SAD sufferers who are married
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lyricalliaisons
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I know someone with SAD on another site who has been married for 15 or 20 years. Unfortunately, I can't tell you what their wedding was like because I don't know.
lyricalliaisons
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I agree with what lurknomore said. Just because the guy's getting married doesn't mean he doesn't have social anxiety. He was just lucky enough to find someone who accepts him.
you gotta' pick one homeslice.
That's ridiculous. I may not initiate conversations, much less relationships, but that doesn't mean someone can't approach me and show interest. And just because I return that interest and get involved doesn't mean my SA is cured.
market.garden
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you gotta' pick one homeslice.
Why do you have to pick one?
Look I don't know what kind of anxiety I have. I have never had problems making friends, holding a job, dating, etc...BUT I do know I have it and it usually pops up during performances (speeches, presentations). I blush, sweat, sometimes shake, among other symptoms. Lol I would ignore the Spike Lee wannabe (and why would anyone want to be like him?) and just tell me what your true thoughts are on my situation if you don't mind. So far I def like what abeautifulmind's post offered...but maybe there are married posters in here that have been through this and may have some tips for me. I really do appreciate it wonder if I go the medication route, what drugs would be the best for this certain situation. I'm sort of leaning propranolol/xanax, but still have 2 months to figure it out.
wonder if I go the medication route, what drugs would be the best for this certain situation. I'm sort of leaning propranolol/xanax, but still have 2 months to figure it out.
lyricalliaisons
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can i and my lover be husband and wife wizout holding a wedding ceremony? Is there anyway?
In the US, you can go to the courthouse as long as you have one witness & get married in front of a judge. Then you wouldn't have to have a ceremony, but I don't know if it's the same where you are.
I can understand avoiding certain social situations having SAD, but cmon, your own wedding? Just gotta suck it up and do it. I look at it the first day of my new life after celebrating it with friends and family. Going to Jamaica to relax immediately following wedding and then plan on starting a family, who knows!
Luke1993
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can i and my lover be husband and wife wizout holding a wedding ceremony? Is there anyway?
Yes as long as you have two witnesses, at least this is how it's done most places.
To those married peoiple with SA how did you come across your partners? Was it luck? Or forcing yourself to socialise? Did you tell them about your problems right off the bat or later on? And finally, was getting married the best day of your life?
Sorry for the numerous questions.
I'm sorry I got distracted by the troll
But I did have a marriage ceremony with my ex-husband 12 years ago. I didn't know I had SA or depression at the time, and I think I just focused on the ceremony rather than the fact that friends and family were watching me. I don't usually get too nervous in situations like that though, where there's structure and/or a script. It's impromptu social interactions that I can't do very well.
Edit: To answer Luke's question, it was pretty much luck I guess. My ex was a coworker of my college room-mate, and he was outgoing enough to really pursue me despite my extreme shyness. Again, I didn't realize I had any "disorders" at the time, so there was no big "reveal," I was diagnosed with depression and SA after we were married a few months.
But I did have a marriage ceremony with my ex-husband 12 years ago. I didn't know I had SA or depression at the time, and I think I just focused on the ceremony rather than the fact that friends and family were watching me. I don't usually get too nervous in situations like that though, where there's structure and/or a script. It's impromptu social interactions that I can't do very well.
Edit: To answer Luke's question, it was pretty much luck I guess. My ex was a coworker of my college room-mate, and he was outgoing enough to really pursue me despite my extreme shyness. Again, I didn't realize I had any "disorders" at the time, so there was no big "reveal," I was diagnosed with depression and SA after we were married a few months.
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hangbi92
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Its not that I dont want it. According to what u said in ur previous post, U seem to have a specific disorder, which mean you only feel anxious in certain situations, and it does not seem severe. But most of us here with SAD have a generalized disorder, which mean we afraid of all social situations, places that have people. SAD is more complicated than what u may know about it. People with severe SAD are likely to have a panic attack in social situations like wedding ceremony.
And I just asked that question to take precaution, which mean I will only do it in the worst situation. Right now Im still a highschooler and havent even had a girlfriend yet, and may never have. But Im being helped by a Youth Mental gruop now and I hope I will get rid of my SAD. Certainly I dont wanna miss such an important day
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