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Dead_on_Arrival

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Officialy the worst start to the week ever...

Mother -in-law rushed to hospital in early hours. Still don't know whats wrong with her.

I have just been told I have an epigastric hernia.

Why do I bother going to the doctor anymore, every time I swear there is something else wrong. Started the year with appendisitis and ending it with hernia.

Somebody get the bolt gun
 
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twiggle

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Dead_on_Arrival said:
Officialy the worst start to the week ever...

Mother -in-law rushed to hospital in early hours. Still don't know whats wrong with her.

I have just been told I have an epigastric hernia.

Why do I bother going to the doctor anymore, every time I swear there is something else wrong. Started the year with appendisitis and ending it with hernia.

Somebody get the bolt gun
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So sorry to hear this. Hernia sounds painful.
I hope your mother in law recovers and that your week picks up.
 
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Vampayah88

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Just broke my bff's heart. At least thats what he says. I feel ****ty but it needed to be done, couldn't keep living like this and pretending everything is ok.
 
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FriendlessGirl

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Okay I know criticism is a big part of learning and I should be open minded enough to listen to it. But why can't I do this? I become so scared and defensive when someone criticizes me, even if they're right. How can I be more patient with it?
 
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Vampayah88

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He's begging me to give him another chance. He doesn't get it. He doesn't get I don't want to make him change his behaviour. It would be pointless.
 
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Vampayah88

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FriendlessGirl said:
Okay I know criticism is a big part of learning and I should be open minded enough to listen to it. But why can't I do this? I become so scared and defensive when someone criticizes me, even if they're right. How can I be more patient with it?
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I'm like that too. I can't take criticism well,i have a short temper and I put things to heart so easily. I would obsess about smth someone said and how i responded and how i should've responded for days.
 
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Agent_Violet

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FriendlessGirl said:
Okay I know criticism is a big part of learning and I should be open minded enough to listen to it. But why can't I do this? I become so scared and defensive when someone criticizes me, even if they're right. How can I be more patient with it?
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well...i struggle with being criticized too. but i found my reaction also depends on the way the other person is choosing to criticize me. I respond better to softer suggestions from someone I consider my equal. I also respond well to criticism from authority bc I know they're just doing their job and it isn't personal.

my point is, maybe the person(people) being critical of you just isn't speaking your emotional language? maybe that's why you're struggling with it?
 
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FriendlessGirl

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Vamp said:
He's begging me to give him another chance. He doesn't get it. He doesn't get I don't want to make him change his behaviour. It would be pointless.
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I know I don't have any experience in this but I think you should stick to your desicion. Tell him firmly that there's nothing wrong with him and he's an amazing friend but its just not.... working for you and it'll be even worse if you both stay in a relationship. He'll be a little hurt for a while but I'm sure he'll come around :)
 
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FriendlessGirl

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Agent_Violet said:
well...i struggle with being criticized too. but i found my reaction also depends on the way the other person is choosing to criticize me. I respond better to softer suggestions from someone I consider my equal. I also respond well to criticism from authority bc I know they're just doing their job and it isn't personal.

my point is, maybe the person(people) being critical of you just isn't speaking your emotional language? maybe that's why you're struggling with it?
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^You're right Agent Violet. I also respond better to softer suggestions. Like my psychology teacher does, whenever he criticizes me about someting he also makes sure that I'm not too hurt by it cos he knows that I take these things too personally. He always tries to make me laugh by saying something funny after that. But the problem is, not everyone can realize that. Like my mom, I often get hurt by her words though I know that she only wants to help but she just sounds so harsh sometimes.
 
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Agent_Violet

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FriendlessGirl said:
^You're right Agent Violet. I also respond better to softer suggestions. Like my psychology teacher does, whenever he criticizes me about someting he also makes sure that I'm not too hurt by it cos he knows that I take these things too personally. He always tries to make me laugh after saying something funny after that. But the problem is, not everyone can realize that. Like my mom, I often get hurt by her words though I know that she only wants to help but she just sounds so harsh sometimes.
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yep some people just don't know the art of constructive criticism...people don't realize if they want to be critical, they can do so in a delicate way and get better results.
something about more flies with honey than vinegar:cool:
 
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Dead_on_Arrival

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Agent_Violet said:
well...i struggle with being criticized too. but i found my reaction also depends on the way the other person is choosing to criticize me. I respond better to softer suggestions from someone I consider my equal. I also respond well to criticism from authority bc I know they're just doing their job and it isn't personal.

my point is, maybe the person(people) being critical of you just isn't speaking your emotional language? maybe that's why you're struggling with it?
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FriendlessGirl said:
^You're right Agent Violet. I also respond better to softer suggestions. Like my psychology teacher does, whenever he criticizes me about someting he also makes sure that I'm not too hurt by it cos he knows that I take these things too personally. He always tries to make me laugh after saying something funny after that. But the problem is, not everyone can realize that. Like my mom, I often get hurt by her words though I know that she only wants to help but she just sounds so harsh sometimes.
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I think everyone finds it difficult to be criticised, it's just that people with anxiety issues are affected more than anyone else because of our already fragile states of mind. I'm not meaning to sound detremental to people with anxiety issues, but it is the way I see things. If only those that do criticise would be kinder in the way they go about it and give it in a positive way then it wouldn't be as painful to hear.
 
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FriendlessGirl

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Agent_Violet said:
yep some people just don't know the art of constructive criticism...people don't realize if they want to be critical, they can do so in a delicate way and get better results.
something about more flies with honey than vinegar:cool:
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Dead_on_Arrival said:
I think everyone finds it difficult to be criticised, it's just that people with anxiety issues are affected more than anyone else because of our already fragile states of mind. I'm not meaning to sound detremental to people with anxiety issues, but it is the way I see things. If only those that do criticise would be kinder in the way they go about it and give it in a positive way then it wouldn't be as painful to hear.
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So true. I wish more people understood that.
 
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Beatrice

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This is how I was woken this morning:

Aunt: *knocks on door* "Hellooooooo?"

Me: *mumbles, half asleep* "Yeah?"

A: "How you feeling?"

M: "Fine...."

A: "After two drinks?"

M: "Yeah, I'm fine..."

A: "Do you feel 21? Do you feel older?"

M: *mumbles in an irritated fashion*

A: "No? No???"

M: *mumbles* (wondering if she'll take the hint....)

A: "HellooooOOOO???" *sighs exasperatedly, goes downstairs*

M: :mad:
 
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Beatrice

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Tino said:
Sounds like she was trying to be nice Beat.:cool:
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Oh don't even, she didn't have to WAKE ME UP to ask me all that! This is why I can't stand the woman. Eeerrraarrtghdgdhf!!! <----- (I don't know what that was)
 
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Dead_on_Arrival

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Its nice to a have long lived cat, but when it senile and wants to be fed at 3 am its like having a baby in the house again
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Oh damn I know that one. Ours is 16 and does that.
But I feel sorry for next doors cat. She is 17, blind and deaf. She meows all night for attention and we can hear her through the wall. She gets around using her whiskers and is so cute. But the bonus is she knows where the litter tray is and never misses.
 
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Beatrice

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I dropped my earring and I cannot find it.... I searched the immediate vicinity, in every nook and cranny I could think of, nowhere to be found..... WHAT ON EARTH??? Maybe it was those earring-snatching gremlins that live under my bed.... They've claimed some of my favorite earrings :mad:
 
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