Socializing When In a Bad Mood

[CosmicHippo]

Hi!

My name is Matt. For a while, off and on, I've had difficulties socializing, in a variety of situations. A little background information: I've been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder (that I'm being medicated for, and that helps tremendously) and, by a different professional, I've also been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome (which I think is a load of bull cr*p. I have my rebuttals and arguments, not that they matter, because when all's been said and done, who's going to believe the musings of an 18-year-old over the medical opinion of practicing professional? Screw it. Anyway, that's beside the point.)

The point is, I sometimes have a hard time talking to people, strangers or friends or aquantances (how in the world do you spell that stupid word?). Why? It turns into the chicken-and-egg dillemma. If a person is a bad mood, they'll socializing poorly, which will put them in an even worse mood, which makes you socialize even more poorly, and the circularity goes on and on, until you just say, **** it. This brings me to the problem at hand.

My friend called a few days ago and I've been meaning to call him back, but can't. When I'm feeling ****ty, even the most rudimentary interacting is a chore. I dread the next time he calls even. How does a person socialize when they're in a bad mood?

Thanks all y'all.

P.S. I came across this site on one of my google searches. Looks like a cool place to meet cool people.

Thanks again.

 

[cesgrandsyeux]

Don't. Withdraw from it. You don't have to socialise when you don't want to.
It becomes a problem though when you permanently don't want to socialise, as that's the equivalent of throwing yourself in a pit of misery without trying.

We all don't feel like socialising from time to time,at least I don't, so I simply don't try. It's normal

 

[Agent_Violet]

what is this 'socializing' you speak of???

 

[vargasc89]

I rarely sociallize but when i do is when im drinking a couple beers thats when i have no problem socializing with anybody

 

[Blabla..]

Hi Matt and welcome !

 

[MollyBeGood]

When I have to socialize in a bad mood, I really do impress myself with my acting abilities LoL

 

[pinata]

what is this 'socializing' you speak of???

Lol!

I know what you mean, I think I might have bipolar too, but I haven't been diagnosed (how do you know you have it by the way, could you PM me and let me know so I can compare?). Sometimes I get in a real bad mood and don't want to talk to people, and I really try and hide my mood and talk to people in a polite manner but they always notice that something is wrong then they keep saying what's wrong what's wrong tell meee and I'm like nothing but they keep going on and on. Then I get pretty withdrawn and don't want to talk anymore which doesn't make me the most fun to be around I guess. But if they're true friends they'll understand. Honestly if you don't feel like talking to people, then don't. And if you feel rude just explain that you're not feeling very social at the moment.

 

[Agent_Violet]

regarding your diagnosis...medical professionals don't always know everything. i've been to enough different docs over the years for various things to know they can be dead wrong on their diagnosis sometimes...i guess that's why they call it the medical "practice"...practicing medicine...

 

[pinata]

regarding your diagnosis...medical professionals don't always know everything. i've been to enough different docs over the years for various things to know they can be dead wrong on their diagnosis sometimes...i guess that's why they call it the medical "practice"...practicing medicine...

Yeah, they do get it wrong a lot of the time!