Earthcircle
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I am 49, have had many years of therapy -- although not recently -- and have had a ton of meds. I have also read a stack of self-help books. Despite all that, I'm not even sure what my problem is. I tend to be remarkably non-social, a fact which used to make me really miserable although now I'm less sure how to feel about it. I am also very uncertain how to address the problem, if it is a problem. My analyst -- yes, I actually had an analyst once -- told me that my core problem is depression. I am not social because depression is not social. So should I be correcting my depression somehow? Am I depressed? I'm not even sure. I hate the fact that I'm not in a relationship, and it amazes me when people who identify as having social phobia will start talking about their partner, spouse, children, etc.
I was also told a number of times in the late 80s and early 90s that I needed to get in touch with my feelings, a remark which I find very confusing. I don't know if I ever got in touch with them or not. I hope people don't think I'm trying to be funny. I know that on discussion threads, people sometimes think I am trolling. I am not. This is serious. I honestly don't know what "getting in touch with feelings" is supposed to mean, and I don't know what my problem is or even if I have a problem. But if anyone says "All that matters is whether you are happy," I will have to reply that I don't think I'm happy. I am too isolated, and something seems wrong.
I was also told a number of times in the late 80s and early 90s that I needed to get in touch with my feelings, a remark which I find very confusing. I don't know if I ever got in touch with them or not. I hope people don't think I'm trying to be funny. I know that on discussion threads, people sometimes think I am trolling. I am not. This is serious. I honestly don't know what "getting in touch with feelings" is supposed to mean, and I don't know what my problem is or even if I have a problem. But if anyone says "All that matters is whether you are happy," I will have to reply that I don't think I'm happy. I am too isolated, and something seems wrong.
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