Should I Stay Friends with her?

[PrincessKitty]

She's got selective mutism and she's 18 years old. I'm 21 years old. (I hope this helps) I try to text her about once a week, but no reply. At first I used to around to her house, and play board games, watch movies you know the stupid stuff that we both like. Oh and she's got social anxiety
But just suddenly... within a couple months she hasn't contact me.

Like I text her... but she hasn't text back.. But she does... this has been happening for a longer period of time. Eventually no reply's what so ever.

She has got asperses and I've got autism. She does talk to me, but not to my mum. She doesn’t go to school, college or to work. She’s has only got two friends me and someone else. Also, all she does is hanging around with her family.
So all I kept on doing was texting her like once every week or 2 weeks (So I have been trying) But like I said no reply.
When I do see her she cancels on me, on the day that I'm going to her. It's kinda frustrating >,<

What should I do? :question:

 

[Steiner]

Heya Princess I see this is your first post? welcome. You should always try and stay friends if you can. Maybe try sending her more texts. I had selective mutism and I still do to a point. Perhaps shes just going through a stage of feeling a little vulnerable?

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

She's got selective mutism and she's 18 years old. I'm 21 years old. (I hope this helps) I try to text her about once a week, but no reply. At first I used to around to her house, and play board games, watch movies you know the stupid stuff that we both like.
But just suddenly... within a couple months she hasn't contact me.

Like I text her... but she hasn't text back.. But she does... this has been happening for a longer period of time. Eventually no reply's what so ever.

She has got asperses and I've got autism. She does talk to me, but not to my mum. She doesn’t go to school, college or to work. She’s has only got two friends me and someone else. Also, all she does is hanging around with her family.
So all I kept on doing was texting her like once every week or 2 weeks (So I have been trying) But like I said no reply.
When I do see her she cancels on me, on the day that I'm going to her. It's kinda frustrating >,<

What should I do? :question:

Wait. Don't attempt to contact her until she says something. Maybe she's just having trouble dealing with people at all right now. If she wants you back in her life, eventually she'll let you know.

 

[PrincessKitty]

I can't go on the youtube video. Apparenlty its not available in my country but thanks though.
Hii Steiner thanks for the advice I will try :3

 

[blue_eyes]

I agree with Steiner, try and stay friends. I lost alot of my friends because i was going through severe anxiety & just couldn't face anyone, so i'd cancel meet-ups with them & ignore their texts and phone calls. When i finally was feeling better and tried to apologize for ignoring them, they didn't understand & didn't want anything to do with me anymore.
I'd suggest just waiting for her to contact you, it may take a while but don't give up on her, i think it's most likely that she's going through anxiety & not ready to talk right now.
Hope this helps

 

[PrincessKitty]

Blues Eyes that makes alot of sense because when she does (if she does) she says "I'm going through alot of stress" I say why? but nothing. I try to help her and see if I can help her and talk about her problems. But she doesn't want to talk to me.
So yeahh it does makes sense. Thanks

 

[jaim38]

I'm facing the same problems with some of my friends too. I contact them but they don't reply. I'm not sure if they have social anxiety or other issues they're dealing with. Plus I'm almost always the one to initiate social interaction like chatting, texting, etc. I don't know when all my efforts will pay off. I also have social anxiety, avpd, etc and I've opened up to some friends about it. So far they've been understanding I guess. You could try opening up to her about social anxiety and maybe she will open up to you.

 

[PrincessKitty]

thanks I never really thought about it in that way. thanks for the advice :3

 

[Steppen-Wolf]

Wait. Don't attempt to contact her until she says something. Maybe she's just having trouble dealing with people at all right now. If she wants you back in her life, eventually she'll let you know.

Yeah, I think this is the best advice. Make yourself available for but don't insist. It will save you the frustration.

 

[EternalIce]

I don't want to sound insensitive, but a similar thing happened with my friend and I, and anyways it's very frustrating, it's almost as though they no longer deem you relevant in their life and can just ignore you... I dunno, it's resolved now, but at the time very confusing. I'm sure it's not the reason I described, but that's something to what it felt like.