Razzlecherry
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Yes, exactly how I feel.
Low self esteem
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Yes, exactly how I feel.
Felgen
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I've found out that there are two parts when breaking free from the vicious cycle that is social anxiety / low self-esteem and they're remarkably similar to getting results in the gym.
There's a theoretical part and there's a practical part and both are dependent on each other. The theoretical part (this is important if you have Asperger's, NLD, PDD-NOS or any disorder that impairs your social skills) consists of learning the required social skills, ways to cover your low self-esteem, and so on; the practical part is simply gradually forcing yourself to leave your comfort zone, to target your weak spots and to repair them.
One part without the other may not yield the desired results; just reading online guides and books on social interaction will get you nowhere unless you leave your comfort zone. Likewise, just forcing yourself out of your comfort zone without knowing what to do may not yield the desired results either.
There's a theoretical part and there's a practical part and both are dependent on each other. The theoretical part (this is important if you have Asperger's, NLD, PDD-NOS or any disorder that impairs your social skills) consists of learning the required social skills, ways to cover your low self-esteem, and so on; the practical part is simply gradually forcing yourself to leave your comfort zone, to target your weak spots and to repair them.
One part without the other may not yield the desired results; just reading online guides and books on social interaction will get you nowhere unless you leave your comfort zone. Likewise, just forcing yourself out of your comfort zone without knowing what to do may not yield the desired results either.
megalon
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I feel exactly the same. My anxiety extends into the virtual world just as much as the real world. Even in video games where I'm completely anonymous. I can't think of a single time I have approached anyone with the goal of getting to know them in real life or online.
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lonelee1
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Thank you, ive read some of your posts and I can relate quite a bit
You do have a nice smile in ur pic
CZi
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Oh hai there fellow low self-esteem peoples!
Yeah, I have low self-esteem and outright dislike myself. I dislike how I look, I dislike how I suck at socializing/small talk and I dislike how I don't fit into the aggressive confident flirty role guys are expected to partake. I'm way too laid back and shy...oh and there's the anxiety and self-consciousness too. Hahaha!
Yeah, that's what I/others like to call the "fake it till ya' make it" approach. It definitely has some merit!
Yeah, I have low self-esteem and outright dislike myself. I dislike how I look, I dislike how I suck at socializing/small talk and I dislike how I don't fit into the aggressive confident flirty role guys are expected to partake. I'm way too laid back and shy...oh and there's the anxiety and self-consciousness too. Hahaha!
Yeah, that's what I/others like to call the "fake it till ya' make it" approach. It definitely has some merit!