Sense of Humour

[mikebird]

I used to be funny and make people happy.

Do you find that SA or depression causes you to lose your humour? Maybe it's a very tight link. When you feel down, you can't just make jokes and make people laugh.

Life is very different for me now. I would be out with people, and shout, and make a positive impression on strangers.

I have a chance on Monday to meet my medical specialists, for the first time for a year. It might be my last opportunity to get out of my pit of lonesomeness. Work, old friends, new ones... I've got to put a lot into this meeting! I mean nothing to these people. I'm just a number on a list. As with any job interview, I always start by asking "how long do we have?" The default is usually one hour. I think the answer here, as they look at each other and their watches will be "10 mins". Being under control this way doesn't work well for me.

I get ushered out really quickly once I've been on a decent, live thread, and they need to see someone next. It's tough to make anyone believe that things are not perfect. It's ben two years with no anti-epileptic medication review.

Anyway

 

[Feathers]

Hey Mike,

Good that you're going to see a team!!

"how long do we have?" isn't so very good to start a meeting with, I think (especially if you'd like it to last longer ) If you're interesting and interested, show willingness to work on things (and maybe remorse about your not-so-spiffy past that you wrote about elsewhere, willingness to start anew and turn your life around..), ask questions and/or give ideas/suggestions, people may take more time... (even if they only 'predicted' 10 minutes..)

You're not just a 'number on a list' - if they're doing their job right, they're supposed to help you and may WANT to help you!! Some people take their jobs honestly, even in the 'caring' profession... it's called 'caring' for a reason... (some may be burnout or jaded, or some may have learnt to put up 'a line' between people and themselves, sometimes you can still make'em care...)

(Some 'experts' don't like it if you ask questions, and there may be budget cuts etc, but they're supposed to answer anyway!! and help as much as they can!!)

If you have what could be side effects from meds, talk to them - bring the list of side effects and possible alternative suggestions if you might need to?
Maybe there's a forum/sites for epilepsy where people know more and could help?

It helped me to bring a list of questions to a doctor in the past, one can forget what to ask sometimes... And it helped me to research some things so I knew what to ask...

Yes, depression can make things worse, it can also change your way of thinking and different things may seem funnier to you... so you could actually maybe make other people who are also depressed or more depressed than you laugh, it may just be difficult with people who do not share your point of view...

From my experience, you can still make jokes or make people laugh, but it's more difficult, may require more energy, especially if you're at different energy levels, and usually you don't wanna (especially if you might be angry at them) You might make other people laugh and make them happy (those you might not be resentful at) - at least that was sorta my experience..

Hope things get better for you!!

 

[recluse]

I can relate. On most days i am humourless, and i know that i am not like this by default because i can be funny it's just that depression/anxiety dulls my brain. When i am depressed i can hardly talk leave alone laugh.

 

[Predacon]

I don't know about depression, but I don't find my SA affecting my sense of humour. Of course I'm more reserved around what I'll laugh about with strangers, but with my family we're always cracking jokes with each other.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I think that depression, mainly-- makes my sense of humor very dry and sarcastic.
Being agoraphobic made my humor cynical and morbid.

Before I was depressed and agoraphobic, I think I was mostly just really dorky... but not nearly as sarcastic or morbid.

 

[cowboyup]

WeirdyMcGee - yup that is how I was before this depression/SA set in.
Now, as someone so aptly described me: sardonic yet witty.
meh, I kinda like it LOL

 

[coyote]

Now, as someone so aptly described me: sardonic yet witty.
meh, I kinda like it LOL

i prefer tuna over sardines