Social Phobia Isn't About People - Its About YOU!

It's true.

And nobody is really worthless. That's your fears speaking.

I don't know. I fear people also because many people are mean, selfish, etc. I used to work in retail so I know this to be true. 😛

i got to admit that i already knew all of this yet my fear are still present around me, but i guess it's good for those who didn't

This helped me out alot by reinforcing the beliefs I already had. Other peoples opinions are mostly worthless.

I blame television. Especially American cheap stereotypical shows, like all of them... Especially the ones that are school/high school in general related. Nerds, jocks, bullies, etc. What the F*eight* is that? When i was in highschool, nothing like that happened at all. Maybe it does at some white suburban schools, but not the ones i went too. And i think its getting worst... Everyone of those shows now involves sex every couple episode, ok? wth

I'm not one to stereotype, but i just can't help it with some people. The just fit the media criteria so well, that i'm either afraid or intimiated by some and others i feel totally relaxed. You know i feel more relax around the older generations. I don't know why, but i still can't talk to them about crap. Its a messs, this world and I. Blah blah blah....

sorry if it doesn't make sense, i went 48 hours without sleeping...

I realized alot of the this stuff over the years but I go on ignoring almost everything and everyone. I fear that if I say anything I'll be thought of as stupid which deep down I know isn't true. Even doing this is really hard for me. I know there are people wanting to be friends because they want to feel just as accepted and validated as the next person. I'm not sure if I even want that. Anyway irrelevant thoughts are what needs to be takin care of in order to move on, fit in but still be yourself (even if you stand out).

Exposure said: ↑

Hi Phobo , i really like your posts , their all very thought-provoking but this is where i stand . From what you were saying , i guess my main fear would be people thinking im a freak,weirdo,... , because of the way i come across because of my anxiety but i know this is not true , like you were saying , i have debunked it by basically stating the truth which is im not a freak,weirdo and that im like this because of my anxiety , which is not my fault , and lots of people are the same , but that doesnt do anything for my situation , i still find it extremely hard to go into anxiety-provoking situations because of the deep shame i feel , i wish i could get a EUREKA moment but i cant , great thread anyway , Robbie

Yep! thats exactly what I wanted to say. The anxiety itself becomes the phobia. We all know its irrational behavior but its uncontrollable. Im so f@#$ing sick of anyone who says snap out of it. I actually read a thread where a guy suggested pinching yourself anytime you feel the anxiety coming on. These are real chemical imbalances we are all dealing with.

It is obvious that not others but the phobia in us...

younglarry1977 said: ↑

We all know its irrational behavior but its uncontrollable. Im so f@#$ing sick of anyone who says snap out of it.

THIS!!

I get the "don't be a lazy ass" and that sort of stuff, it's really, really annoying!!

there are a bunch of whiners here, we hate the way SA ruin our lives, yet some of us don't have the courage to fight this phobia. many just accept it, and cry like babies. as for me, i will not let this undignified disorder take away my dignity. i will fight.😠

chickenmaryjane said: ↑

there are a bunch of whiners here, we hate the way SA ruin our lives, yet some of us don't have the courage to fight this phobia. many just accept it, and cry like babies. as for me, i will not let this undignified disorder take away my dignity. i will fight.😠

cry like babies lol, its not that easy to just "fight" it. If it is to you, I'm glad.

FOR REAL said: ↑

i love all that stuff, its just a pity that i cant read!

hahahahahahahaha your funny ill give you that 😀

shore_of_glass said: ↑

cry like babies lol, its not that easy to just "fight" it. If it is to you, I'm glad.

im not crying 🙂

just laugh through life i reckon
both of my grandads were nutcases. one quote i will take to my grave goes,,,
well actualy it doesnt go!
so here goes
my grandad tam was in the hospital after a heart attack or something, and after that he went outside for a smoke in his jammies (so you can picture the scene)
so these university lot comes up to him and sais "excuse me sir, are you a patient"
he said "no im a brain surgeon"

Liberty said: ↑

I think that's a good post but what if you CAN'T debunk it. I mean what if you really are worthless?

You have made good efforts with CBT, Liberty, but you have just proven Phobologist right. Of course, you will probably never see this because you have been banned.

Remus said: ↑

It's CBT mate, most of us are aware of this

No, that's not true. CBT is certainly worthwhile, but it is about counteracting unrealistic thoughts\apprehensions in specific situations, or having a reality check. It is like balancing the scales. The origin of the unrealistic thoughts is what Phobologist is talking about. Prevention rather than cure.