My relationship is over

[solitarysiren]

My boyfriend and I weren't getting along lately, and this weekend, we could not get along for the most part. It was awful. I'm glad that the fighting is over, but I'm sad that things turned out the way they did. We both agreed that not seeing each other for a while is the way to go for now. Maybe we can talk in the future, but I don't know when that will be. I am coming to terms with the idea that our relationship can't provide me with what I hope for. I feel lonely right now because we used to talk daily, but now, we aren't talking. Talking to each other on the phone at this point also seems like a bad idea. I just didn't expect this all to blow up so quickly. :-(

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Give him some time to himself to calm down and take some time away from him to let the impact of the fighting go away. Maybe you two can resolve your differences later. Or maybe it really is the end of the road. Only time will tell. Why don't you indulge in some hobbies or interests? You could use some relaxation and happiness after this trial, I believe. It'll take your mind off of things.

Sorry this had to happen.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I've been through this.
It really does happen fast-- too fast for you to react right away.

Anyways, I'm sorry you're going through this right now but it's probably for the best if you were arguing all the time, right?
You see that as a good thing, don't you?

The problem with ended relationships is that we tend to focus on all the things we miss rather than the things we didn't like.
Sometimes, trying to focus on the things you aren't going to miss helps.

 

[Srijita52]

I understand that you must be feeling lonely, but is there anyway you can distract yourself? Maybe do something you like. Also talk to someone if you want to. I hope you feel better with time, hang in there and take care of yourself.

 

[solitarysiren]

I visited a friend earlier this week, and I've been engaging in my hobbies. It's been crummy, but I've been holding up better than I thought I would. I've been less eager to wake up lately, but I haven't been crying. He called me a few days ago acting as though we should just pretend like nothing happened. I told him that we should take a break from talking over the phone for a few days or so. I'm not sure when we will talk again, but I called him today and left a message telling him that I hoped things were going okay and such.

I made a pros and cons list, and the cons outweigh the pros by far. :-( I just don't see how it can work out, but that is good to know now rather than later. I hope to remain friends with him because we care about each other.

 

[solitarysiren]

And it's definitely over. We tried to talk things out, but unsurprisingly, things blew up. I thought that we were coming to an understanding at least, and then I received a bunch of text messages about how this was all my fault, how he couldn't take it anymore, how selfish I am, and that he was hoping that I was going to change. I called him up in response and we got into an argument. He said "goodbye" and hung up on me. I have done my best to be there for him, and nothing is ever enough. He said he would do nice things for me (things I didn't even ask for), but that usually didn't happen. I want to be appreciated. I want to be with someone who doesn't get my hopes up and then smashes them. It's not worth being with someone who doesn't accept me. I decided that I was tired of being manipulated and catering to his needs all of the time, and so, I have been doing less for him just to keep my sanity. That in turn blew up. At least I know how things are now. I wasn't his partner; I was just his caretaker, a word he used himself.

I won't be contacting him. We'll just fight. I don't think we can even be friends, but seeing this side of him makes me less interested in remaining friends because of how mean he can be.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

And it's definitely over. We tried to talk things out, but unsurprisingly, things blew up. I thought that were coming to an understanding at least, and then I received a bunch of text messages about how this was all my fault, how he couldn't take it anymore, how selfish I am, and that he was hoping that I was going to change. I called him up in response and we got into an argument. He said "goodbye" and hung up on me. I have done my best to be there for him, and nothing is ever enough. He said he would do nice things for me (things I didn't even ask for), but that usually didn't happen. I want to be appreciated. I want to be with someone who doesn't get my hopes up and then smashes them. It's not worth being with someone who doesn't accept me. I decided that I was tired of being manipulated and catering to his needs all of the time, and so, I have been doing less just to keep my sanity. That in turn blew up. At least I know how things are now. I wasn't his partner; I was just his caretaker, a word he used himself.

He sounds very immature..... You're free!