IamThisOne
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This is a bit long, but please read it because I need some advice.
I just started my third semester at community college and I have found three girls who I am interested in becoming friends with. I have not spoken to any of them. I am observing their behavior to try and get an idea of what kind of person they are.
Since I do not talk to anyone on campus that much, I usually observe people and see what their behavior is like. What interested me in these three girls is that they appear to be different than the majority of girls I see, both in appearance and behavior.
The first girl I noticed is in my psychology class. She has brown hair and pale skin, which is cool because I think pale skin looks very attractive. She is pretty skinny. She does not dress like most of the "glamorous, athletic, more popular" girls. She usually wears jeans and a t-shirt. This I find interesting because most girls wear very short shorts, probably because the weather is very hot and humid. Her t-shirts usually say things on them. I have concluded that she was in a club in high school called HOSA because she wore a t-shirt from the club. I have discovered that she lives in the same county as I and that she went to prom because she wore a prom t-shirt. This could mean that she has a boyfriend because she went to prom; however, it could mean she was on the prom comity. I noticed that she wears a bracelet that has the German flag on it and it says "Germany". This suggests that she is interested in Germany, which is cool because I am too. Her behavior in class is quiet. She does not speak to anyone or stealthily text on her phone during class, unlike most girls. That could suggest she is introverted. I have also discovered she is a year younger than I am.
Another girl is in my art class. She has red hair and is skinny. She also does not dress like the majority of girls on campus. I do not know her name. There is an area in next to the supply store and the cafeteria where students congregate and use their laptops and play Magic cards and stuff. I discovered that this girl uses her laptop here before going to art class. As far as I know she has at least one friend. She texts on her phone quite a bit, but not during class. She is pretty quiet and does not talk during class.
The other girl I noticed today in the cafeteria. She was sitting alone at a table against the wall. I tried to get the table next to her's so I could observe her closely (and have something pretty to look at while eating), but when I went to get my food someone took it so I had to get one farther away. Because she chose this seat could suggest several things: she just chose the seat for no reason, she does not feel comfortable sitting amidst a sea of other students, she wanted to be alone. She also did not seem to conform to fashion trends. Because she was alone could mean that she does not have much friends, that she just got out of class and just used her time to go to lunch before her next class, or she just wanted to be alone. She mostly ate at the grill that serves "junk food". This interested me because the majority of girls stay away from this area when they eat. Another thing that interested me was that she was drinking cola. In my observations I have found that most people will choose juice or tea over soda. I sort of have a respect for soda drinker because soda is one of my favorite things. I did not see her text once while she was in there, which reinforced my idea that she does not have many friends on campus. I saw her doing homework or studying which is cool because it suggests that she cares about her school work. This, however, could be the reason she chose to sit alone. I noticed that she has a class in the room across the hall from my psychology class on Tuesdays and Thursdays at about 1:30. I'm going to try and see if she goes to lunch at the same time so I can find out where she goes afterward and possibly make contact with her, if I get the courage.
I am going to gather more information and do more research before I attempt contact. So far my best chances seem to be with the girl in the cafeteria because she is not in any of my classes and if she rejects me, I won't have to see her a lot. The girl in my psychology class seems to be the one who I have no chance of befriending because I only see her in my psych class which is my last class of Tuesdays and Thursdays. After class she goes to her dorm.
I was thinking that if I see the girl in the cafeteria again I could maybe wave to her. I could do this every time I see her and hopefully she could get the idea that I am trying to be friendly with her. I'm guessing if she waves back or smiles that she would be easy to approach, but if she does like most girls do to me (curl their eyebrows and look at me in a very disgusted look) I know not to approach her.
Do you guys think waving at her would be a good idea?
I also want to say that I am aware that my results are based on observation and that does not make my ideas about these girls true.
So what do you guys think?
I just started my third semester at community college and I have found three girls who I am interested in becoming friends with. I have not spoken to any of them. I am observing their behavior to try and get an idea of what kind of person they are.
Since I do not talk to anyone on campus that much, I usually observe people and see what their behavior is like. What interested me in these three girls is that they appear to be different than the majority of girls I see, both in appearance and behavior.
The first girl I noticed is in my psychology class. She has brown hair and pale skin, which is cool because I think pale skin looks very attractive. She is pretty skinny. She does not dress like most of the "glamorous, athletic, more popular" girls. She usually wears jeans and a t-shirt. This I find interesting because most girls wear very short shorts, probably because the weather is very hot and humid. Her t-shirts usually say things on them. I have concluded that she was in a club in high school called HOSA because she wore a t-shirt from the club. I have discovered that she lives in the same county as I and that she went to prom because she wore a prom t-shirt. This could mean that she has a boyfriend because she went to prom; however, it could mean she was on the prom comity. I noticed that she wears a bracelet that has the German flag on it and it says "Germany". This suggests that she is interested in Germany, which is cool because I am too. Her behavior in class is quiet. She does not speak to anyone or stealthily text on her phone during class, unlike most girls. That could suggest she is introverted. I have also discovered she is a year younger than I am.
Another girl is in my art class. She has red hair and is skinny. She also does not dress like the majority of girls on campus. I do not know her name. There is an area in next to the supply store and the cafeteria where students congregate and use their laptops and play Magic cards and stuff. I discovered that this girl uses her laptop here before going to art class. As far as I know she has at least one friend. She texts on her phone quite a bit, but not during class. She is pretty quiet and does not talk during class.
The other girl I noticed today in the cafeteria. She was sitting alone at a table against the wall. I tried to get the table next to her's so I could observe her closely (and have something pretty to look at while eating), but when I went to get my food someone took it so I had to get one farther away. Because she chose this seat could suggest several things: she just chose the seat for no reason, she does not feel comfortable sitting amidst a sea of other students, she wanted to be alone. She also did not seem to conform to fashion trends. Because she was alone could mean that she does not have much friends, that she just got out of class and just used her time to go to lunch before her next class, or she just wanted to be alone. She mostly ate at the grill that serves "junk food". This interested me because the majority of girls stay away from this area when they eat. Another thing that interested me was that she was drinking cola. In my observations I have found that most people will choose juice or tea over soda. I sort of have a respect for soda drinker because soda is one of my favorite things. I did not see her text once while she was in there, which reinforced my idea that she does not have many friends on campus. I saw her doing homework or studying which is cool because it suggests that she cares about her school work. This, however, could be the reason she chose to sit alone. I noticed that she has a class in the room across the hall from my psychology class on Tuesdays and Thursdays at about 1:30. I'm going to try and see if she goes to lunch at the same time so I can find out where she goes afterward and possibly make contact with her, if I get the courage.
I am going to gather more information and do more research before I attempt contact. So far my best chances seem to be with the girl in the cafeteria because she is not in any of my classes and if she rejects me, I won't have to see her a lot. The girl in my psychology class seems to be the one who I have no chance of befriending because I only see her in my psych class which is my last class of Tuesdays and Thursdays. After class she goes to her dorm.
I was thinking that if I see the girl in the cafeteria again I could maybe wave to her. I could do this every time I see her and hopefully she could get the idea that I am trying to be friendly with her. I'm guessing if she waves back or smiles that she would be easy to approach, but if she does like most girls do to me (curl their eyebrows and look at me in a very disgusted look) I know not to approach her.
Do you guys think waving at her would be a good idea?
I also want to say that I am aware that my results are based on observation and that does not make my ideas about these girls true.
So what do you guys think?
(Until you know someone and you've talked at least once or twice and established some rapport and she knows your name and you hers etc.)
