If only they would just accept my 'no' and leave it at that. ........... Then there's the week leading up to the party and constantly being asked whether you are going or not. Argh! I feel like putting a sign on my head saying 'no i am not going to the damn party!'
Couldn't have put it better myself. Then it gets to a stage where I feel angry & resentful that there's even a party in the first place because it's causing this stress to happen!
Of course, the next day, you get all the "you should have come...." comments. Yuck.
The best thing to do is to be completely honest from the outset. If you dont want to go are you committing a hidious crime. Absolutely not. I always have people calling me up planning how we will be going, where we will be going afterwards. If i do end up going and i am not enjoying the night then i want to be able to leave at my own will. This is why i hate getting a lift to an event because you have no control over that.
In modern society you are judged harshly if you dont go out to "The Pub" every weekend. Now having some form of a social life is important just so you have someone to talk too.
I get my kicks out of playing guitar and reading!! And enjoying company of my close friends. I dont get my kicks out of being dragged along to something i dont want to go to. And i have been hasseled by workmates and even threatened and humiliated at work because of my choice not to turn up.
And its normally a large group of young people who work in Hospitality! I work in Hospitality! so its all good looking waiting staff! Cringes! S
o i usually find the night to be a daunting experiance. And because i am fit and always dress well everyone assumes that i must be some R&B junkie who wants to dance to god awful Nelly/P.Diddy music. I dont dance to anything. It has to be something decent like - NWA/Blondie/Stone Roses/Primal Scream. And they react terribly to it. On the plus side there is a never-ending supply of free Booze!! and a few people that i enjoy chatting to. But after chatting to a few people and enjoying a few drinks i just want to get out of there. I prefer seeing a Live band or Reading a book!
My parents have lately been saying to me that "I should be going to the pub! every weekend" "Thats what the kids are doing these days". I have no problem with that. However i dont particularly enjoy the pub scene. The music is normally terrible Bon Jovi style Tripe!! and it just comes across as who is the biggest EGO! in the entire place.