over and I could tell that my presence was a distraction.
So being the hero I am, I called it quits and went home. LOL

i do this at every party and night out i go on.

i feel very uncomfortable at parties and nights out, and that i am getting in my friends way when they are trying to enjoy themselves