Should I do this...

[voodoochild16]

Hey everyone,
Okay so I have a pretty rough situation here. I have a job where I work full time in a partially isolated work environment, but people still come and go within my work space (the room I work in) and I have to roam around the building once in awhile.

It's extremely hard because I'm not as social as everyone else, I freeze alot when people walk by. It's extremely embarrassing every day. Now people I haven't even met yet just ignore me because obviously other people tell them I am quiet.

What's really holding me back is my obesity, I weight over 200 lbs now. I talked with someone and they agreed that it would be the better way of fixing my low self worth, so with that being a very hard thing for me to do, to lose weight, I am asking you guys should I just cope for now and accept myself, live with the embarrassment and anxiety until school is done (2 more years to go) or should I spend a few weeks (with less progress in school made, but it's at my own pace anyways) working out and just say "screwit"?.

It's so hard for me to do though, to focus on working out.. but the anxiety every day is so debilitating. I would only make myself feel better about myself and then people would still treat me the same until they notice a change in my response to them.

God damnit thiis feels so compllicated... but I had to say it and ask.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Well, it all depends on what you want. If you think you'd like yourself more if you lost some weight, then go do it. If you're okay with the way you look now, then you don't have to change.

 

[voodoochild16]

True, well, it's not just what I think about myself right now with my appearance, but mainly what other people think of me socially. Of course if I was 300 lbs and outgoing, it wouldn't really matter at all if I was that fat, well not as much as it does not with SA and being over 200 lbs.

So I guess the reality is the reason for me to lose the weight is because I care too much about what other people think. Things will only get worse if I keep going on like this, in terms of how many people that become my enemies. But the dedication all depends on motivation, I guess that's why I am here, to ask if anyone here thinks that definitely what they would do if they were in my shoes after explaining my situation..

Thanks.

 

[Flanscho]

Yep, lose some weight. Mostly for two reasons.

a) as much as we'd all like that, the society as a whole doesn't ignore how people look. If you can't deal with the reactions you get because of your weight, then losing some is probably a good idea, to "fix" that. It's not about becoming anorexic, just about losing a bit of weight.

b) more important: 200lb is bad for your health. Regardless of what other people think, losing some is a good idea, because it will be more healthy for you.

 

[Odo]

Definitely start working out, and look at your diet as well... you will feel SOOOOOO much better about yourself, even without the weight loss.

You don't have to go to extremes in the beginning-- just cut down your portion sizes and eliminate say the three unhealthiest things that you eat (things with corn syrup and the like)... also cut down on your sugar. If you do too much too soon it's not going to work... and working out for a few weeks is simply not going to be effective in terms of your overall lifestyle.

If you're self-conscious about working out, you don't have to join a gym... I've done fairly well with pushups, pullups, leg raises (you do need a bar for those), box jumps/skipping, burpees, running and then one hour of swimming per week... make sure you have the proper form instead of trying to do as many as you can and it will be better for you.

There are also machines in the park that I use for free... but I don't think they're as good as the bodyweight stuff. I used to go late at night so nobody will watch, but after a few months I've actually gotten to the point where I'm not embarrassed anymore, because I am noticeably stronger and I can run for longer periods.

Just do as many/as much as you can without pushing yourself too too much-- don't pay attention to anyone but yourself and how you feel, and keep trying to do better the next time. If you take it slowly and keep doing it as opposed to doing too much at once to meet a short term goal, you'll end up with better overall results and you'll be happier in your life as well.

Don't do it every day either-- give yourself a lot of time to rest and take things very gradually because that way you're more likely to stick with it... and plus if you haven't been working out then your muscles need more time to adjust.

Other things will help too-- you could start going for long walks or hiking up mountains (if you have mountains nearby).

Sorry for the rant-- I guess I'm just big on exercising right now.

 

[jaim38]

Losing weight in the long run is healthy for you. It doesn't matter what society thinks of you. Do something good for yourself. Lose weight so you can look at yourself in the mirror and feel more confident and have higher self-esteem. Don't wait until you are 300 lbs because then weight loss will only get harder. The earlier you start the better. Start planning out a diet/exercise routine. You can do it!

 

[johan]

i wonder how tall you are?
I mean if you weigh 200 lbs and is quite long then you are not exactly overweight.
I do not think you will have much less anxiety if you lose weight, but if you are overweight, you can generally feel better.
I have similar problems and I try as best I can to lose weight, so far I have failed: P

 

[Lea]

Dieting works far better for losing weight than working out. If you just work out but don´t diet forget it. But if you just diet without working out, it works. I am not saying working out is bad, it definitely is good, but don´t rely on it as a means of losing weight.

 

[Feathers]

I think it's good if you accept yourself, at the same time still working out and eating healthy (ideally), easier said than done I know!
Maybe you can walk or work out in the morning and become 'braver' and feel good (endorphins!) and find socializing and studying easier too?
Also substitute some snacks: for example eat fruit and/or veggies or a proper meal instead of sweets etc.

I'd like to lose a few kilos myself, ayayay!

 

[Flanscho]

Dieting works far better for losing weight than working out. If you just work out but don´t diet forget it. But if you just diet without working out, it works. I am not saying working out is bad, it definitely is good, but don´t rely on it as a means of losing weight.

Working out is always healthy, and it helps with losing weight. So, always work out.

 

[Lea]

Working out is always healthy, and it helps with losing weight. So, always work out.

Working out alone won´t help

 

[ukmale]

Lose the weight

I know people make it seem easy with fad diets to lose only a few pounds but when your big its a long hard road and believe me you will give up or want to give up so many times but believe me don't its a whole life change not just a few month diet

I was 328 pounds I have now lost about 56pounds its easy as Hell when you start start slow have a healthy breakfast each morning do a little bit of walking I found walking makes my legs bleed so I got a work out bike and I have built myself up to do 15km about 9miles on resistance level 5 every morning

Do some house work some gardening start slowly healthy breakfast then healthy breakfast and lunch and then healthy dinner aswel it takes a long time but your get there

I never used to cook now I love cooking I make salads meat fish veg I try and have 55% veg with each meal cut down on bread potatoes rice wheat grains ect check out the paleo diet seeds nuts all good not cashew nuts peanuts

Throw away your food and your plates buy smaller plates smaller bowls ect as the bigger the plate the more food ur have so small plates small meals try and plan your meals ahead if your tried or late your eat junk so have cold ham in the fridge can make up a salad in 5mins so your never to tired to make dinner stick with 3 small meals a day snack on fruits ect drinks loads of water have a pint of water before each meal and though out the day and get a workout bike or go for small walks and start building urself up and up over time your start losing your weight keep at it I have lost 56pounds dude you have no clue how good I feel I got to the point where I couldn't wear socks as when I bend over I was sick in my own mouth so dude stick with it I now walk do gardening love to cook and try loads of new recipes and clothes look good stuff a 24yr old guy wants to wear not clothes that a guy in his 70s wears I'm sticking with it and I'm doing great dude I have never felt so much better before I used to sleep 19hours aday wake up order junk eat junk shower nap again now I am healthy fit happy out in the sun with a short sleeve shirt on would have never done that before so please I say for your healthy lose the weight if I can do you you can I got to the point where I was sooo tired I was sleeping sometimes days on end eating junk now I have bags of energy eat those veg eggs meat fish seeds nuts and start loving life every little helps do house work walk join a gym walk to the shops walk to work ect all adds up dude

Best of luck