worrywort
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MORE THAN JUST FEAR?
do you ever wonder whether it's more than just fear that we feel? Maybe the term "fear" is used too broadly. Maybe those feelings that we get to run away, or to get outside into space, or to just get out of certain social situations, aren't just because we're scared. Maybe those feelings we have are signifiers of something else. I've been thinking about this recently, and I've come up with a little theory. I think there are three other factors we need to take into consideration before we define our feelings as purely fear and nothing else;
1. MORALITY
2. IDENTITY
3. PRIORITIES
MORALITY - i.e. if a gang of kids were trying to get you to take drugs, or start a fight, or take part in some extreme ritual, and they were calling you a coward for not participating would that be purely fear that's holding you back? Or is it also your conscience?
IDENTITY - i.e. What if there was a boyband that performed on stage every weekend, and one of the members felt really uncomfortable on stage....more so than the others...and he was constantly fighting the urge to run off the stage. Is it simply because he's a coward? Because he's less brave than the others? Or could it also be that being in a boyband just isn't this guys calling? Maybe he's been doing it just to fit in, or to please his parents, or for some other wrong reason. Maybe he just feels like a fake and that's why he wants to get off the stage....not lack of bravery. Maybe sometimes the places we find ourselves in just aren't where we're meant to be. Maybe it's not just fear. Maybe it's this feeling of being fake that makes us want to reach for the door.
PRIORITIES - i.e. sometimes it seems you can get a barrage of opportunities thrown at you to face fears, but does that mean you have to face every one, or you're a coward? I'd find being trapped down a badger hole with badger food strapped to my face pretty terrifying....but that doesn't mean I should go and try it so as to rid me of this fear....it would be a waste of time? right?....or would it?! lol! could be fun actually!....but I'm just wondering, maybe the reason we decline some opportunites isn't just because we're scared. Maybe we're going a different direction with our lives and it'd just distract us or would be a waste of time.
erm....I'm not sure....these thoughts are still little baby thoughts at the mo.....but I'd love to hear if anybody else has anything to say on the topic? am I wrong? Are ALL fears good to face? Are there more factors? Am I thinking too black and white? Is life more complex?
do you ever wonder whether it's more than just fear that we feel? Maybe the term "fear" is used too broadly. Maybe those feelings that we get to run away, or to get outside into space, or to just get out of certain social situations, aren't just because we're scared. Maybe those feelings we have are signifiers of something else. I've been thinking about this recently, and I've come up with a little theory. I think there are three other factors we need to take into consideration before we define our feelings as purely fear and nothing else;
1. MORALITY
2. IDENTITY
3. PRIORITIES
MORALITY - i.e. if a gang of kids were trying to get you to take drugs, or start a fight, or take part in some extreme ritual, and they were calling you a coward for not participating would that be purely fear that's holding you back? Or is it also your conscience?
IDENTITY - i.e. What if there was a boyband that performed on stage every weekend, and one of the members felt really uncomfortable on stage....more so than the others...and he was constantly fighting the urge to run off the stage. Is it simply because he's a coward? Because he's less brave than the others? Or could it also be that being in a boyband just isn't this guys calling? Maybe he's been doing it just to fit in, or to please his parents, or for some other wrong reason. Maybe he just feels like a fake and that's why he wants to get off the stage....not lack of bravery. Maybe sometimes the places we find ourselves in just aren't where we're meant to be. Maybe it's not just fear. Maybe it's this feeling of being fake that makes us want to reach for the door.
PRIORITIES - i.e. sometimes it seems you can get a barrage of opportunities thrown at you to face fears, but does that mean you have to face every one, or you're a coward? I'd find being trapped down a badger hole with badger food strapped to my face pretty terrifying....but that doesn't mean I should go and try it so as to rid me of this fear....it would be a waste of time? right?....or would it?! lol! could be fun actually!....but I'm just wondering, maybe the reason we decline some opportunites isn't just because we're scared. Maybe we're going a different direction with our lives and it'd just distract us or would be a waste of time.
erm....I'm not sure....these thoughts are still little baby thoughts at the mo.....but I'd love to hear if anybody else has anything to say on the topic? am I wrong? Are ALL fears good to face? Are there more factors? Am I thinking too black and white? Is life more complex?
