Sinar_Matahari
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My child will be starting her first day of school very soon and we are all very excited, hopeful and happy for this. However, there is something that's been eating at me. I was hoping to find parents among you who may have/had experienced worry and or anxiety when your children first started school. Particularly those of you who have experienced bullying at some point during your own school years. My fear is that my child will be seen as "different" by the other children and that this might prompt them to ostracize or bully her. She hasn't had much to do with other children since none of my friends have children themselves. I have this worry that she hasn't been adequately socialized with other kids her age and that she might come across as strange to the other kids...we know that children don't take too kindly to those whom they consider strange. A few weeks ago, after having spent the day with her grandfather, she reported that she tried to play with some kids who not only refused to play with her, but also called her names. Upon asking her how she had reacted, she said that she didn't say or do anything. She actually didn't seem to be upset over it. Obviously, I was happy that she wasn't upset, but now I'm afraid that she might mistake taunting for playfulness and that this might open her up for more attacks from other kids in the future. I didn't have the best experiences growing up and maybe this is just me being paranoid...maybe it's normal parental first day of school jitters. No one wishes for their children to be mistreated by others. Just the thought breaks my heart and pisses me off at the same time. I normally let things roll off my back, but not when it comes to my child. My kid's father tried to explain to her that there might be some children who aren't so nice, but I don't want her to start her first school year with worries so I shushed him. I'm also afraid that she will subconsciously pick up on my own worry, making her anxious/fearful as well. Parents, have you ever found yourself in this situation and how did you cope with it? I just haven't had anything mess with my head like this for a while.