findingbeauty
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So, someone on Facebook posted a question yesterday on how to get an incessant talker to shut up without being rude. I replied, a little concerned in the back of my mind that a family member/relative of mine who knows I have trouble with the amount of talking they do, may or may not see my reply, and I thought "oh, well, if they do, maybe it won't be so bad if they understand how I feel. I stayed with this person for 10 days at the end of last month when visiting out-of-state family. I made gentle whiny complaints a couple times, that I couldn't listen anymore or my ear would fall off, when I felt trapped and was talked at for hours (literally).
I wrote: The only solution I have is to limit my time with them. If stuck, either tune out half of it, or butt in and talk (if you're not talking they will be). Funny thing is how *we* worry about being rude...isn't it rude to incessantly talk someone's ear off? I find it very taxing. Even if I love the person to pieces!
The next day I saw something she posted on her own wall: So happy to be me. Someone who is lively, excited and talkative with lots of interests and friends. Not someone who is isolated, lonely and completely self-serving. Thats a very sad lonely life. So thankful God made me who I am.
I obviously have thoughts and feelings about this, but before I say more, I'd like to hear your unbiased opinion. What do you think/feel about this scenario? I am open to correction to if you think I did something wrong. And how do you think I should/shouldn't respond to the situation?
I wrote: The only solution I have is to limit my time with them. If stuck, either tune out half of it, or butt in and talk (if you're not talking they will be). Funny thing is how *we* worry about being rude...isn't it rude to incessantly talk someone's ear off? I find it very taxing. Even if I love the person to pieces!
The next day I saw something she posted on her own wall: So happy to be me. Someone who is lively, excited and talkative with lots of interests and friends. Not someone who is isolated, lonely and completely self-serving. Thats a very sad lonely life. So thankful God made me who I am.
I obviously have thoughts and feelings about this, but before I say more, I'd like to hear your unbiased opinion. What do you think/feel about this scenario? I am open to correction to if you think I did something wrong. And how do you think I should/shouldn't respond to the situation?