new here, just want a friend
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DespairSoul
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Hello
Welcome here!
Welcome here!
jojo77
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hi! thanks for making me feel welcome everyone.
to stef; i'm struggleing with my SA, as it has reached an all time high ever since i had my daughter. i got pregnant and lost my only friend, now i barely talk to anyone, and i stay cooped up in my house with jojo (my daughter).
long story short, i'm going crazy being super alone with no one to talk to, especially no one that has SA and that can relate, it's extremely frustrating and i feel even more alone knowing that no one close to me can relate.
what about you?
to stef; i'm struggleing with my SA, as it has reached an all time high ever since i had my daughter. i got pregnant and lost my only friend, now i barely talk to anyone, and i stay cooped up in my house with jojo (my daughter).
long story short, i'm going crazy being super alone with no one to talk to, especially no one that has SA and that can relate, it's extremely frustrating and i feel even more alone knowing that no one close to me can relate.
what about you?
DespairSoul
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@Jojo
I'm sorry to hear that Well but u have the most beautiful gift what u can have and that's your small sweet angel! How u manage take care about your daughter with SA? I hope u are doing well enough to go shopping, for walks etc. Must be very hard for u... I feel with u! Maybe u can try visiting therapy for mom's in similar situations or try find help? Do u was ever trying help around u? Some therapy? I know is hard i suffer with severe SA by myself. I can't imagine have a child. This was very brave step of u anyway!! I hope u both will be as much fine as possible. Here is very good support of people and community i think u will feel here very well! Also i'm sorry to hear u lost your friend maybe things will yet change for u in that case?
I'm sorry to hear that
Well but u have the most beautiful gift what u can have and that's your small sweet angel! How u manage take care about your daughter with SA? I hope u are doing well enough to go shopping, for walks etc. Must be very hard for u... I feel with u! Maybe u can try visiting therapy for mom's in similar situations or try find help? Do u was ever trying help around u? Some therapy? I know is hard i suffer with severe SA by myself. I can't imagine have a child. This was very brave step of u anyway!! I hope u both will be as much fine as possible. Here is very good support of people and community i think u will feel here very well! Also i'm sorry to hear u lost your friend maybe things will yet change for u in that case?
jojo77
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wow, thank you. i feel validated in the way that i feel, which i never really have before. i have recently started seeing a therapist, it's helping a little bit. i just started on a medication called sertraline, generic version of zoloft. im not quite sure if it's really helping too much, but we will see i guess. but you know, you're right, jojo is my angel. she's the only person that dosent make me anxious, she's my best friend. and i know it would seem to be the oposite. but she's probably the only reason i CAN go out and shop for her diapers, and formula, and groceries, and what not. but it still is extremely hard. sometimes i get scared thinking if i were to have a full blown panic attack while taking care of her. but in the back of my mind, every time i start to freak out, or get dizzy, or my vision blurs , i think to my self, stay with it you have jojo to think of. she truely is a blessing. but SA still dose get in the way of me being the best mom i can be ::
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DespairSoul
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wow, thank you. i feel validated in the way that i feel, which i never really have before. i have recently started seeing a therapist, it's helping a little bit. i just started on a medication called sertraline, generic version of zoloft. im not quite sure if it's really helping too much, but we will see i guess. but you know, you're right, jojo is my angel. she's the only person that dosent make me anxious, she's my best friend. and i know it would seem to be the oposite. but she's probably the only reason i CAN go out and shop for her diapers, and formula, and groceries, and what not. but it still is extremely hard. sometimes i get scared thinking if i were to have a full blown panic attack while taking care of her. but in the back of my mind, every time i start to freak out, or get dizzy, or my vision blurs , i think to my self, stay with it you have jojo to think of. she truely is a blessing. but SA still dose get in the way of me being the best mom i can be :
U are welcome
I'm sure u fight hard to take care about your angel! That's very good u started therapy. Helping little is still better as "non help". I love to her tha for your daughter u keep fighting so hard for living. Medication take some time to help because body need to get use to it for new chemical reactions in the brain. What about your family? Mom or dad? Does they know about your issues? I hope u have some family which can sometimes little help? U can be proud of yourself for all of it what u are doing because is hard and u will give your best. Almost every mom want be the best mom
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Deus_Ex_Lemur
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Welcome, Jojo. I think you are on your way... it'll take time to see if therapist is good and working, same with any medication. You are an inspiration really, SA with a child, single mother, and forcing self to face some fears for her. It's esp hard when feel alone still; losing a big friend, etc. But you can find a lot of support here; and a little less lonely here =)
jojo77
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you know i have mentioned the words "social phobia" to my mom and my grandma, and i think that they just think it's not as big of an issue as it really is. but i think my biggest supporter is jojo's dad, we are still together, and he's extremely understanding of my SA. however it's still not enough sometimes, since he dosen't actually have SA and can't completely relate. but he is still there for me and i think that without him i would be much worse off.U are welcome
jojo77
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thank you so much, ha..to think of myself as an inspiration is wierd but nice that you say that. i'm not single- but not married, and not living with the daddy...i'm still struggleing finacially, i might as well be single. thank you for the kind words and support.
DespairSoul
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Yes i know what u mean. Your mom and granny don't know how it's because they never experience such thing as SA beast is =/ SA sufferer's can relate. I'm glad u have such a support in your hubby because that's very important
He can't maybe relate but he is here for u! Yes with out support is thought yes. If u are SA and no one know it about u. U live day after day with fear and no one know it, no one can relate lots people out there what are in those situation with no support, no understanding. I hope u will manage feel better day after day. A lot people will give u here many advices and we can relate. Amazing would be if u find some nice friend what is from Colorado as u was wishing.
Welcome!
I think you will find most the people here easy to talk to.
I wish you and Jojo all the best
I think you will find most the people here easy to talk to.
I wish you and Jojo all the best
blackgatescross
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Hello
Welcome to the site.
Take care of yourself.
Welcome to the site.
Take care of yourself.
I'm also new here and the reason I'm here is because I'm sick of talking to people and trying to explain to people about my situation.
With that said I'm not gonna sit here and sulk all day and make excuses for myself in life.
So feel free to join me in my quest to overcome SA.
With that said I'm not gonna sit here and sulk all day and make excuses for myself in life.
So feel free to join me in my quest to overcome SA.