I'm listening to "Lego House" right now. Sometimes music speaks when words elude me. It is how I feel - not relationship-wise but just like you can so intricately put together a lego whatever, it can crumble in an instant.
... Quarter life crisis/Mid life crisis/Cascade Failure - what are your thoughts?
I find myself sad, feeling alone, feeling burnt out, no real direction in my life and scared of what the future holds. I have my good days and bad days like everyone else but do you feel it Is it all made up in my head? Is it real? Do others feel this way?
It used to be the ole "Mid Life Crisis" and never heard of the quarter life crisis or even cascading failure I feel like I am in the midst of. Guess mine would be more mid life due to age but what brought about the term of quarter life crisis or cascade failure I wonder...(rhetorical question)
I guess one way to look at this is to flip it. There are just as many people who associate success with failing alot. Thomas Edison tried 1000 times before illuminating the light bulb and went from job to job because he struggled for a long time. Compare him to the person who succeeds at their job from the start but never invents anything on that scale, and is no where near as fulfilled as Thomas Edison was, because Edison was doing what he enjoyed. He didn't struggle on because someone else had a rigid opinion of how "life should be". He wasn't motivated by money, it was more education and being in his work shop that inspired him.
Something to think about.
It's easy to be conditioned into other peoples thoughts of what a regular life is. But life is too complex for that. Also this mindset of security of a career and cliched things like gauranteed work and the perfect life is an illusion, that's not to say it can't happen, but look at the economy, the changing trends in industry and technology. Nobody knows what it will be like in 15 years from now. So my advice is to enjoy your failings and enjoy learning from them, see it all as some fun computer game where you struggle and then you problem solve. Also if you see someone with the house, the career. Don't automatically assume that you have to have the exact same life and timeline. You can be productive in your own way, you may even be more suited to being the jack of all trades or the adventurer.
This notion of a secure career is out of most peoples control, because it all depends on how your industry and company copes as technology and economy expands. But if that's what you really want then you will get there if you start laying a path towards that genuine desire of a career.
So all your struggles now, or failings, whatever you want to call it, are actually chipping away towards you dealing with problems better down the track. So failings lead to eventual success.
So you are say you're having a quarter life crisis and my response is "that's great news". Because this is your story and it means that you're learning your way through problem solving and skills to deal better in the future. My advice is to change your perception of what your problems are actually are doing for you.
People seem to have very rigid views on what success actually is. Something to think about.
Think about when you read a great book. Imagine if every book was the same, how boring would that be? This is why your life being unique even when you struggle is perfectly fine. All you need to do is persevere. Perseverence is a good word.
