SierraSage
Active member
Has anyone else ever been the victim of a romance scam?
Several years ago I was victimized by one, and I think it was directly related to my social anxiety/phobia problems. I started chatting in a chat room that was for a health issue I have (depression). I was not looking to date anyone at all. I had just had a guy I had a crush on turn on me cruelly, and the last thing I wanted was anybody flirting with me, wanting to date me, etc...so I specifically chose a site that was not a dating site. On the site, I quickly made friends with what seemed like a very nice man. He soon told me he'd fallen in love with me. I was 34 years old at the time, and no man had ever even been attracted to me as far as I could tell..so I got all excited and agreed to date this guy online for a bit, then meet.
I did the research I was "supposed" to do..called him at his desk at work, looked up the articles he told me he'd been mentioned in, etc. so I knew this wasn't one of those Nigerian scams. What I didn't realize, this being before the show "Catfish" came on television...was that there are many kinds of romance scams..not just Nigerian scams.
This was indeed based in the USA, and one of the people involved did use his real name and workplace, and some details from his real life...but once I realized it was a scam I started looking back and realized that I was not always talking to the same person, the majority of what I was told was made up, and the people involved just wanted my money.
I know this kind of thing happens to all types of people. But I can't help thinking...if I had a normal social life..I would have been stronger and not so vulnerable to the lines these people used for bait...if I had friends I would have had someone to run this by who would be calmer and not all excited to be flirted with, etc.
Anyone else?
Several years ago I was victimized by one, and I think it was directly related to my social anxiety/phobia problems. I started chatting in a chat room that was for a health issue I have (depression). I was not looking to date anyone at all. I had just had a guy I had a crush on turn on me cruelly, and the last thing I wanted was anybody flirting with me, wanting to date me, etc...so I specifically chose a site that was not a dating site. On the site, I quickly made friends with what seemed like a very nice man. He soon told me he'd fallen in love with me. I was 34 years old at the time, and no man had ever even been attracted to me as far as I could tell..so I got all excited and agreed to date this guy online for a bit, then meet.
I did the research I was "supposed" to do..called him at his desk at work, looked up the articles he told me he'd been mentioned in, etc. so I knew this wasn't one of those Nigerian scams. What I didn't realize, this being before the show "Catfish" came on television...was that there are many kinds of romance scams..not just Nigerian scams.
This was indeed based in the USA, and one of the people involved did use his real name and workplace, and some details from his real life...but once I realized it was a scam I started looking back and realized that I was not always talking to the same person, the majority of what I was told was made up, and the people involved just wanted my money.
I know this kind of thing happens to all types of people. But I can't help thinking...if I had a normal social life..I would have been stronger and not so vulnerable to the lines these people used for bait...if I had friends I would have had someone to run this by who would be calmer and not all excited to be flirted with, etc.
Anyone else?