pls help me..i feel terrible and lost...:(

[giantyx]

3months have passed since i have graduated, and i have not found a job yet, only went for one interview. i feel so pathetic, i find a job to survive, nothing else in my life, i tried finding a goal in life , tried telling myself that i live for the sake of my parents but my heart just was not there i was deceiving myself, i am on medication for 2 years already and nothing seems to be improving, nothing seems to be gg well for me, family, friends, army, work, they are all like thorns scraping my flesh now !!!!!!!I FEEL LIKE I JUST DIE n all these stupid nonsense will end....

 

[Pacific_Loner]

3months have passed since i have graduated, and i have not found a job yet, only went for one interview. i feel so pathetic, i find a job to survive, nothing else in my life, i tried finding a goal in life , tried telling myself that i live for the sake of my parents but my heart just was not there i was deceiving myself, i am on medication for 2 years already and nothing seems to be improving, nothing seems to be gg well for me, family, friends, army, work, they are all like thorns scraping my flesh now !!!!!!!I FEEL LIKE I JUST DIE n all these stupid nonsense will end....

Hmmm I don't know about where you live, but here, not finding a job after 3 months is very normal. It took me 8 months (I was on insurance employment because I was working during my studies). And now it's been almost 3 years and I had 2 contracts and am still looking for a job. Yeah SA doesn't help and it's very very very annoying but this is not hopeless. You really need to send a **** load of resumes to find something - don't get discourage, just take it as a job in itself. In the meantime I try to take advantage of all this free time by doing things that I enjoy and that fight depression - fix yourself in the morning, do sports, music, outdoors, take care of yourself by eating well and cooking, you could also take courses about something you always wanted to learn, since you say you hate engineering, what would you like to do? You seem to be in a state that I have known a lot during all the periods I have been looking for a job, I think this is really about getting up in the morning and finding out that you have nothing in front of you, no reason to get up, nothing to do - Now you need to find a job yes, but you also need to use all the time you have to try and enjoy yourself and your life awaiting for you.
Don't know if it helps.

 

[Richey]

the problem is i cannot think of wad i wan in life, seriously i have a problem because i have no ambition ,i just live for the sake of living. and it is just so stressful to live in singapore, people just do notunderstand SA here, i have been to the pychaitrist, psychologist, i needed help from my sch counsellors and even th department head to deag me through the final 2 years(i spend 5 years completing my degree) and it was a total torture in my 5 years of study, i hated everything, had to complete it just not to make my parents sad as well as not to waste school fees. In the end, my condition is still the same, nothing has changed me, i just keep falling back into this quicksand...

welcome to the modern day world of education, enviromental conditioning & institutions as well as the world of profit, it's all just a big game, none of it is really authentic or a dream, actually i should say "welcome to earth" ..

try and find something that you can at least be somewhat passionate about, if you studied engineering then perhaps draw some designs in your own time, if you think a different career is better then try to find something that you really tick at, if you can't figure out what you are suited to then test out some study days where you read about career topics and what they involve so you know what a career path is all about, also study the politics of businesses, like the difference between big, medium and small businesses, and where you would like to work, whether it;s outdoors or locked inside.

i have tried quite a few careers and what i have concluded is that none of the ambition or creativity that you learn in college relates to the work place, simply because the work place is all about profit, business, pleasing a client, pleasing managers and money, in fact a lot of it is behavioural darts being thrown everywhere and how well you adapt to requests and other co-workers, every place i have worked at there is this fake sense of banter and politics that is like being in a game, it never feels real or genuine to me, so if you can find something that is some what tolerable and pays ok then you are already ahead of many people.

the only great thing about working is that you do learn a skill which can be useful in your day-to-day existance and you may even make a few friends.

 

[Feathers]

Well, you could look into the whole Lifestyle Design thing and start a blog/website or a few?
(Of course you'd need to find some things worth promoting, even if it's just your favorite books and gizmos or such)

There are tons of blogs/sites of people out there who have done something like that, or written their own e-books etc. Some seem to be making pretty good money at it (like Problogger or Pat at Smartpassiveincome) others are only starting out or experimenting...

At least it would give you things to do and you could learn marketable new skills like how to set up a website or do SEO and promoting/marketing etc.?

Meanwhile, you could still send out resumes (it's in the numbers yup), it took a friend 6 months to get a job, another sent hundreds of resumes.. If you google 'life after college' there's a website with that name and some other similar websites and articles too..

You could do some volunteering also, is there anything you'd be interested in, locally or online/globally?

It can be shocking, yeah... Many students get into big shock after finishing studies... But things CAN improve...

Also, what kind of meds have you been on? Maybe it's making things worse and a different med or 'cocktail' of meds might be more helpful? Have you told your doc that you have been feeling suicidal?
Being suicidal can be a blimmin' SIDE-EFFECT of meds, you know!!
So please do some research and talk to your doc. And then tell us how it goes...

Small steps!! Mini-goals... We have fingers crossed for ya!!