Normal Society

mikebird

Banned
Psychology

Sigmund Freud, whose doctor assisted his suicide because of oral cancer caused by smoking[55]
Most tobacco smokers begin during adolescence or early adulthood. Smoking has elements of risk-taking and rebellion, which often appeal to young people. The presence of high-status models and peers may also encourage smoking. Because teenagers are influenced more by their peers than by adults,[56] attempts by parents, schools, and health professionals at preventing people from trying cigarettes are often unsuccessful.

Smokers often report that cigarettes help relieve feelings of stress. However, the stress levels of adult smokers are slightly higher than those of nonsmokers. Adolescent smokers report increasing levels of stress as they develop regular patterns of smoking, and smoking cessation leads to reduced stress. Far from acting as an aid for mood control, nicotine dependency seems to exacerbate stress. This is confirmed in the daily mood patterns described by smokers, with normal moods during smoking and worsening moods between cigarettes. Thus, the apparent relaxant effect of smoking only reflects the reversal of the tension and irritability that develop during nicotine depletion. Dependent smokers need nicotine to remain feeling normal.[57]

In the mid-20th century psychologists such as Hans Eysenck developed a personality profile for the typical smoker of that period; extraversion was associated with smoking, and smokers tended to be sociable, impulsive, risk taking, and excitement-seeking individuals.[58] Although personality and social factors may make people likely to smoke, the actual habit is a function of operant conditioning. During the early stages, smoking provides pleasurable sensations (because of its action on the dopamine system) and thus serves as a source of positive reinforcement. After an individual has smoked for many years, the avoidance of withdrawal symptoms and negative reinforcement become the key motivations. Like all addictive substances, the amount of exposure required to become dependent on nicotine can vary from person to person.
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
^ Because some groups are full of ignorance, it doesn't mean it's socially acceptable. Wherever you got that from, it proves nothing.
 

jaim38

Well-known member
You guys are misguided.

In America (don't know about other countries), there is pressure to lose your virginity by a certain age and to drink. People who are still virgins in their late 20s, 30s, 40s, and older are frowned upon. There is also pressure to drink alcohol in parties, bars, and clubs. I was at a social event once and I made the mistake of telling people that I don't drink. And I feel like I got made fun of for that.

People who are still virgins and don't drink will be labeled as "immature", "inexperienced", etc.
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
In America (don't know about other countries), there is pressure to lose your virginity by a certain age and to drink. People who are still virgins in their late 20s, 30s, 40s, and older are frowned upon. There is also pressure to drink alcohol in parties, bars, and clubs. I was at a social event once and I made the mistake of telling people that I don't drink. And I feel like I got made fun of for that.

People who are still virgins and don't drink will be labeled as "immature", "inexperienced", etc.

No doubts that would happen. But only when you come across of groups of immature people. I'm certain that the whole society doesn't think like that, because not the whole human race is ignorant.

Besides, why do others have to know about your sexual life? I don't think that'd be a question you'd find in a job interview. Nor if you drink or party. On the contrary, they wouldn't hire someone who brags about what they do in their bedrooms or how much they drank in every party they've been in. Or am I mistaken?

If you plan on trying to approach the typical people, yeah... you might be laughed at. But why do you want to approach them in the first place? Do you really think you'll get anything meaningful out of socializing with them?

In my country, for example, sexism is something really common. You see it a lot on the media, they keep telling you how women are only useful to clean after the man, take care of kids and be a sexual tool. There are standards for men as well. Only the ignorant people fall for it.

I've met plenty of ignorant ones, I've experienced plenty of bad situations for not being a certain way, so I understand the frustration. But I've also met people who were just... normal (for lack of a better word). it's just a matter of getting out of the same groups and exploring. If you visit the same places over and over, they will be filled with the same ignorant ones, most likely.

I hope I made sense.
 

jaim38

Well-known member
Besides, why do others have to know about your sexual life? I don't think that'd be a question you'd find in a job interview. Nor if you drink or party. On the contrary, they wouldn't hire someone who brags about what they do in their bedrooms or how much they drank in every party they've been in. Or am I mistaken?

I don't think employers ask that in a job interview, and it's probably illegal. Outside of the workplace, I sure hope nobody asks me such questions because I don't want them to think I'm a freak, or weird.

If you plan on trying to approach the typical people, yeah... you might be laughed at. But why do you want to approach them in the first place? Do you really think you'll get anything meaningful out of socializing with them?

The social event that I went to was part of my school assignment. I had to attend a presentation related to one of the topics and write up on it. After the presentation, there was a social hangout and free food and drinks at the courtyard. Being the hungry college student that I was, I decided to take advantage of this. I ate the free food, but then we had to order drinks. I told the waiter that I don't drink and wanted water instead. The other people around me were like, "You don't? That's too bad." Someone offered to order drinks for me. I got weird looks from some people.

I've met plenty of ignorant ones, I've experienced plenty of bad situations for not being a certain way, so I understand the frustration. But I've also met people who were just... normal (for lack of a better word). it's just a matter of getting out of the same groups and exploring. If you visit the same places over and over, they will be filled with the same ignorant ones, most likely.

I hope I made sense.

Yes, you agree with you. I need to find a group where I fit in. Luckily, I have some friends who are understanding.
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
The social event that I went to was part of my school assignment. I had to attend a presentation related to one of the topics and write up on it. After the presentation, there was a social hangout and free food and drinks at the courtyard. Being the hungry college student that I was, I decided to take advantage of this. I ate the free food, but then we had to order drinks. I told the waiter that I don't drink and wanted water instead. The other people around me were like, "You don't? That's too bad." Someone offered to order drinks for me. I got weird looks from some people.

The event was full of dummies. I don't know if this helps, but I doubt they cared too much and they probably minded their own business after that. I dont doubt they migth have given you weird looks, though. Some people are like that, sadly. But it's not you, it's their problem.

Yes, you agree with you. I need to find a group where I fit in. Luckily, I have some friends who are understanding.

That's good :)
 
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