twiggle
Well-known member
I had a few relationships in which this was the case. Only one turned out to be long-term and even then it wasn't easy, but most of the time it was a case of going out for a few weeks and then me missing my independence, so ending things.
I know now that the problem was I didn't know these guys well enough. My relationships often started from the very scratch - being 'set up' with them, or meeting them on nights out. The initial attraction was merely physical or because I liked what I first saw of their personality. I still had a lot to learn about them and because we didn't know each other well enough the texts and contact did feel like somewhat of a task to complete within the big process of getting to know each other better.
I've learnt that next time I get into a relationship it'll probably be with somebody who knows me better; who understands things like: I'm not big on texting, and that I need my space.
Relationships shouldn't be hard. You shouldn't need to think about how many texts you've sent that day and whether it's enough. A good relationship is one that flows naturally and doesn't try and stick to any set rules and I strongly believe in relationships whereby the two people have known each other for a long time and don't have to go through that initial process of working each other out.
I know now that the problem was I didn't know these guys well enough. My relationships often started from the very scratch - being 'set up' with them, or meeting them on nights out. The initial attraction was merely physical or because I liked what I first saw of their personality. I still had a lot to learn about them and because we didn't know each other well enough the texts and contact did feel like somewhat of a task to complete within the big process of getting to know each other better.
I've learnt that next time I get into a relationship it'll probably be with somebody who knows me better; who understands things like: I'm not big on texting, and that I need my space.
Relationships shouldn't be hard. You shouldn't need to think about how many texts you've sent that day and whether it's enough. A good relationship is one that flows naturally and doesn't try and stick to any set rules and I strongly believe in relationships whereby the two people have known each other for a long time and don't have to go through that initial process of working each other out.
I try to keep my responses short now so it will be short conversations but I would rather talk less and more detailed with space inbetween. We hung out two days ago and he already wants to hangout again. I can understand if your married and happen to see eachother everday but dating and having to drive over and plan a date isn't really fun 2 twice a week.