freakerz said:When I hear the phone ring, I'm frightened for some reason, even though I should not be since I don't expect calls from anyone. (no friends, etc.) .
Butterflies said:When I first started in the workforce I was absolutely terrified of the phone. I had a massive argument with my superior over it because I wouldn't make the call.
Slowly, slowly it got better. It's still not my favourite thing but I can do it. It also depends alot on who I call. Here are a few things that helped me:
1. Before you make the "big" call - make a few short calls to people you are more comfortable with first - ring to ask the number of someone else or even ring a number and just say "sorry I've got the wrong number" and hang up. If you have someone who you are really friendly with you can call them to say hello.
2. Before you make the call - give yourself some positive feedback - DO NOT SAY i hate this - or I can't do this. Say something like ... What's the big deal about making a telephone call. They can't even see me. They wouldn't have a clue that I'm uncomfortable... and even if I do sound nervous - they probably won't even notice. Even if they do - who cares! What difference does it make? So what - so I get nervous - who cares!
3. I agree that it's a good idea to write down a few notes of what you want to say - just in case you get tongue tied.
4. Just do it. If you have to call at a specific time - keep yourself distracted. Every time you think about the call - try and do something that will distract your mind.
5. Go for job or do some exercise beforehand to get rid of the extra adrenline.
6. Force yourself to SMILE while you make the call. Even if you don't feel like it - do it.
7. After the call REWARD yourself - the fact that you picked up the phone and made the call means you succeeded.
Good luck - and let us know how you go.
doogiebklyn said:Many time I have more anxiety with answering the phone than seeing people face to face.