People looking at you when you talk

[FriendlyShadow]

Has anyone else had this problem where you're talking say a group or even a few people around you and you feel like you get this type of anxiety feeling that you don't like being looked at. I always have to avoid eye contact from others and even in the corner of my eyes I can feel them staring at me. I know it's supposed to be normal to look at someone when you're talking to them, but I'm saying like you don't like being looked at or stared at when you're talking. My voice also ends up trembling and shaking a little and I feel like tears are about to well up my eyes for no apparent reason/ I don't know if it's just because I panic so much or I'm just emotionally overwhelmed. Today I felt kind of bad because I was placed into this social program to interact with two kids almost my age and every time it was my turn to speak, I'd avoid eye contact and look down at the floor or at the walls while I talked. I also hate that my awkwardness gets in the way of it. When people tell a joke I usually end up force laughing and then everything gets more worse and awkward.

 

[PerseverareJasmine]

That feeling makes me uncomfortable too. I can feel my face getting warm and I start blushing when I'm in situations like that.

 

[Psychedelicious]

look awayy

Yeah, it makes me very nervous. People looking at me at all does, and when directly interacting with people it's probably more awkward to not look at them or suspiciously avoid eye contact. Eye contact is such a bitch! I feel like people think I'm staring at them, and I irrationally feel like people are examining my weirdness in my appearance and general awkwardness when they make eye contact with me. I also think it tends to be worse with people near my own age, just as with you (if that's what you meant) I wonder why that is?

 

[jaim38]

Yes exactly! I unintentionally slur my words when I speak on webcam or in front of people. I'm also afraid of looking like I'm staring at/drilling holes into people's eyes, so sometimes I need to look away. I think it helps to break the ice by smiling more, using humor, etc.

 

[chazer2010]

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[NickM]

I'm sorry you're experiencing that, but this forum is for topics involving hyperhidrosis. I think the social anxiety forum would better support this thread.


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[FriendlyShadow]

I'm sorry you're experiencing that, but this forum is for topics involving hyperhidrosis. I think the social anxiety forum would better support this thread.


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Yeah, I didn't realize I posted my thread in the hyperhidrosis forum until now. My mistake.

 

[FriendlyShadow]

Yes exactly! I unintentionally slur my words when I speak on webcam or in front of people. I'm also afraid of looking like I'm staring at/drilling holes into people's eyes, so sometimes I need to look away. I think it helps to break the ice by smiling more, using humor, etc.

The only problem is is that I am really terrible when it comes to humor. I try and tell a joke without trying to make it seem obvious that I am trying to be funny but it fails either way. I guess being funny doesn't come natural to me and I'd think I'd be boring if I didn't use it at all either. When I smile at people, I somehow send off this awkward vibe onto them because I can see it in their faces. I don't know how to explain it, they just look at me like I'm creepy or something which is getting in the way. I can't let this stupid awkwardness go. But yeah, it really is difficult talking to people and especially kids's parents since I'm not good with having conversations with them.

 

[dragons]

Absolutely. I get really uncomfortable talking to people I don't know and/or groups of people because I'm self-conscious about them all looking at me. It may sound stupid but I just get afraid that everyone is staring at me and thinking about how ugly I am. I can't make eye contact except with people I know well (or if I'm really forcing myself to).

 

[Hellhound]

They're not staring, they're merely paying attention to you.

 

[Scandic123]

I have the same problem, though I've become much better at having eye contact with people in the last year's time. I always look at people when they're talking, but I simply can't hold it, I can't help but look away. Also, that thing with tears for no apparent reason, I also experience that a lot.

 

[FriendlyShadow]

They're not staring, they're merely paying attention to you.

Maybe staring is the right word to use in this case, but either way it gives me this sense of nervousness by them just looking at me. Maybe I just don't like being looked at because it's not very natural for me personally.

 

[dallasthekid]

this happens to me all the time! it sucks lol. ive had times just like you said where im about to break out in tears in front of everyone.

 

[lilmutegirl]

I have noticed that when I am talking to someone (not listening to them talking) I tend to look to the side of them. I am pretty uncomfortable with eye contact, but I feel like I should make eye contact while listening to other people to show that I am actively listening and show respect. Unfortunately, sometimes my eyes water when making eye contact, which can make the situation even more awkward.