o my god help

[Falkor]

o my god

my teacher just walked up to me, and told me that i need to hold a speech.

i need to stand in front of the full class.

this is the first time for me in school again after four years of streetfear, im still insanely fearful.

the guys from class even dislike me because i am always hiding in the toilets and never say hi. they always look like their disgusted at me and know i'm so in fear. so i look upset all the time around thenm.

i can't even use the canteen to sit with people,

i am so much scared right now.

she is still explaining how we are going to hold the speech.

i can only feel my heart beating hard and getting a black out.

i want to tell her that i can't do it, is that a good idea to do ?

or is it bad for my results ?

oh man.. i really will cry,

the last time i held a speech in my life,

i actually tried, and after 1 minute i bursted out in tears and ran away from the whole class.

I feel that the same will happen again,

because this is MY worst fear.

Help me ....

 

[Thelema]

If everyone has to do it, then you'll just be another presentation they have to listen to.

You can always ask to do something else. It's a class, not a prison...the teacher should understand

 

[Raichel]

Same problem here. Except for me, it'd be debat instead of presentation. I'm so scared, but I know I have to do it, because everyone else has to as well. Dunno, maybe I'll take some drugs to calm me down before hand.

 

[Falkor]

Same problem here. Except for me, it'd be debat instead of presentation. I'm so scared, but I know I have to do it, because everyone else has to as well. Dunno, maybe I'll take some drugs to calm me down before hand.

Well then I should drink a can of alcohol. God sakes. This is the hell.

Yeah, I know I have to... gosh::

You know, I'll ask my girlfriend and therapist(s) to help me practice before the time it happens!!! :::::

 

[hidwell]

For people with SA public speaking is the hardest to overcome, and for many of us a bridge to far.

 

[laure15]

Tell your teacher about your problems, maybe she will let you slide this time. Remember, your health comes first, so if you think you will have panic attacks or faint, then tell your teacher.
I am also scared of holding a speech in front of many people, especially, people who dislike me. I am scared they will 'boo' me or do things to embarrass me.
Please don't drink alcohol right before the speech. Alcohol can make you blurt out things you never meant to say, which will embarrass you in front of your classmates.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

i'd ask to do a paper and work your way up by presenting just in front of your teacher

 

[Amitush123]

I think you should not because you are scared of it
Make a good speech, and while speaking try to focus on several spots in the crowd, not meeting their eyes but their foreheads...I think that overcoming such barrier will help you in the future

 

[AsTimeBurns]

Well for starters it's best to try and realise that even though it may seem like an onrushing storm of doom that will be the worst thing you've ever experienced... it really won't be and it'll be over before you know it.

I always used to struggle with presentations in front of people, but I've found that the best thing to do is:

A) Practice it over and over again until you can do it all from memory. That way even if you're nervous or scared when doing it, you can pretty do it on auto-pilot since you know it all so well.

B) Look at the audience. If you constantly look down or avoid looking at them, it'll just increase your feelings of nervousness and tension because you'll start thinking about how it must be so obvious you're nervous and they must be able to see it. So just glance around every few seconds. You don't have to look anyone in the eye, just glance at faces.

C) Try and relax. A difficult one I know, but if you think about it, a short presentation to a bunch of students is really not that important in the grand scheme of things, so even if you mess it up it doesn't really matter. Some students messed theirs up when I was at university, they went up there and just choked and could barely speak, and this was some of the more confident guys in the class, but no-one actually cared, no-one judged them for it, because it was just a presentation, it wasn't the end of the world.

 

[emerald_star733]

I wonder if you talk to your teacher and explain your genuine fear, if she will allow you to make a video presentation. (just video your speech kind of like youtube) and then take a "sick day" on the day it will be shown? In certain circumstances, the teacher may allow this. I wish you luck!

 

[kristina303]

In HS I had a big presentation I was scared of so I went to the counselor and I just had to do it in front of her and my teacher. Wouldn't hurt to talk to her about it.

 

[AsTimeBurns]

I'd actually recommend doing it to the class if you can, rather than just to the teacher. The one thing that makes a huge difference in presentation anxiety is practice. The more you do it, the less daunting it becomes, and if you keep getting out of it, it's only going to increase the tension and anxiety next time.

 

[Falkor]

Well for starters it's best to try and realise that even though it may seem like an onrushing storm of doom that will be the worst thing you've ever experienced... it really won't be and it'll be over before you know it.

I always used to struggle with presentations in front of people, but I've found that the best thing to do is:

A) Practice it over and over again until you can do it all from memory. That way even if you're nervous or scared when doing it, you can pretty do it on auto-pilot since you know it all so well.

B) Look at the audience. If you constantly look down or avoid looking at them, it'll just increase your feelings of nervousness and tension because you'll start thinking about how it must be so obvious you're nervous and they must be able to see it. So just glance around every few seconds. You don't have to look anyone in the eye, just glance at faces.

C) Try and relax. A difficult one I know, but if you think about it, a short presentation to a bunch of students is really not that important in the grand scheme of things, so even if you mess it up it doesn't really matter. Some students messed theirs up when I was at university, they went up there and just choked and could barely speak, and this was some of the more confident guys in the class, but no-one actually cared, no-one judged them for it, because it was just a presentation, it wasn't the end of the world.

A. Thank you, practice would make me feel more confident about it. Awesome idea!!

B.Yikes, that's tough, but I have to!

C.Thank you, that's very god to know that I'm not the only one. And I think I will take an exam pill or something to chill down XD or a beer , nah just kidding :: just I will try to relax before It happens....tutututu

thank you for your advice you should write a blog with tips, you are a good advicer ^_^

 

[Falkor]

I wonder if you talk to your teacher and explain your genuine fear, if she will allow you to make a video presentation. (just video your speech kind of like youtube) and then take a "sick day" on the day it will be shown? In certain circumstances, the teacher may allow this. I wish you luck!

Yeah youtube is much easier, because the webcam ain't no eye. :: and I can always edit it before I post it If I mumble my mouth over.... ::

I will though practice with her alone first, or with another guy who is scared yayyyy i'mm not alone ^_^ but uh yeah, i really want to do it!!

when i posted this i was in a depressive mood and was like NAHHHH nooooo!

but now I'm like I WANNA GO FOR IT!!

I am pretty bipolar ^_^ so let's hope this emotion will be there xD

but thank you , YouTube is a good option , I could consider it when it won't work out , thank you, emerald, star!

 

[SeriousJester]

Even people without social phobia get nervous before speeches, it's perfectly normal to feel worried. I've been forced to do lots of presentations in college, and despite the long tension beforehand, they always seem to fly by really quickly, leaving you thinking afterwards "What, that was it? Hey, that actually wasn't so bad".