may have a boyfriend

[dancingintherain]

this guy fancies me and desperate to see me a lot. I managed to talk to him and just told him I get panic attacks not social anxiety. I don't feel like dating- yet and I don't want to go out places but be alone. Today he asked me to meet him today but I avoided...
what do I do? :/

 

[twiggle]

Sounds promising!
But I guess what you do next will depend on how much you like him too?

 

[dancingintherain]

Sounds promising!
But I guess what you do next will depend on how much you like him too?

true .. He's very nice but I don't feel completely in love with him like he does. But he's very clingy and I'm very un-clingy lol - I don't know how it's supposed to work..

 

[NathanielWingateSpaghetti]

true .. He's very nice but I don't feel completely in love with him like he does. But he's very clingy and I'm very un-clingy lol - I don't know how it's supposed to work..

errr how long has he known you?

 

[dancingintherain]

errr how long has he known you?

Met every friday for 6 months

 

[NathanielWingateSpaghetti]

Met every friday for 6 months

thats creepy that this dude is very clingy not trying to burst your bubble, honestly. Just lettin' ya know.

 

[dancingintherain]

what do you mean by 'not trying to burst your bubble?' xD

 

[twiggle]

true .. He's very nice but I don't feel completely in love with him like he does. But he's very clingy and I'm very un-clingy lol - I don't know how it's supposed to work..

Very nice as in boyfriend material or friend material?
Haha sorry about the questions, but I think these are things you need to think about before you can decide what to do. You need to work out how you truly feel for him because if he likes you a lot and is the clingy sort then he'll take any suggestive step from yourself to mean like "OMG SHE LOVES ME BACK LETS MARRY TOMORROW!" and if it gets to that point, that'll be hard to step back out of without upsetting him massively.

 

[NathanielWingateSpaghetti]

what do you mean by 'not trying to burst your bubble?' xD

It means im not trying to upset you.

 

[dancingintherain]

Very nice as in boyfriend material or friend material?
Haha sorry about the questions, but I think these are things you need to think about before you can decide what to do. You need to work out how you truly feel for him because if he likes you a lot and is the clingy sort then he'll take any suggestive step from yourself to mean like "OMG SHE LOVES ME BACK LETS MARRY TOMORROW!" and if it gets to that point, that'll be hard to step back out of without upsetting him massively.

Boyfriend material. I'm not sure what I feel yet.. I need to know him longer I think. I'm 18 so I'm not into marriage and babies yet =D

 

[twiggle]

Boyfriend material. I'm not sure what I feel yet.. I need to know him longer I think. I'm 18 so I'm not into marriage and babies yet =D

I don't blame you. I'm 25 and not into marriage and babies yet either

Well then I guess if its like that then just take it as it comes, day at a time, until you become certain about whether or not you want to be with him.

There's no hurry for these things - don't feel pressured to make a decision because you don't have to.

Let it take the natural route, it's the best way

 

[dancingintherain]

It means im not trying to upset you.

ahh.. it's ok, your opinion. I find clingy creepy too ;D

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Met every friday for 6 months

This doesn't sound creepy at all to me. If you'd met him twice and he became all clingy, that would be creepy.

It sounds like he's in the initial rush of a crush/infatuation with you after slowly getting to know you and realizing he likes you. I say slowly because I'm assuming that like many of us you don't talk much, at least about yourself.

I say enjoy it! If he actually does say he wants to get married and have babies right now or something, just tell him to slow the **** down. ::

You don't want to live with the regret of a wasted opportunity. If it doesn't work out, at least you gave it a shot.

 

[dancingintherain]

I don't blame you. I'm 25 and not into marriage and babies yet either

Well then I guess if its like that then just take it as it comes, day at a time, until you become certain about whether or not you want to be with him.

There's no hurry for these things - don't feel pressured to make a decision because you don't have to.

Let it take the natural route, it's the best way

Ah thank you. Your a great help

 

[dancingintherain]

This doesn't sound creepy at all to me. If you'd met him twice and he became all clingy, that would be creepy.

It sounds like he's in the initial rush of a crush/infatuation with you after slowly getting to know you and realizing he likes you. I say slowly because I'm assuming that like many of us you don't talk much, at least about yourself.

I say enjoy it! If he actually does say he wants to get married and have babies right now or something, just tell him to slow the **** down. ::

You don't want to live with the regret of a wasted opportunity. If it doesn't work out, at least you gave it a shot.

I'll think about it. Thanks for your help

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

Boyfriend material. I'm not sure what I feel yet.. I need to know him longer I think. I'm 18 so I'm not into marriage and babies yet =D

You're 18 you shouldnt be into marriage and babies yet... lol. You arent going to feel love or try force that feeling. Gotta spend more time with him, etc. Being boyfriend/girlfriend doesnt mean you guys need to be madly in love. That comes. Or it doesnt. Then you know.

If he clings to you like a kola bear on a eucalyptus tree then... that's not good. Cute as kola bears are.

 

[NathanielWingateSpaghetti]

Well for me, it's a deal breaker if a guy became very clingy, like she mentioned. Its normal to be a little clingy, cause that shows that you want to be with them but being very clingy is unhealthy, we need our space sometimes right?

 

[Hottie]

oh SNAP haha !! sorry havnt read any of the other posts...

Im going on a date soon with someone who likes me. I dont really like him, he has a lovely personality so ive decided im not going for the good looking ones anymore coz there all arseholes!!!

Who knows what may happen

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

Well for me, it's a deal breaker if a guy became very clingy, like she mentioned. Its normal to be a little clingy, cause that shows that you want to be with them but being very clingy is unhealthy, we need our space sometimes right?

No space! Must be together 24/7 and your boyfriend must cling to your waist at all times.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I think that if you're used to no company, no relationship, and so on, anyone with a crush might feel clingy because you're not used to it. It's all relative.