i grew up with a single mother and 2 sisters, my mother and myself dont get along that well and never did its gotten better as i have grown up and have been able to express myself alot better but i dont think i will ever be a mamas boy but my question is, I could never talk to my mother about anything because i either turned into a battle or just a one way tongue lashing and it just got to point where i didnt feel like being beat down all the time. There was no father figure or uncles or anybody older than me that i could confide in and we moved around so much that i didnt even feel comfortable talking to teachers because i didnt know when we where moving again. As far as friends go i have a couple but i met them almost at adulthood and dont feel comfortable talking to them either about certain topics, but sometimes they see i am disturbed and they ask me whats wrong and i just say "nothing I'm cool". I have been dealing with my own problems for a lomg time i was just wondering if not talking to people about your problems is a bad thing
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jhanniffy
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Talking can help, have you ever considered getting help from like a councillor or someone? Communication your worries or problems does help you understand them better, even just saying them out loud or writing it down. I have never shared anything personal with either of my parents as something like you said above would occur but I see a counsellor and she helps me open up (a lot of it is through writing)
When you learn to share what is bothering you you learn to put them into perspective. You see that others can have the same worries or that they are very irrational and from there you learn to deal with them. Hopefully that can be a little help
When you learn to share what is bothering you you learn to put them into perspective. You see that others can have the same worries or that they are very irrational and from there you learn to deal with them. Hopefully that can be a little help
Nanita
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It´s good to talk... Maybe it can help u to "talk" to people on this board. I hope so.
I never share stuff with my parents or other relatives, because they don´t get it. The times I did try to talk to them about important issues, I only felt bad & empty afterwards, because there was no understanding.
I never share stuff with my parents or other relatives, because they don´t get it. The times I did try to talk to them about important issues, I only felt bad & empty afterwards, because there was no understanding.
If you can deal with your problems effectively, then maybe you don't need someone else's input on that particular problem.
If you can't seem to handle it alone or it may be taking 'too long', then a different perspective or a few can be helpful.
If you never had someone to talk to, it can be a great experience if/when you find sympathetic people to listen to you and talk in a 'normal' and understanding way!!
So yeah, maybe start by posting here on the forum or elsewhere online, and/or try to find one or two trustworthy people that you can talk to and be genuine with in RL... Someone going through the same or similar problems can understand you better and be more supportive...
If problems are big/complicated, maybe a counsellor or mentor or someone who has been through the same/similar things and has now overcome them can help.
It's important to choose wisely who and where you can trust, and what with, in what way...
What kind of things would you like to talk about?
If you can't seem to handle it alone or it may be taking 'too long', then a different perspective or a few can be helpful.
If you never had someone to talk to, it can be a great experience if/when you find sympathetic people to listen to you and talk in a 'normal' and understanding way!!
So yeah, maybe start by posting here on the forum or elsewhere online, and/or try to find one or two trustworthy people that you can talk to and be genuine with in RL... Someone going through the same or similar problems can understand you better and be more supportive...
If problems are big/complicated, maybe a counsellor or mentor or someone who has been through the same/similar things and has now overcome them can help.
It's important to choose wisely who and where you can trust, and what with, in what way...
What kind of things would you like to talk about?