Strained/weak voice

[gustavofring]

Does anyone else experience this?

It's like my voice has two moduses. One is when I'm feeling relaxed, the voice is deep, normal, confident. Then sometimes when I'm really tired or stressed or anxious, my voice becomes so strained, like it almost hurts to speak. The voice sounds really weak and I can't find the right words, I spit them out or really struggle. I feel like I have a weak old man's voice sometimes. I also need to clear my throat a lot.

Could this be caused by my breathing not being okay? Or me not talking a lot, thus not training my vocal chords? Is it anxiety or fatigue? Something with my throat or sinus?

This also probably causes people not to understand me properly at times, which is really frustrating.

 

[Fin]

I would go with anxiety and fatigue. Same thing happens to me, then I get told im talking to quiet and can I speak up... I DONT WANT TO DAMN IT!. TBH sometimes I just don't feel like talking and speech does become strained. I wouldn't start worrying about it, unless it does really physically hurt to speak, then I would get my throat checked out by a doc. Hope you feel better soon

 

[mikebird]

Very important!

I get into different modes like this.

Starting with any stranger, I am full of ideas and threads I want to announce, confidently. The conversation can go either way, if the other(s) want me to shut me up or tread on my toes and overtalk me. Good to have everything planned in my head. After I get a response / feedback, my mood can erupt in further joy, or negatively putting me off. My speaking mode only changes when speaking to someone. I start talking ALL ABOUT ME, in my world, as I type here. When ANYBODY SAYS ANYTHING to me, I crumble, on my knees, bowing to them, not physically. Mentally. They don't want to know. Nobody listens. Not taken seriously.

Meeting a stranger randomly in a street usually makes me lost for words. and about the same if I've met them before, or not.

I think my nerves show through. At least I'm glad I can see it. Stuttering, finding words. I collapse into terror, feeling oppressed. It might have been invisible to me - onto a terrible spin of unaware of my failure, being much more arrogant in life. There a failures of mine which many different psychologists have highlighted, which are hard to spot and I disagree with. But this is one for me. Ummm... I am waiting to meet my psychologist in one hour. I don't know what to say.

Yep. SA. Where my life is directly in the hands of others and how they judge me. It knocks my confidence to see in their eyes, smirks and following words that they are no interested in me. I've done this for a long time.

I'm sure everyone is supposed to do one job, and never any other, until they reach their grave.

Two interviews? Life done. I've had 243.

If I lived with someone else, life would all be so simple & easy. Someone to sleep with and wake up to. I did. I know what it's like.

 

[gustavofring]

Mike, sorry to hear you still have not found a job. 243 times really is outrageous! Can't you go for anything different other then your preferred job-area for a while?

I would go with anxiety and fatigue. Same thing happens to me, then I get told im talking to quiet and can I speak up..

Yeah, but with me I'm not sure if it's purely anxiety. I don't feel THAT extreme anxiety. I think there's a lot of mucus stuck in my throat. Maybe also worsened by dairy products. Last night I had night shift and my voice was terrible. I had been drinking milk that day, and coffee with milk. Probably best if I see a doctor about this.

 

[Fin]

Ah I do find milk makes you very flemmy in the back of the throat not only that if left in the back of the throat it can go abit iffy and make your throat abit sore. Hope you get it sorted.

 

[Lamb]

I'd go with a nasal issue. Do you sound hoarse or raspy? When I was a child I had bad nasal issues, and I was almost always having to swallow to clear something I felt was there. That was more like post nasal drip though - never experienced pain.

 

[WishingICould]

When i'm anxious or nervous my voice tends to sound high pitched and sometimes no sounds comes out. I hate the sound of my voice anyway.

 

[jaim38]

Me too! I'm female but I have a terrible voice. My voice sounds hoarse and raspy, especially in the morning. Sometimes it can sound phlegmy too, which is disgusting. I sound like a little kid and no wonder people speak down to me. Sometimes I wish my voice is more feminine like my friends'.