EscapeArtist
Well-known member
Hmm well I guess the problem is not having the guts to say that you have a boyfriend, because that would be the simplest approach,even though it would make awkward the scene anyways. I'm stating this from a similar point of view, where I work guys ask me out and I am reluctant to tell them flat out that I'm a lesbian because it feels blunt and quick. So I take their number and feel anxious all day that they will show up. It would be easier if I could have just said it at that time. No, I don't think it's a bad idea to go to a different coffee shop, I understand. But I think it would strengthen you more to go back and tell the person that you have a boyfriend if he starts flirting with you. You can just laugh it off and thank him for the compliments or something, bring up a subject like "how's your day going?" and when he asks you back, say that it's good/whatever, and mention that you did something with your boyfriend... Make it kind of casual but bring it up so he knows, because this may happen again and it would be better to just not fear it happening again and learn how to deal with this common life situation.