Small Talk

[this_portrait]

Not sure about the rest of you, but lately small talk makes me feel happy/giddy inside after I actually do it. I feel like a complete dork for feeling that way, considering I never used to be much of a fan of it. Gotta start somewhere, though, right?

I've also found that small talk isn't as hard as I used to make it out to be. Yeah, I'd like to have people I can have long, meaningful conversations with, but small talk is progress. If that's the only way I can get to that point, then so be it.

What's your opinion on small talk?

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I'm not good at small talk, or any kind of talk, for that matter. People always ask me questions I can't answer & I never know what to say.

 

[lurknomore]

I don't really have that much of a problem with small talk... when I actually want to talk. It's getting past the small talk that seems to be beyond me.

 

[inspirer]

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[Kat]

Yeah, I think it can be a great start.

The only way they can get to know you is if you open up to them, even if it's just a little.

It's good to know you've given it a try and before you know it, you may find someone or another person you can shoot the breeze with.

I am variant with that some days I can and others, I wish I was back in my nice warm bed.

 

[humansrare]

Most conversations usually start with small talk, so that's great you're getting into it. I really hate small talk myself, haha. it's so awkward. I'm only comfortable talking about myself and my own interests, because that's all I know about.

 

[shore_of_glass]

I don't really have that much of a problem with small talk... when I actually want to talk. It's getting past the small talk that seems to be beyond me.

pretty much this

 

[veggiebasket]

I strongly dislike small talk, which is a problem because my job forces me to engage in it on a daily basis. However, I have grown slightly more comfortable with it as a result, so I suppose this is a good thing. I will just watch the weather reports and stuff in the morning before I leave so that I will be somewhat knowledgeable and prepared.

But like others have mentioned, I have a really difficult time moving past this and engaging in other forms of talk.

 

[philly2bits]

I have no trouble with small talk. It does feel a bit awkward at times but I find it easy to keep conversations going if I am up to it. I too have a hard time getting past the small talk to anything else. Even if I want to move past the small talk, I seem to lack the skills necessary to pick up on the clues that it is appropriate to do so.

 

[klytus]

I have no problems with small talk, in general - unless it's a truly retarded, boring topic to talk about. Then I tend not to facilitate the conversation. However, only very few people share my interests, so with most people I meet, the conversations will never go beyond small talk. Opening up to someone I don't want to get to know anyway is essentially pointless.

 

[Lurjking]

I basically feel like in this comic, except that I never magically snap out of it. A very long awkward silence ensues, and from then on, the person treats me like I'm autistic/a small child/have Alzheimer's/other condition that I'm not in.

Also, I'm teh new here.

 

[TheWall]

I'm terrible at small talk. It always leaves me feeling bad about myself.

 

[chickenmaryjane]

I prefer small talk over long boring conversations.

 

[ripewithdecay]

Getting comfy with small talk is huge, more important than conversational skills imo, because then you have the ability to approach people, which we all know is half the battle.

 

[A_Void_Ant]

I don't like small talk, but I suppose it's better than someone (you know) not talking to you at all. I am happy that at least my coworkers TRY to talk to me. I can tell that they know I have issues lol. Sometimes I can pull it off, sometimes I can't and just smirk and put my head down when they say something to me and I have no idea what to respond with. It's like I'm submitting my life to them, giving in, letting them destroy me, all over some small talk.

I agree that to be able to small talk is a huge step towards overcoming SA.

 

[illuminationSP]

"Soooo, how's the weather?"

I hate small talk. I could never work in customer service.

 

[Illusions]

I don't have much trouble with small talk, especially when it comes to having to talk to strangers I'll probably never meet again. It's going beyond the small talk/talking to people I'm already familiar with to some degree and forging friendships that I have problems with...

 

[mrb]

i do have to chat to my customers on jobs .. what goes were ect ect but im ok with it as long as its not to intence

 

[phil91]

Can't small talk at all. It's usually:

person: "hey"
me: "hey, u alrite?"
person: "yeah, u?"
me: "not bad, I'm off to [wherever i'm walking to]"
person: "ok, cya then."
me: "aight, in a bit."


And they can **** right off if they think I'm going to stand in the middle of the street and talk about the weather.

 

[evil feline space cadet]

I don't like small talk - its real repetitive and boring. Its best to actually have interesting topics to talk about like common interests, funny stories, events, world domination. I'm always terrified people find me boring so usually avoid small talk!