should i ask to meet this person?

[LazyHermitCrab]

Well i'm having a lot of trouble making friends :/ I'm not looking for a lot but 5 in the area is my goal. Right now i have 2 but we only hang out once a month. The only hope i have is this person i met on this friendship finding site. I usually don't end up meeting people there. The one i was kinda interested in meeting goes to the same college as me so i thought it would be okay. The thing is we only exchanged a couple messages and i initiated everything except she's the one who told me to add her on facebook. i added her and she accepted and she didn't say anything afterwards and it's been a couple months. do you think it would be a good idea or inappropriate to ask to actually meet for coffee after break at school? :/

 

[Srijita52]

I don't see any harm in it, ask her. I don't think she'll mind.

 

[Sial Axetder]

sounds like you will have to do much of the initiating with this person.
Personally I'd try to engage in conversations online for a bit longer. Until you can sense she feels comfortable. Then ask to meet.

 

[Plan9]

The worst she can do is say no... of course any sort of no makes me want to cry. However if your that way inclined you probably need to expose yourself to more nos so that you can tolorate them.

So yes in my opion you should

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

So i should say "hey how have you been?" Before asking to meet? Thanks everyone

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

The worst she can do is say no... of course any sort of no makes me want to cry. However if your that way inclined you probably need to expose yourself to more nos so that you can tolorate them.

So yes in my opion you should

that's true. since it's online she can just ignore me and if that happens i'll just delete her as a friend and move on

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Since she goes to the same school as you, it wouldn't be hard at all to organize a meetup. Most people I meet online live at a distance. I say go for it. The fact she is in a friendship finding site makes it seem like she would be open to it. She just may be very shy What site is this btw?

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Since she goes to the same school as you, it wouldn't be hard at all to organize a meetup. Most people I meet online live at a distance. I say go for it. The fact she is in a friendship finding site makes it seem like she would be open to it. She just may be very shy What site is this btw?

Girlfriendsocial.com i'm not sure your gender but there are other sites too

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Since she goes to the same school as you, it wouldn't be hard at all to organize a meetup. Most people I meet online live at a distance. I say go for it. The fact she is in a friendship finding site makes it seem like she would be open to it. She just may be very shy What site is this btw?

Nvm you're a female so i recommend that site for you

 

[paperie]

Oooh, I've been wondering if a site exists like that one. I'm going to give it a shot! Someone suggested Craigslist to me before but I only got weird responses -.-

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Nvm you're a female so i recommend that site for you

Great! I looked it up. Interesting. I will give it a shot I've been wanting some girlfriends *shopping!* Haha...

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Someone suggested Craigslist to me before but I only got weird responses -.-

I browsed the CL ads the other day for people looking for people looking for friends. Only came across one that seemed safe, but she barely responded anything back, so I gave up (I know, I know). She was also about ten years younger than me, so she probably saw me as ancient anyway, haha. I did ask her if she had gotten many responses, and she said no. These things are hard!

 

[Silatuyok]

I browsed the CL ads the other day for people looking for people looking for friends. Only came across one that seemed safe, but she barely responded anything back, so I gave up (I know, I know). She was also about ten years younger than me, so she probably saw me as ancient anyway, haha. I did ask her if she had gotten many responses, and she said no. These things are hard!

I tried the Craigslist thing once. Once. It seems that most people don't understand what "platonic only" means. I only emailed one woman who sounded legit and really seemed like she might be a good match for me. Sadly, I never got a reply.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Oooh, I've been wondering if a site exists like that one. I'm going to give it a shot! Someone suggested Craigslist to me before but I only got weird responses -.-

surprise surprise have you ever seen that scary movie about the craiglist killer? there so many weird posts on that site. one of my friends got a decent job from there though so i guess she was lucky.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I tried the Craigslist thing once. Once. It seems that most people don't understand what "platonic only" means. I only emailed one woman who sounded legit and really seemed like she might be a good match for me. Sadly, I never got a reply.

try girlfriendsocial?

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I have found two large SA meetup groups in my area. Though I am highly intimidated at the idea of going alone not knowing anyone.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I tried the Craigslist thing once. Once. It seems that most people don't understand what "platonic only" means. I only emailed one woman who sounded legit and really seemed like she might be a good match for me. Sadly, I never got a reply.

It seems easier to get a date online than make a friend :idontknow:

 

[Unspoken]

Girlfriendsocial.com i'm not sure your gender but there are other sites too

That looks like it might be worth a try... thanks for sharing. I saw one or two other friendship sites but they were the kind that are subtly trying or hoping to pair people off.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Crap I just realized I sent "hey my sn is... and how are you" before already and she never replied. I normally delete my emails so i didn't see that. When I sent the new message it appeared again. If she doesn't say anything i'm gonna delete her this time i don't understand why people want a facebook friend who they never see or talk to.

 

[kotulakj2]

I'm a guy, but I'm interested in trying to make friends. I have only 2 and I very rarely hangout with them. I feel like if I don't make friends, then I have no chance with the girl who I will be going out with next week. I mean even if I met someone and weren't best friends, just to meet someone to be friends so I can practice my social skills. I feel I'm never going to be motivated enough to do some kind of club or something along those lines to meet new friends, but if I met someone who wanted to be a friend online who I can familiarize myself first then I'll definitely more willing to do something with them. I'm not socially afraid to talk to people, but unless I gain more out of other peoples' experience in their life I will never have a prayer of becoming more outgoing, because where I am in New Jersey USA finding women who like introverted quiet guys are few and far between. Being outgoing is almost a necessity so I'm not boring to them and can at least share with them some interesting stories.

@LazyHermitCrab Do you know of any good sites online where I can make guy friends or at least some kind of site where I could play games with someone online who are near me and be able to chat with them?